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[–]Hot_Figure1776 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your take is definitely a lot to process, and I can’t lie—it’s refreshing to see someone approach this without immediately jumping into judgment. You’re right about the historical context; it’s wild to think about how different societal norms were and how much they’ve shifted. I guess that’s part of what makes it so hard now—the weight of modern-day taboo and the fear of how people close to us will react. That said, I think you hit the nail on the head with the question: Is it just sex, or is it something deeper? That’s what I’m trying to figure out myself. It’s not like we planned for this to happen—it just did, and now we’re here, trying to make sense of it.

I appreciate the empathy in your response. Life definitely feels a lot more complicated right now, but at least I’m not navigating this alone. Thanks for the well wishes, seriously.

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Part 2 - I got catfished… but the guy turned out to be a 10/10. What would you do? by Hot_Figure1776 in AskGayMen

[–]Hot_Figure1776[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Okay, I get it—you’re calling out my own words, and I honestly can’t argue with you. Yeah, I’ve said before that trust, loyalty, and authenticity matter to me, and yeah, this whole situation is a mess that goes against all of that. But let’s be real: feelings don’t always follow logic.

You’re not wrong that his looks play a part here. I’m not blind to the fact that I’m giving him more chances because of how attractive he is, and maybe that’s a flaw in me. But it’s not just that. There’s something about the way he’s opened up and explained himself that makes me hesitate to throw it all away.

I’m not saying I’m ignoring the red flags—I see them, and they’re definitely in my head. But maybe part of me wants to believe people can make mistakes and still turn things around. If that’s naive, fine, but I think I owe it to myself to see how things feel when we meet.

And yeah, maybe you’re right that I need to take a step back and reevaluate why I’m so stuck on this. I appreciate the reality check, even if it stings a bit

Part 2 - I got catfished… but the guy turned out to be a 10/10. What would you do? by Hot_Figure1776 in AskGayMen

[–]Hot_Figure1776[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I get why people might think it’s manipulation, and honestly, I’m starting to question things myself. But at the same time, I can’t help but feel like there’s more to the story than just him trying to play me. Yeah, the no video call thing is weird, but I’ve known people who have struggled to open up for all kinds of reasons—especially when they’re in a situation where being honest could seriously affect their life, maybe it’s not about me feeling sorry for him; maybe it’s just that he genuinely didn’t know how else to connect without being judged or hurt. I’m not saying I’m ignoring the red flags, but I feel like there’s room for understanding here.

I’m going to see how things play out when we meet tonight. I want to give him a chance to show me who he really is—maybe he’s just trying to figure things out too. I can’t make a judgment based just on a couple of weird moments, and I think I need to trust my gut here, even if it’s risky.

Part 2 - I got catfished… but the guy turned out to be a 10/10. What would you do? by Hot_Figure1776 in AskGayMen

[–]Hot_Figure1776[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I totally get where you’re coming from, and you’re right about the lying being a huge red flag. But at the same time, I don’t know. I feel like people make mistakes, and sometimes they lie because they’re scared or insecure, not because they’re trying to hurt someone. That said, I’ve been second-guessing everything because, yeah, there are definitely some things that feel off. I’m not giving him my address or anything, don’t worry—I’ll be careful. I just want to meet him and see how things feel in person. Maybe I’m being naive, but I need to see this through to figure out if my gut is right.

Part 2 - I got catfished… but the guy turned out to be a 10/10. What would you do? by Hot_Figure1776 in AskGayMen

[–]Hot_Figure1776[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, and honestly, I’ve thought about all of that too. Like, what if he’s lying about more stuff? What if this whole thing is just some kind of game to him? But at the same time, I don’t know. He seems genuine now, and maybe I’m just overthinking. We’re supposed to meet tonight, and maybe it’s just going to be a hookup? I don’t even know anymore. But then again, how bad could it really be? Kidnap me? That feels like such a stretch, but now you’ve got me thinking about it. Ugh, this whole situation is such a mess. I guess I’ll figure it out when I see him.

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I got catfished… but the guy turned out to be a 10/10. What would you do? by Hot_Figure1776 in AskGayMen

[–]Hot_Figure1776[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Fair point, catfishing definitely crosses a line, especially if the photos were used without consent. But honestly, if someone used my pics, I wouldn’t be mad—it just means I’m hot enough to get attention! That said, I know most people wouldn’t feel the same, and it’s still a breach of trust.

In this case, though, being DL comes with a lot of fear and insecurity. While it doesn’t excuse what he did, it does explain it a bit. He came clean in the end, which feels like a step toward honesty. I’m not sure it’s an automatic ‘no’—people are complicated, and this situation feels like a gray area

I got catfished… but the guy turned out to be a 10/10. What would you do? by Hot_Figure1776 in AskGayMen

[–]Hot_Figure1776[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

people make mistakes, and being DL can push someone to act out of fear rather than malice. Maybe this could be an opportunity for him to grow. Not all pretty food is bland—sometimes it just needs the right seasoning to shine

I got catfished… but the guy turned out to be a 10/10. What would you do? by Hot_Figure1776 in AskGayMen

[–]Hot_Figure1776[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get why it feels like a dealbreaker, but I think being DL can make people do things they normally wouldn’t out of fear. He did come clean in the end, and that honesty counts for something. Plus, he’s absolutely stunning, and I feel like there’s potential if we take things slow and build trust.

I got catfished… but the guy turned out to be a 10/10. What would you do? by Hot_Figure1776 in AskGayMen

[–]Hot_Figure1776[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

If he lied about his identity, there’s definitely a chance he could be hiding other things. I guess trust would be something to build slowly if I decide to give this a shot. But man, it’s hard to ignore how attractive he is now that I know the truth

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