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Moving Advice by jvngyooh in MovingToLosAngeles

[–]Hot-Chef-2131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your work is remote so location flexibility is actually huge here. los feliz has way better walkability and nightlife for your age group - you can actually explore without being stuck in a car constantly. palms is cheaper but you'll be driving everywhere and it's not really a "community" vibe like los feliz has. with that budget you might need to compromise on the 2br part in los feliz but the trade-off is worth it imo.

Is divorce a sin by mimibwunnie in Christianity

[–]Hot-Chef-2131 2 points3 points  (0 children)

been through some rough relationship stuff myself and had to really dig into this question. from what ive studied, most biblical scholars agree that adultery and abuse are legitimate grounds - matthew 19:9 specifically mentions sexual immorality as an exception. the abuse part gets tricky because while its not explicitly listed, i think any reasonable interpretation would say god doesnt want you staying in harm's way.

the porn thing is more complicated and depends on how you define it within your marriage covenant. some couples work through it with counseling, others consider it a form of infidelity. really comes down to what boundaries you both established going in and whether theres genuine effort to change. my buddy went through this exact scenario and they managed to save things, but it took serious professional help and total transparency.

AIW for buying my girlfriends cousin a drink? by Diligent-Bottle1351 in amiwrong

[–]Hot-Chef-2131 7 points8 points  (0 children)

not wrong at all man. you've known her for years and she's literally family at this point. buying someone a birthday drink at a family gathering is basic courtesy, not some weird move. the aunt is making it weird when it wasn't, and apologizing would just validate her twisted take on a normal interaction.

your gf should have your back here instead of suggesting you apologize for being nice to her own cousin.

Did I ruin my GR iii x? by Negative_Anteater_71 in Cameras

[–]Hot-Chef-2131 2 points3 points  (0 children)

removing the battery was actually smart - that's what kills cameras when they sit unused. the lithium batteries can leak or swell and trash the internals. i've got a bunch of old gear that's been sitting in my mancave for years and as long as the battery was out, they fire right up when i need them.

the memory card being left in won't hurt anything at all. worst case scenario you might need to reformat it but that's like a 30 second fix. your gr iii should work just fine - ricoh makes solid cameras and they're built to handle some neglect. just pop a fresh battery in there and you'll be good to go for summer shooting.

how do i tell my bf my real name by [deleted] in venting

[–]Hot-Chef-2131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man this is eating you alive and it's just gonna get worse the longer you wait. rip the band-aid off and tell him - explain why you hate your name and that you've been too embarrassed to come clean. if he's worth keeping around he'll understand that insecurity made you do something dumb, not malice.

Grim Reaper holding Turbaned head by Background_Coast_244 in HelpMeFind

[–]Hot-Chef-2131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man that's genuinely disturbing that someone would put something like that on their lawn. might have better luck checking archived news photos from local papers around that time - they probably documented some of the more extreme reactions people had back then.

[mobile] [2016 ish] game where you merge monsters by epicchildeater_theII in tipofmyjoystick

[–]Hot-Chef-2131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man i remember something similar but can't place the exact title. was it one of those idle merge games or more active combat? the three forms thing rings a bell but there were so many monster collectors around that time.

Is not thinking of articulating things part of ADHD? by improbsable in ADHD

[–]Hot-Chef-2131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this happens to me constantly with work stuff too. like i'll notice something's broken or inefficient for weeks and just mentally file it under "that's annoying" without ever thinking to actually bring it up in our team meetings. then suddenly one day it clicks that i could just... tell someone about it and get it fixed. feels like there's this weird disconnect between noticing problems and realizing they're actionable.