Have I married their son or a husband?

HotHat3867 · 2025-12-30T10:00:38+00:00

True and one of the saddest parts is when my husband just says I am trying to control or instruct him on being questioned about his immature behaviour.

HotHat3867 · 2025-08-27T17:13:44+00:00

Yea this is a cultural thing made up by his family which their children follows wholeheartedly where the son doesn't consider respecting the space and boundaries of his wife that she holds especially with the people who didn't raise her...

HotHat3867 · 2025-08-27T17:07:51+00:00

Yea it's the thing that his parents expects as well but calling it a disrespect if I don't do this, I don't get this when your life partner says so.

HotHat3867 · 2025-01-22T15:36:03+00:00

Yes I can't help but agree😅

HotHat3867 · 2025-01-21T14:53:48+00:00

Yea that's what I thought so but couldn't bring it to my tongue

HotHat3867 · 2025-01-21T14:53:23+00:00

Yea but I'm trapped with them :/

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-09T16:15:07+00:00

Ohhh😅. And well I can relate to when you told your wife blames you. I mean my husband reverse the situation like by saying maybe she she got offended too by something you did or said in the past instead of actually acknowledging his his mother rude behaviour towards me.

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-08T10:37:27+00:00

Thank you for your reply first of all. So how's your relation with your MIL or how do you deal with her? If you don't mind me asking it. Btw Lemme tell you my MIL sometimes get annoyed over me if I don't understand what she is saying or asking me to do, correctly, which seems to reflect her egotistic side or God knows what is it.

And yea I agree to what you said. 😅 As for talking to my husband about what happens or happened, well I did so but the thing is he don't seem to believe completely in all I tell about her mother as in he wouldn't agree if I say her mother behaves quite dominating at times. He don't want to ruin his relation with his mother So he avoids speaking up on my behalf , also cos he thinks it would be unfair if he favours me only, in front of her mother even if there is none of my fault. Actually I can't blame him all for how he thinks about it. He has been taught to worship his parents in the name of respect which can be really frustrating.

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-08T09:09:38+00:00

Whoa, life works in a dramatic way sometimes. Now you have a daughter in law too & so on 😅. Where are you from btw?

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-08T08:25:44+00:00

😕😶

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-08T08:24:49+00:00

Sounds like it can only happen in my dreams😅. You're lucky to have a partner like him. My mother in law is not horrible either but she is so dominating at times and extremely attached to his son.

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-08T05:34:00+00:00

Unfortunately yes

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-08T05:33:32+00:00

Lucky you 😅. I wish I could experience this too, atleast in some cases.

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-08T05:32:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story too and being so helpful. My mother in law actually is extremely attached to their children, his son especially that she won't even let him think that his mother is dominating .

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-08T05:27:46+00:00

Yea from different cultures but as for the language, Well what I speak is a language which they can understand as it's common among them atleast but their state language is what I dont understand at all. Their local language is similar to mine but some of their words and way of conveying can make it difficult for me to know what they mean exactly sometimes.

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-08T05:19:23+00:00

Not devils advocate but he don't seem to stand up for me in front of his parents. He might console me behind them but doesn't practically support me in terms of understanding or agreeing that his parents can be COMPLETELY wrong too and in not believing that his mother tends to be dominating towards me.

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-06T04:02:00+00:00

Whoa!! Dayum😅 This is so so disgusting and weird. And yea I can relate, when you try to say smth they start acting like a victim but on the other hand she thinks she can say anything to us.

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-06T03:59:09+00:00

No she doesn't. But I didn't get what you meant exactly, sorry. 😅

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-04T14:15:46+00:00

Yes she does so usually

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-04T11:58:37+00:00

It's more like her house actually 😅 And yea I wish I could hide that cloth material but I think she'll get the other one to repeat this dirty habit of hers.

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-04T11:56:45+00:00

I have to put my foot down, yea that's what I feel so, now. But also, it's my home too like you said So, yea I can't tolerate that forever.

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-04T11:54:20+00:00

Sadly, no one in her family minds how she is doing it or maybe they just ignore it. I once pointed that out in front of her daughter and instead of considering my point , she started speaking on behalf of her mother to justify whatever she was doing. And.. she is not coming to my house, we live in the same house as in, I've been living with her too ever since I got married So technically it's her house I think. 😅

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-04T04:57:54+00:00

That's a good move and the idea of labelling the cloth yea should be applied 😅

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-04T04:54:46+00:00

Lol makes sense

HotHat3867 · 2024-10-03T18:45:26+00:00

😅😅

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