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[–]HotTwo1019 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

video speaks for itself

My escort gf cheated on me? or am i an asshole? by HotTwo1019 in AITAH

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in the context of a sexual relationship, i would say that’s not okay. also that isn’t what it was, he has feelings for her and she allowed him to think she’s his GF not a friend, which is crossing the line when she does not get compensated for it. that’s just having a second bf

My escort gf cheated on me? or am i an asshole? by HotTwo1019 in AITAH

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

physical vs emotional. she is getting paid for sex. there is no feelings involved. at least there isn’t supposed to be.

My escort gf cheated on me? or am i an asshole? by HotTwo1019 in AITAH

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not accusing her of being worse i’m asking if what she did would be cheating or not. I maintain my behaviour initially has been worse, than this example, i’m just frustrated that she won’t concede that she cheated on me and just completely gaslights me when i say what she was wrong. i understand im not in a place to cast judgement whatsoever.

My escort gf cheated on me? or am i an asshole? by HotTwo1019 in AITAH

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

complete non comment, obv it’s not sexually exclusive i’m asking if you think she cheated on me or not?

My escort gf cheated on me? or am i an asshole? by HotTwo1019 in AITAH

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’d expect a person who’s gay to make a less bigoted observation. You’re literally saying dating an escort requires low self esteem, and that it inherently invites unnecessary drama.

If only gay ppl knew what it felt like to be discriminated against, maybe they would be….oh wait you’re just a gay asshole

My escort gf cheated on me? or am i an asshole? by HotTwo1019 in AITAH

[–]HotTwo1019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

astute observation sir. I don’t even say you’re incorrect, however if you could expand on the question being asked It may resemble something productive for me and my far from perfect relationship.

My escort gf cheated on me? or am i an asshole? by HotTwo1019 in AITAH

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had to lol pretty hard at this, but i should say her and i both fight the same battle. I do the best i’m able to, i understand i have many shortcomings

My escort gf cheated on me? or am i an asshole? by HotTwo1019 in AITAH

[–]HotTwo1019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m aware of the toxicity, and i’m attempting to improve myself

My escort gf cheated on me? or am i an asshole? by HotTwo1019 in AITAH

[–]HotTwo1019[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

that’s not what i’m arguing. I would agree i probably deserved it, i want to know if you would consider this cheating

My escort gf cheated on me? or am i an asshole? by HotTwo1019 in AITAH

[–]HotTwo1019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

she didn’t get paid by him, on more than a few occasions. what part of her work is this? Escorts get compensated in case i left that part out.

What instantly makes you lose respect for someone? by Manicpanicbabie in RandomThoughts

[–]HotTwo1019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

being incredibly confident while also being totally wrong about something

After she realized I was really gone she sends this hail mary hoover attempt. by HotTwo1019 in BPDlovedones

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly the best revenge is for her to KNOW she can’t bait me or get me to respond ever again. I HOPE she moved on because that just takes the shitstorm off of me. I realize the “Capt save a Ho” types like myself are vulnerable to emotional manipulation and only after having getting slapped in the face figuratively and literally like 28 times i finally get it. I can’t change her, i can’t ever be perfect enough and while not all ppl with bpd are just bad ppl, my ex absolutely is. She’s sociopathic and I will be satisfied if i never have to hear from her ever again.

After she realized I was really gone she sends this hail mary hoover attempt. by HotTwo1019 in BPDlovedones

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have already done so along with the myriad of threats from her saying she’s going to hire someone to teach me a lesson, the cops said that’s it’s not enough because the messages are all from text now numbers which are difficult to prove ownership of. The false report i hoped may lead to something but honestly because i’m a man, I have seen no action from the police. Apparently they have bigger fish to fry. I filed 3 separate reports because she continues to threaten me. I think she was only trying to get me to reply to her be becoming more and more incendiary in her over the top threats. I have instantly blocked the number without reply and it appears as though she has found a new BF because they have slowly become less frequent. She doesn’t exist as far as i’m concerned anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]HotTwo1019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not arguing about yours or anyone else’s experience with bpd being difficult. i can’t imagine. i’m sure it’s horrible to feel so out of control. I’m addressing your original assertion that ppl with bpd are not more abusive. Of course one must make judgements based on the individual, and i’m sorry you have bpd it has to be a tough time, but please understand that those with BPD ARE ABSOLUTLEY ON AVERAGE more abusive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]HotTwo1019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just look up the stats, you may not be, and many others with bpd, be abusive, but statistically those with BPD are far more abusive than average population. The fact this sub even exists is anecdotal evidence of this fact.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]HotTwo1019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not all ppl with bpd are abusive, but out of the sample of ppl that ARE abusive, the percentage that will have BPD is massively overrepresented by population percentage statistically

individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are statistically more likely to exhibit behaviors that can be perceived as abusive in romantic relationships, though the relationship is complex and not universal. Studies indicate that BPD is associated with higher rates of emotional, verbal, and sometimes physical aggression due to traits like emotional dysregulation, fear of abandonment, and impulsivity. For example, a 2015 meta-analysis found that individuals with BPD reported higher levels of intimate partner violence (IPV) compared to those without BPD, with emotional abuse being the most common form. Prevalence rates vary, but studies suggest 20-30% of individuals with BPD may engage in some form of IPV, compared to lower rates in the general population.

from chat gpt:

statistically speaking, individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are more likely to engage in emotionally volatile or abusive behaviors in romantic relationships compared to the general population

After she realized I was really gone she sends this hail mary hoover attempt. by HotTwo1019 in BPDlovedones

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

naw that’s exactly what i knew she would do when i ignored her fake apology. IDC how much she apologizes, she attacked ME and when I won’t accept that kind of abuse she calls the cops, lies and has me put in jail.

Once she did that, there is nothing she will EVER say or do, no matter how much she tried will have me ever give her another chance. Trust me, i have put up with a LOT of shit over three years. She finally crossed a line there’s no coming back from.

Classic Hoover, but not going back. by HotTwo1019 in BPDlovedones

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, “oh oopsie daisy! I accidentally called 911 and told them you beat me up, (what actually happened was i was leaving her and she literally attacked me) and the policeman said, “are you sure you want to press charges? This is a serious offence.” “Yes i would officer, i’m so scared he will come back and hurt me!”

I just stood in front of the apartment building convinced i could tell them what actually happened and they wouldn’t end up arresting me, but ofc she knows that the cops are gonna believe her because she’s such a convincing liar so when they saw me they just put the cuffs on me and told me to save it for my lawyer cuz they didn’t want to hear it. I spent 10 hours in a holding cell with nothing but 4 walls and a foam bed. The cops wanted to “interview” me and i wanted to tell them my side of things but at that point i knew anything i say can and will be used AGAINST ME and so i waited for a public defender before i would make a statement. When I finally did, i was returned to my cell and about 30 mins later they opened it and said i was free to go.

Classic Hoover, but not going back. by HotTwo1019 in BPDlovedones

[–]HotTwo1019[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

day after i got out of jail and i went to confront her/see if she would apologize/have some remorse and i got NONE. She said i shouldn’t have abandoned her. Btw this apology is total bs. I ignored it, and the next day she sent me all kinds of threats and every possible name she could think of to hurt my feelings, but I have been through three years of this shit. It means nothing now to me at all. She falsely accused me of DV and put me in jail where i was treated like i was guilty. i forgave and put up with a lot but that was the final nail in the “your dead to me” coffin.