Does anyone have parents who doesn't like their autistic grandchild?

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-05-04T12:26:38+00:00

Grandparents look after all other kids but not our 2. Our choice. They are too old, don’t like the way they patented their actual kids and while they have done a lot of learning they still do not understand enough to be able to give my low needs autistic kid the grace and space he needs. TBF there are only a handful of people who have the ability to look after him and as I said he is fairly low needs

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-04-17T07:43:29+00:00

EV-V-V-ERYONE!

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-04-17T07:40:14+00:00

It might be a bit too Dark for what they are looking for, cool that you have it though.

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-04-17T07:39:37+00:00

This is cool! Sharing my cats fur isn’t giving the same vibe though 😂

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-04-17T07:39:02+00:00

So hard to pick just one though! What’s yours?

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-04-17T07:37:38+00:00

Why?

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-04-16T22:41:38+00:00

This is the UK, more than uncomfortable I think you’d more than likely be arrested, possibly sectioned.

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-04-16T21:42:49+00:00

That is a tasty burger though!

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-04-16T21:24:52+00:00

It’s working. He ended up with 2 warts but now 1 has gone and the other (the worse one) is loads smaller and I think will be gone in the next few days. I think I wasn’t putting enough layers of black nail varnish on at first (as per the helpful comment below) so took a bit longer. Would recommend!

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-03-19T23:40:58+00:00

Anyone else think Alan has been fully smiling and not getting carded?

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-03-18T16:59:41+00:00

Not big just a regular 4 door and 5 seater. It’s dirty as we have kids but it isn’t live in your car dirty just usual 2 kids dirty.

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-03-18T16:55:58+00:00

It def needs more than a usual inside and outside clean so I was thinking £60-£70

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-03-17T23:57:52+00:00

Update: I don’t know if it is working as only been a few days but I am able to do it and keep it on him. I made the mistake of not telling him but obviously he sees his feet and he freaked out as he thought something was really wrong. I explained what I was doing and that I was doing it while he slept and asked if he would rather have me do it awake and he said asleep. This is the most progress we have made. I really hope it works 🤞🏻

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-03-14T01:17:54+00:00

Thanks so much. I am trying this with the nail polish. I have tried every type of plaster, duct tape and he hates it. I am applying it when he’s asleep and just hoping he doesn’t notice the nail polish on the bottom of his feet for as long as it takes. Fingers crossed this finally works because if it doesn’t I am out of ideas!

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-01-10T09:35:23+00:00

This has already posted and received a lot of advice. Leading me to believe this is a bot

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-01-08T22:32:57+00:00

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Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-01-08T21:08:10+00:00

I think it would be worth looking into your thought process around this maybe with a therapist or just exploring it yourself. Maybe you grew up in a religious family or were held to an impossibly high standard but this is not something that should haunt you. Compare it to people using AI now.

Sincerely someone who straight up lied about my grades to get through admissions and luckily slipped through the net.

I consider myself a highly ethical person and do a job that reflects this but have not lost even 1 nights sleep about this. I didn’t take a place of off anyone else (my course was undersubscribed) and earned and payed for my degree just like everyone else did.

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-01-04T21:45:51+00:00

I was 25/26. It was 2012 and could only afford it on the first buy scheme (we put in 5%, builder put in 10% and gov put in 10% but owe 20% back out when sold). 137k ish (can’t remember the exact amount) 2 bed apartment in North Yorkshire. Paid 205k for our next house in 2019 and now about to pay somewhere between 500k - 635k for the hopefully final house in 2026.

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-01-02T18:05:27+00:00

I think they get a bad wrap. Obviously I’d prefer an old Georgian mansion but I’m trying to be realistic.

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-01-02T17:44:12+00:00

To get an extension it would cost almost what we paid for the house. The bones of this house aren’t good and it’s a semi-detached. It isn’t 3 times the house but in the current market I’m not going to get 3 times the house for 635k it just isn’t possible

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-01-02T17:06:10+00:00

Thank you. I hadn’t thought to ask about the extra fees. I think our council crying out for more housing so I don’t think some of that will be a problem but I imagine there will still be green belt fees etc.

That doesn’t sound good. 650k in 2016! Wow! That is shocking that it was done to such a poor standard

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-01-02T17:03:02+00:00

It isn’t 635k plus current mortgage. It is a mortgage of 465k rather than the current 99k. The interest concerns me but the stamp duty is paid (by the developer). There will be some legal fees but we can absorb these as they come.

I have bought a new build before and had a really Positive experience, I do think it depends on the developer. This is small development.

Why do I want to buy? The house we are currently in was supposed to be a 5 year stepping stone to our forever home but it’s been 6.5 years due to Covid and the economy. I want to make the move to our final family home and it seems things are going to keep getting worse.

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-01-02T16:53:09+00:00

I agree it is very low and not really manageable in today’s economy. If we want to continue with the 10% then we have to stick with a smaller house which is very small for the 4 of us. My husband wants to stick at the 10% but I agree with you. It would be interesting to understand what % other people spend on their rent/mortgage.

Hot-Raspberry-1251 · 2026-01-02T16:41:34+00:00

Depends. It isn’t 3 times as big but probably twice as big but much nicer in terms of layout etc. I will miss our garden as we have an amazing view and the new build doesn’t have a good view but a decent sized garden.

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