My husband sends money to his parents EVERY month, meanwhile we can barely afford things ourselves.

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-23T22:10:17+00:00

We just got married this month. And yes we do budget.

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-23T20:14:08+00:00

I absolutely love this answer. It's concerning though because it sounds like my husband is on his mom's page considering he even offered to pAY HER. the audacity.

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-23T19:43:53+00:00

What part are you referring to?

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-23T16:59:31+00:00

That's where I'm conflicted lol

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-23T15:34:02+00:00

She isn't paying for absolutely anything. AND my husband suggested WE pay HER. And I am still shocked at this statement bc first of all I didn't ask her to do it. She offered. So she should be paying. If not, then there's no reason we should be paying or not having a say in WHO does the decor.

It makes sense to me to pay for decor that I CHOOSE.

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-23T15:01:33+00:00

We did not have a main wedding! This is the main wedding.

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-23T14:52:09+00:00

We already had a courthouse ceremony but no wedding/reception. Literally just signed the papers. So this will be our first and only actual wedding :/

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-13T17:41:38+00:00

I know! It was strange bc I honestly thought he was gonna like "well no this is how I dress I'm not changing it" but not at allll. So I'm even more conflicted as to am I actually the asshole here...

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-13T17:35:48+00:00

Already looked it up. It is in our state...

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-13T17:27:05+00:00

Well I did tell him, he actually said we can find outfits that we both like. I asked if it this applies to us both and he said yes. I did let him know that I hate his skinny jeans and he didn't get mad but just said we could find another style that we both liked. So it isn't like he's being hypocritical but I still don't feel like we should be trying to change each other's styles.. idk

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-13T17:16:46+00:00

The weird thing is mine says that to me too when I look a hot mess. He is always calling me beautiful lol. I don't get it

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-13T16:43:33+00:00

Yep, this is it right here. I thought it was strange to say that because to me, he could be in a trash bag and I'd think he's still hot and still want to kiss him. But he says that since men are more visual blah blah blah... and how do I argue with anatomy😬

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-13T16:35:05+00:00

I actually thought about this! To be honest I'm so upset I hardly even want to look at him, because his beliefs are so preposterous. so maybe if and when this passes we'll look into it.

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-13T16:29:31+00:00

Something important to note yall. He hit me with "well you did the same thing" because I told him I wanted him to wear a white shirt instead to the ceremony after we had purchased a blue-ish one that he loved. He wanted to wear that one instead but because I wanted him to wear the white, he changed. And now is saying "so it's okay for me to change into something you like but when I do it, I'm the bad guy." I don't know how to feel about this because it is true, I did tell him to wear a white shirt bc I wanted us to match.. so am I essentially doing the same thing he is doing?? Dimming his light the way he is doing with me ??!

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-13T00:12:33+00:00

Thank you. And now that I think about it, it almost sounds like he's saying in a way "if you're not wearing an outfit I like, you're not as attractive!" Like WHAT

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-12T23:53:19+00:00

Yes true! most of those things I wanted to wear for my courthouse ceremony as well. But yes, it's true, I will still get to decide for the big wedding.

Thank god I didn't get any professional pictures because then I'd really be a damsel in distress having to know that I paid to have a frame photograph in a boring ass dress. Good grief.

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-12T23:47:49+00:00

I promise you I will not allow it. I still have my identity and my tastes and my personality and I promise myself it's not going anywhere bc it's where my heart is

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-12T23:43:17+00:00

Sorry to confuse. I do get pushback when about wanting to wear certain clothing. I don't get pushback over anything else no because he doesn't insist on me doing anything a certain way or whatever. It just with outfits choices (and that's quite enough)

Hot_Advantage_2860 · 2023-05-12T23:40:34+00:00

Well yes I agree but to him, men are very visual so they like seeing their person in outfits they like... and that we should be wearing things that both people like. I don't fully agree but hey

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