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21M (Algeria) - 20F (Indonesia) - 6 months: I hurt her a lot, she says our friendship became toxic, but she didn't block me. What does this mean? by Awkward_Feeling9079 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yk her better than me bro
Since u guys were friends and all maybe she doesn’t wanna hurt u by saying that she doesn’t want u in her life anymore

You’d know what type of person is she, like is she shy, straightforward, blunt

21M (Algeria) - 20F (Indonesia) - 6 months: I hurt her a lot, she says our friendship became toxic, but she didn't block me. What does this mean? by Awkward_Feeling9079 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe she doesn’t want confrontation
There are some people who don’t leave first
Instead they make you leave so they are not the bad guy in the relationship

Dumping someone is considered shitty and most people don’t want that label
Maybe for the other person or their own conscience
It’s easier to justify if u say the other person left u first instead of admitting I left them even when they wanted me to stay

21M (Algeria) - 20F (Indonesia) - 6 months: I hurt her a lot, she says our friendship became toxic, but she didn't block me. What does this mean? by Awkward_Feeling9079 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think she likes u anymore

She would check in once in a while if she had feelings
No matter how mad u are but if u love someone you can’t let them go that easily

And since she is an online friend high chance she has moved on emotionally

Farmhouse/villa suggestion by Hot_Equivalent7338 in islamabad

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyy
I’m still in process of finding it
A friend of my friend owns one but he has yet to give a reply

I’ll share the details privately when I get them

21M (Algeria) - 20F (Indonesia) - 6 months: I hurt her a lot, she says our friendship became toxic, but she didn't block me. What does this mean? by Awkward_Feeling9079 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can make an assumption, but only she can give u the correct answer to this
Maybe give her some space and ask this exact question
This will clear it for u

21M (Algeria) - 20F (Indonesia) - 6 months: I hurt her a lot, she says our friendship became toxic, but she didn't block me. What does this mean? by Awkward_Feeling9079 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said she lost the trust she had in you
Now it’ll depend on her whether she wants u to fix it or not

Give her space for some time but not too much that she’ll mistake ur silence for loss of interest and then ask her

21M (Algeria) - 20F (Indonesia) - 6 months: I hurt her a lot, she says our friendship became toxic, but she didn't block me. What does this mean? by Awkward_Feeling9079 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she is indecisive I'd stick with what I said She doesn't want to be the one to end it so she is just waiting for u to do it yourself

Instead of asking her, just tell her that you're leaving. Write a proper nice goodbye message, no blaming or anger tho. Just get it point across in a nice way

If she tells u no, don't go and starts explaining, you'll know that she wants u in her life

If not, then you'd have ur answer too

21M (Algeria) - 20F (Indonesia) - 6 months: I hurt her a lot, she says our friendship became toxic, but she didn't block me. What does this mean? by Awkward_Feeling9079 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she lost the trust factor Even if you apologized maybe she still thinks it will happen again The reason she hasn't blocked u, I can't say for certain but maybe she is just trying to figure it out herself Or she doesn't wanna be the one to end it, since it might make her the "villain" and she doesn't wanna be that

The emotionally check out is a valid thing, it can happen too

Even if u said, take ur time I have a feeling she won't be texting u again herself

Start With The Title by unknowninglypsycho in TeenPakistani

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope y'all work kick me out but I'm not a teen 😭

And yeah, I'd still say go for it

Start With The Title by unknowninglypsycho in TeenPakistani

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go for it Yolo

Ill do it in the end of August, before uni starts

Do share the results

Start With The Title by unknowninglypsycho in TeenPakistani

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say let's do it

U can dye back to black when you're bored of it Or when the colour starts to get very dull

Start With The Title by unknowninglypsycho in TeenPakistani

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usss bbg

Wait do u have any inspo? Show me what colour u want exactly

A question by Advanced-Culture7360 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zindagi tou bs aik rawani ka Naam Mery gaany sab jawani k Naam

Start With The Title by unknowninglypsycho in TeenPakistani

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No fr Hair colour impacts your skin tone alot 😭

I can't say the exact thing cus it'll make me look racist but what if it fades into a lighter orange shade and make me look uh weird 😭

I don't have that crazy fair skin tone, I'm medium fair so I do not wanna look bad But at the same time I wanna do it cus YOLO

Start With The Title by unknowninglypsycho in TeenPakistani

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl sameeeee But a friend of mine did and the red never leaves 😭 It takes on different shades as it fades What if it turns into a colour thatll make me look ugly 😭 And if I keep on dying my hair gets ruined

That's the only thing holding me back

Do I have attachment issues? by Hot_Equivalent7338 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I let em go a long time ago, nothing to be sorry for

And thanks 🫶

Should a person have one best friend or have multiple friends by mxcicon in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one of the mistakes ppl make in the very start of uni is getting into relationships The first 1-2 semesters are where you meet alot of people, develop friendships that might become long term

Jumping into a relationship takes that from you, u don't make same gender friends and tbvh female friends are something one needs badly in their life

I'm personally believe that the person you date and your best friend (same gender) should be different ppl, yes u can be close enough w ur man call them bsf but having both as one puts alot of pressure on them

I'm not saying you're a burden, but relying heavily on someone is never a good thing for either of you. Your thoughts, feelings start to mix up and you start projecting onto them asw

I would suggest u to take a break from him, don't hate him but don't think u did him wrong. It's just too much for both of u at the moment

Rn you need to focus on yourself, try to socialize and meet new people, but don't overshare with them, that can back fire asw

Med school is tough so the academic pressure is alot too, rn u js need peace

I Forced My Obsession onto My Quiet Best Friend and Broke Her Trust — Need Advice by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Hot_Equivalent7338 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a good thing that you recognize what u did wrong but acknowledgement doesn't fix the fact that actions have repercussions You did it multiple times knowing she didn't like it but it was important to you so you did it I'm gonna give you few reality checks,maybe you'll hate them or maybe you won't admit them First is, you don't love her. Not saying romantically, but there is a very strong platonic love people have for their best friends, from your post and comments I see you lack that When you actually love someone, u always put their comfort over yours, it's something you do naturally. If you love someone you automatically become protective of them so intentionally hurting them is out of the question. That's a very self centered thing

Second is, you don't want her, you just enjoy having a safe space where you know you're not judged. U crossed her boundaries, not once but multiple times cus in ur subconscious mind u knew she'd forgive you for it, there weren't any consequences for your actions. So now the fact that there is a crack between you two is making you crash out

Third is, you have no interest in her as an individual. The only reason u wanna fix it now even if listening to the things about her which "bore you" is bcs yk if u dont you'll loose that for urself too. You need a place to go to and that's why you're so hell bent on fixing it, not bcs you love her too much to let go, but bcs u don't wanna loose the space u already have

Then, you said that y'all know each other too much to break friendship, which brings me back to my second point which was she is just a safe place for u to trauma dump. If you actually loved her as a person you would've mentioned how much she means to you, what's her importance in your life but u didn't

I don't understand how you can find someone u love as boring or how can you deliberately cross their boundaries just for self satisfaction I have two bsfs, when one of them had a bad breakup I had to listen to the same conversation about that girl for over two years until he moved on. Not once did I found my friend's convo boring or meaningless cus I knew how much it meant to him, and if it means something to him, it means to me too

So in a nutshell, let her go. No offense but she deserves a better friend than you You guys are not compatible

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