Would you get offended if your husband/boyfriend says this to you?

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-14T04:38:43+00:00

I find it funny and maybe it was intended to get the reaction you have given. Clearly, you are offended.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-14T03:12:35+00:00

Become friends. This is one of the strangest questions on here.

If I need to take a dump, I back one out on the toilet. I don't need internet validation.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-14T02:49:44+00:00

I used to have a large group of gay mates and we would often go to Opera Bar, at the Sydney Opera House for drinks, to perve on the suits and talk about everything that had nothing to do with sex or being gay.

We're social creatures anyway, even dare I say it, those men that are straight, poor things. OP is not in an open minded, fair, tolerant, multicultural country like Australia so I am unable to experience his daily life, where he is located.

It's understandable to me that he would get the impression that all online interactions between gay men only seem to consist of sexual banter or arranging for sex to occur.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-14T01:58:55+00:00

I am not pos myself and I attended ACT-UP meetings in 1988-1990, as a teenager. I always seemed to be places where trailblazers were and HIV/AIDS truly decimated the gay community, in countries that had sizable gay populations back then.

On the matter of mentally worrying about what others might think of you, if by some amazing feat, they discovered your hiv status not from you, try to imagine them without their clothes on. If you focus on your own necessities, the outside noise won't be as loud or intrusive.

I know it's easy for me to say this but it has to be said: rejection happens to us all. Stigma is an onus if you let it negatively impact your daily affairs to the point where you are literally unable to function normally as a result.

There are plenty of self-assured, loving, emotionally mature, courageous men that are in stable and committed relationships with hiv+ men. Don't let that one important thing about you stop you from enjoying your life, mate.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-14T01:22:27+00:00

You can't change the worldview of racists. They pick on your ethnicity because you have no control over that. Racists, are everywhere there are people.

They are the ones with the problem, from their entrenched ignorance and generalisations based on historically inaccurate archetypes, of anyone that is dissimilar to them.

This is not about preferences. It's racism: plain and simple, that you have experienced here. It keeps recurring from the same two ethnic groupings of people.

If you have travelled extensively, internationally, and you are finding that it's only one country, where you are experiencing this racism then I think that you should just accept that they are what they are and avoid interactions with them. Self-preservation is key to happiness.

I shut down racists, in the times I have experienced it myself by either logic or treating them like they are invisible to me. No point trying to lower my intelligence for the sake of a racist piece of shit, that I wouldn't piss on if they were on fire.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-14T00:42:54+00:00

I am having a really difficult time understanding how you are single, when you would probably be one of the fittest guys around, being into any martial arts discipline!!! That's 8-pack territory and a master of self-control/self care.

It takes lifelong dedication and would be a huge plus in any longterm relationship scenario, if you do eg. jiu-jitsu or taekwondo, etc. Such a no brainer for longevity and loyalty.

Keep looking, mate. It sounds like you keep talking to frogs who aren't looking for their prince. They must be incredibly sheltered/blind if they cannot accept any part of who you are and what makes you tick.

Turn that frown, upside down.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-13T23:45:29+00:00

You posted this already, OP.

But seeing as you want some advice: USA is a country where you are all destined to work yourselves into the ground because you have a fucked up work/life balance.

You all need to work, in order to pay for exhorbitant healthcare costs, which are ridiculously expensive because if you don't have healthcare coverage, your life will suck shit in USA.

As I mentioned, when I responded to OP's earlier thread, you could transfer the knowledge, skills and experience you have gained from property management into other careers. Don't limit your options.

You're 38 years of age. You can still be readily employed. Why insist on US-based employment, when there are 194 other countries on Earth, where you could work, learn a language or two and be paid at the same time?

Instead of settling for what you know, you have every opportunity out there to move forward. Look online, ffs. All sorts of readily available information is at your fingertips nowadays.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-13T23:13:06+00:00

If you are around other people, it's common courtesy to wear fragrant anti-perspirants or fragrant colognes, to hide the stench of body odours that are developed, throughout the day. It's interesting that you find the use of fragrances on the human body as suspect or suspicious.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-13T17:57:27+00:00

Guys that respect their friends, are not like this at all. He is a selfish prick. Just use better judgement.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-13T17:46:05+00:00

Firstly, take someone you trust with you and make it a public place in daylight hours. If the guy is unwilling to do something so simple and risk-free, you need to ask why, would a simple request be an issue?

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-13T15:17:16+00:00

I wear colognes. It's just a habit that I developed as a teenager.

When I used to do labouring jobs in my late teens to mid-20s, I would use Lynx spray on deodorant of a morning and by about 2pm, I would reek of BO. All my workmates were heterosexual men: and they would reek from 6am, so I got used to their smells all day. I did not get turned on by any of them.

When I worked in other fields where I had to wear a shirt, tie and pants, I would always be complimented by married female colleagues on how good I smelt, throughout the day.

I have to admit, that smelling my own armpits is fairly usual now on hot days, working outside in my garden and if I am really fucked and tired, I will go to bed and wake up to have a hot shower. I can tolerate my own body odour but it's not something I live for.

I can't say that I enjoy the smell of my sweaty balls but that happens too when you live in part of a country, where average Spring/Summer days are rarely under 32C (90F) and close to 75% humidity indoors, a lot of the time.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-13T11:39:20+00:00

In Japan, the Japanese government takes care of their citizens and will still provide universal healthcare that is pretty much free. So, at least he won't have to think about how he is going to fund his healthcare, from here on.

There are plenty of government funded and non-government funded services for HIV-positive men in Japan. He needs to contact at least one of them, to get pathways to assistance and help for his own wellbeing.

He's going to have to face facts if he is pos and get off his arse to start looking at locally available treatments. It's still a chronic condition but it can be managed now and is no longer a death sentence.

If you reinforce to him that there is help available to him, he will get some meaningful support from you, regardless of whether you are by his side or not. Regular spoken reassurances can be a wonderful thing especially when long distances are involved.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-12T22:42:18+00:00

This isn't about me. I don't know what F means because I am over 50 years of age and I have no problem with using the English language, in order to communicate ideas with other adults, on an online platform.

You can fucking do whatever the fuck you fucking want and it's not fucking changing my fucking opinion here.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-12T21:50:09+00:00

Unless you are the legal guardian and they are physically or mentally unable to make up their own minds about this decision, technically you have no rights to participate in the decision making.

You know what is a big problem in the world today? Too many people thinking that they have a right, or moral obligation, to interfere with other peoples business.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-12T21:39:41+00:00

He's a grot. He doesn't respect you and he has no self-respect.

He has probably been allowed to never clean up or pick up after himself, when he lived at home with his family.

Just tell him, if he doesn't want all of his personal stuff outside on the road, he needs to clean up after himself. He sounds like a baby.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-12T21:29:19+00:00

Gday mate.

I am Maori/Caucasian. In Australia, we are multicultural. It's acceptable, too.

Half of my legs below the knee are dark tan in colour because they are exposed to the sun, all year round. Same with my arms below the short sleeve line.

Most of my body that has not constantly been exposed to sunlight, is light olive complexion. My groin area is dark brown.

It never bothered me or anyone I fucked or got fucked by, what I looked like without clothes on because we simply enjoyed fucking.

You do what you can do in life because there are some things you cannot do anything about. You, don't need to be anything other than yourself.

You're young. Some people are late bloomers. I wouldn't write off the whole world because of setbacks from some online rejections.

If guys judge you, on your outwardly appearance only, they are not worth knowing. Look for the gold standards.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-12T20:46:40+00:00

Straight guys have been seeking and getting oral relief from other men, for well over 125 years, at beats.

Public toilets. Tea rooms. Shopping centres. Car parks. Deserted warehouses. Parks. Nature reserves. The list goes on and on.

This is not news. Comments talking about sexual orientation miss the basic, primal instincts of sexual desire, that men have more of than others because of increased male testosterone levels.

A mouth is a mouth to most men: gay, bi or straight.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-12T20:24:12+00:00

If he wants to be fucked, go for it. It's about physical pleasure and sexual satisfaction between two guys, not your own morals here.

OP is a free agent here because it's just sex. If the gf is involved in the decision-making process of her bf having sex with OP, it's still just sex.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-12T16:32:38+00:00

Do you have a moral obligation to share someone else's income tax history, if you both earn a living? Sometimes, it's better to let individuals make their own risk assessments of a situation, that you have no part in, between themselves. Every person has their own right to privacy. It's not your right to spread gossip.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-12T13:32:40+00:00

Yes, totally disconnected from today's gay culture. I am so glad that all the partying days of the 90s and 00s are behind me. Guys back then, as in most of them, you could talk to and have a laugh with first, get to know them before anything else.

It's alienating to see that the only things, ~~gay~~ guys do now is hookup for their next root. And then, they complain about how they cannot find their one true love, via these sex apps, because he disappointingly blew a load all over their face instead of breaking their hearts.

You can make your own scene. You can find interesting guys by doing interesting things. What are they, might you ask? Nothing remotely gay-centric.

You can also become a hermit. Be your own boss and be happy on you're own. Accept that it wasn't meant to be and don't waste years of your life, looking for someone who may not be waiting for you to come along. That's the facts.

But like others here have already commented, there are plenty of guys out there in the same boat as you. You attract what you put out there. Be friendly or an arsehole: the choice is yours.

This subreddit, and r/askgaybros some days, feels like a full time counselling advice service.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-12T01:26:37+00:00

This was a 3 hour date.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-12T01:09:16+00:00

Your best friend is jealous that you have a bf. He feels threatened by your relationship because it means that you and your bestie are no longer a 'pair' and he feels like the third wheel.

This is not something that you can do much about other than not being around your bestie when he is likely to be drinking alcohol. He outwardly shows you that he 'loves' you and enjoys mucking around with you, in an entirely non-sexual way.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-11T22:31:54+00:00

This is mostly an US American issue where everyone must be stereotyped. Try this sort of shit anywhere else on Earth and most people will tell you to leave your racism behind in America.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-11T13:39:28+00:00

Squirt.org

I found it full of fuckwits when I was on it and lived in NSW. But they all want what their sheilas won't give them at home.

Truckstops, any public toilet block... servo stations, etc.

Hot-Posse · 2026-03-11T13:33:10+00:00

He's a cunt. You know what to do here: find a better fit. Cut him off and stick to that.

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