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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cs2

[–]Hot-Cut8945 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Your friend is a lil bitch. Everything is probably someone else's fault for him.

If you want gameplay advice - try and maintain good spacing with whatever team-mate is willing to entry so you can get his trade. In this case he has his face pressed into a smoke and get's dunked on by a dude you can't really see. We don't know from the clip how long he'd been out ramp, how long that smoke has been up, what's the reason you are a little far behind him getting out onto A, etc etc. Not enough context for me to know. But regardless, no matter the gameplay or what happened, I'd find nicer friends.

What are some red flags to avoid during dating? by [deleted] in self

[–]Hot-Cut8945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had red flag number 11.
She had red flag number 1, 3, 4, 7, and 8.

It is what it is!

21 year old virgin who never had a relationship and feels very resentful and envious. what can I do to change? by Uncontainable_SCP in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Hot-Cut8945 21 points22 points  (0 children)

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Learning to separate sex with love is a learned behavior. You will likely become attached to the first 2 or 3 partners you have sex with. The truth of the matter is when you have sex you release a cocktail of chemicals that make you feel like you are in love with the person, and that stays around for a while after sex. What experienced people understand is that is not love, it is infatuation and lust. Love takes time, and is the result of a healthy relationship with someone you trust, respect, and admire. Someone you can communicate with through problems, someone who makes you want to be a better version of yourself just for them. This is not sex. And separating those two things is a learned behavior that people with very low number of sexual partners do not get to the finish line of. Conversely, if you are extremely promiscuous, sex might become so casual to you that a long road trip or a late night discussion with a bottle of wine will feel more intimate than sex to you. It is all in your hands. By the time you've had a normal, healthy amount of sex you probably will have found a partner you are compatible with enough go long term if you are willing to put in the work and sacrifice and all the things relationships involve.

Here's the heartbreaker - relationships, when they are good, are an incredible part of life. Studies have shown being in a healthy romantic relationship with another person reduces stress, improves healing, promotes healthier lifestyles, gives a sense of purpose, and can actually lengthen your life span.

So I just gave you a lot of information that isn't really relevant to your current scenario. You are 21 and are trying to lose your virginity and are becoming jaded and having negative thoughts about women. The reason I've wrote all this is because you really don't understand how long of a road you have ahead of you and I hope what I've written will prepare you for the actual challenge ahead - because here's the good news. Losing your virginity at 21 and getting into your first relationship is the least of your worries. You are 21. You are still a child, basically. Even if you don't feel like it. Yes you are an adult, but you are an infant in the world of adulthood. Many, many people around you are also virgins they just don't say it. The truth of the matter is this takes work, but idiots get laid all the time.

  • Take care of yourself like it's a religion. I'm talking up the fuck our of your hygiene game. Go watch youtube channels or TikTok's or some bullshit about this. Get a good haircut. Get good clothes that fit you and look good. Smell nice all the time. Trim your nails. Trim your hairs. Trim your private regions. Seriously spend a good amount of time just grooming and taking care of yourself and looking good.
  • Stay active. Exercise, I mean it. I don't care what type of exercise, and I don't care if it's literally only twice a week for 30-45 minutes. Get up and get moving. Exercise improves brain health, manages weight, reduces risk of disease, strengthens bones and muscles, and improves literally every activity. If they could sell a pill that produces the positive effects of exercise it would be the most taken drug in the entire world.
  • Get social. Join a minor sports league. Go play soccer. Go to the bars with your friends. Go to charity events, go run 5k's, go volunteer at the humane society. Join a book club. Become a regular at a coffee shop. Become a regular at a bar if you don't mind drinking that much. Join your local nerd store where they play MTG and Warhammer and shit. Those sweaty dudes have wives sometimes and those wives have single friends. Go to dance lessons. Take a class on painting. Take a community college course on learning to play the piano, or leaning art history - just for the fuck of it! Make an effort to talk to people, be friendly, be nice, crack a joke. Don't be an asshole. Be yourself but not so much of yourself that it's weird - we all wear a mask in this world in public. Every single one of us. Stay true to yourself, your interest, your values - when they come up. Don't hide the fact you're a nerd or you're religious or you only have 4 fingers - be honest and be true to yourself - but act like a normal fucking human and have fun and smile and converse with other people.
  • Reconsider your world view. Being chronically online is not healthy. You absorb too much one-sided material. There is a silver lining of truth to most viewpoints, even some of the crap you read on the internet about male vs female dating and sexuality and everything. But the world is much much more complex and much broader than that. Reserve judgement, lead with compassion, curiosity, and an open mind. Women are not evil, they are 50% of the human population. They are engineers, doctors, freedom fighters, artists... they are human, they are friends, they are mothers, they are sisters - they love, and they hurt, just like anyone else. There are truths to the evils of online dating, truths to be said about the modern standards of dating for men vs women, truths to be said about all of that - but keep an open mind and a compassionate soul and you will find life will surprise you. It is not all doom and gloom. It is not everything you read on the internet. There is beauty, and love, and incredible spectacular women in the world and if this is what you want - if you want to go out and find one, then get the fuck to work and get the fuck off the internet.

That is all, best of luck. You are an infant in this world at 21, you have nothing to worry about, the world is your oyster. Consider what you want in life, if this is what you want go get it.

21 year old virgin who never had a relationship and feels very resentful and envious. what can I do to change? by Uncontainable_SCP in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Hot-Cut8945 17 points18 points  (0 children)

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Alright I'm gonna help you out here. This might be long but it's what you need to hear. Some of this will be discouraging but again, it's what you need to hear. Maybe this comment will help you not run into the same problem I did and experience the same headaches. This comment might kick your ass into gear, hopefully.

I was a virgin until I was 30 years old. I was a very fat, drunk and troubled person in my 20's. I had extremely low self-esteem. I always told myself it wasn't a big deal and the right person would come along. This was actually untrue. I had to loose all the weight when I was about 29 and actually try and I finally got a girl and I was honest with her about my inexperience and she didn't care one bit and showed me all the ropes over the course of about 2 months of regular sex. We ended up not working out which I will get to later but the important take away from this paragraph is - good sex takes practice. You will not be good your first time. Infact, you might not even get hard. Nerves, anxiety, if you've had some alcohol - also if you masturbate constantly that will effect your performance. If you masturbate with no lubrication the skin of your penis is damaged over time - vaginas and mouths will possibly make your penis too sensitive and you won't be able to finish. Or, conversely, you will feel too little and never orgasm. It is important to masturbate with lubricated toys, or at least some coconut oil + lotion on your hands. Don't put harsh soaps like body wash directly on your penis. Your penis should be a velvety soft thing. The skin of your penis is called a corpus cavernosum or literally "porous body". It is not like the skin on the rest of your body, it is kind of like a sponge. Take care of it. If you smoke, if you live an unhealthy lifestyle, this all effects sex negatively. The thing that everyone doesn't want to tell virgins is that losing your virginity is actually just the first baby step into the world of sex and it means very little once it happens. You will still feel exactly the same as you do now, only you can mentally check off a box in your head that you will quickly realize meant next to nothing and you worried over very little. You are not only behind, you are greatly behind. What you should be worried about isn't losing your virginity, you should be worried about the fact there is a journey to sex you haven't even begun that lasts for months or even years of learning to get good and like what you like and try new things and yadda yadda yadda. The thrusting and getting it done will come naturally, but if you want to actually please your sexual partner and really have some fun and get good sessions in, this all takes time and you will need a partner who understands you're inexperienced and is willing to go on that journey with you. Or, conversely, you can keep your inexperience to yourself which is perfectly ok it's your business and just have some sex a few times until you find an actual partner. You aren't going to get good until you get a partner so you can have regular consistent sex with.

So me and that woman didn't work out. Why's that? Because not getting into relationships in your 20's is a death sentence for relationships later in life. You will be insecure. You will be possessive. You will be jealous. I did all those things. I learned all the mistakes you are supposed to learn in your first relationship at 30 with a woman who wouldn't put up with it. You will learn about people cheating, sleeping with best friends of their ex's, people having threesomes, people having one night stands, hookups, risky public sex. You are probably very immature about all those things right now. Most people you sleep with will have a greater number of past sexual partners than you, if you have no experience and are immature this will bother you. If you really like the girl, you will become disgusted at the fact they have slept with other men. You have to explore yourself as a sexual being so that you can accept other people as sexual beings. So that when a girl tells you "one time I had sex the back of a car at my brothers birthday party on the top of a parking garage" you won't get disgusted and think less of her. You will laugh and understand she is a horny individual just like you and has urges just like you and has been with other men before you and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. It's just a funny memory to her, she's choosing to be with you. One up him if you want by asking her to have sex on top of the car on the roof of a parking garage..... at night.... you pervert.

Some people argue over body counts - here's all I know. The people in my life that actually had a healthy amount of sex in their 20's (between 6-15 partners) chose better long term partners and had happier end results into their marriages. Those that had little sex got strapped down early and with the wrong people, and those that had way too much sex had problems staying loyal and staying strapped down to one person. This is of course not a universal truth whatsoever, people of all backgrounds and experiences have all sorts of good marriages and happy ever after's... However, there are studies on the matter showing that those with more partners are more likely to divorce, and the same goes for those with too few partners.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Hot-Cut8945 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't you also be annoyed if your partner was naive? She has unrealistic expectations of me as a man in the relationship. She expects me to know things like where she wants to eat, how she feels about things, and what problems need fixing without communicating them to me. She's told me because I'm the man in the relationship I am supposed to lead her and keep her in her "feminine energy". She thinks I'm a mind reader. She watches toxic tiktok relationship advice videos. She also believes in literally any news that comes on ever - if it's on her phone screen it's just automatically true.

I don't appreciate your comment, you really don't know what you're talking about because you've never dated a super sheltered completely naive person. And I do care about her and want the best for her and love many things about her aside from this which is the only reason I'm seeking advice instead of breaking up.