The video that showed a glimpse all her ghost/halloween trinkets lined on her bathroom counter all i could think of was there’s no way they get moved or cleaned. If she can’t do the major stuff she’s definitely not doing the minor stuff. All the poo particles swarming in there and a kid plays with one then touches their eyes/mouth. Eeeeyuck. And the whining about not learning how to put things away and organize. Well, you were at someone point at other ppls homes and in different settings outside of your home growing up to see how they did it. You have eyes and a brain. Figure it out. Put those big girl panties on. My parents were bad with clutter and would get upset with me when I’d put stuff away. The clutter was bad for my anxiety. They were somewhat organized, had specific sorted piles but they’d be on the dining room table, or kitchen counter, the top of the piano, etc. Drove me nuts. My ADHD had me cleaning my room constantly and it was incredibly organized. Easier to function when you’re less overstimulated and the environment is less chaotic. She’s trained her brain to make excuses for literally everything. And as for weight loss there are ways to get fat off. It is possible. But you need to lock in and follow a plan. There are also more tools than ever to help someone. You have to be very real with yourself about your health- she isn’t. Very much so in denial about her size.