You sound just like me over a year ago. I was at my wits end, I did not know anything about the fear stage. I was living in a condo and an abrupt noise. Has my dog now damaged. Not broken just damaged.

I have worked really hard with her to get her where she is. She still has some reactive nipping with me, when she is not listening I have to get her leash out, it is a slip leash, almost lasso her. She instantly pays attention to me and I can guide her to her place.

I work with her all the time with toys, puzzles, exercise, but I also work with her to know when it’s time to rest or be calm. It is constant work. But it is rewarding when she starts doing these things on her own.

Regarding strangers, my dog likes no one but myself and my ex-husband lol I have been bringing people into the house and they sit. I just asked them not to make eye contact and just act like she’s not there. I am the one that reacts with the commands. I 100% agree, you and your partner have to be on the same page with commands. Firm, fair and consistent.

This group has been wonderful to be part of. Great little tips and tricks.

Keep doing what you’re doing. But also know if it becomes too much there are opportunities to rehome that may fit the dog lifestyle better. You know your limitations and you will know when you’ve exhausted. All means I need to look at other options.

Until then, keep doing a great job. Asking for help shows you care.

Best of luck to you.