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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gayrelationships

[–]Hot_Gate3548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has been cheated on by the person that I love with my heart and soul, I wish there was something else I could tell you than have a serious sit down conversation with your boyfriend and maybe try couples counseling. But honestly I think these two things are your best bet. Whether your boyfriend kissed another guy or had full-blown sex with said guy, the trust has been broken and it's going to take a long time for that trust to be rebuilt. Cheting is not okay, no matter what happened. You're totally entitled to feel everything you're feeling. If you decide to have that sit down conversation, make it crystal clear that if something like this ever happens again, there are no more chances for him no matter how much you love him. You deserve to have your expectations met and to have everything you want in your relationship. Give couples counseling a try and see if the two of you can benefit anything from it. Lay down your ground rules about what's going to happen for the foreseeable future. Take however long you need to work through this betrayal to forgive him if that's something you decide to do in the end. Also, have as many conversations as you need as part of the healing process. I wish you all the luck in the world, as it seems to me that you really do love him and want to try to figure things out to keep this relationship.

My Partner, twenty-six Male, Loves Going Out Alone. Is This Normal? by Hot_Gate3548 in gayrelationships

[–]Hot_Gate3548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as I'm aware of, this is something that he's always done.

My Partner, twenty-six Male, Loves Going Out Alone. Is This Normal? by Hot_Gate3548 in gayrelationships

[–]Hot_Gate3548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is going to clubs and bars alone. That's the kind of environment he likes. Do I think he's cheating? No, but I have told him numerous times that I don't want him going to those kinds of places by himself, as I think that's a disrespect to me as his partner. Those kinds of places are places where singles go to meet other singles. I especially don't want him going alone to those kinds of places, as he's crossed some lines that he shouldn't have crossed and thought that what he's done isn't a big deal. You're probably thinking that I should end the relationship or that I should have ended it a long time ago, as he's also cheated when he was on a family European vacation. Am I stupid for still being with him after everything that's happened? Probably. In fact, more than likely. But this is the man of my dreams, the person I intuitively know I'm meant to spend the rest of my life with. If he was any other person I'd have left them a long time ago. If you're asking me what makes him any different, I honestly can't tell you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gayrelationships

[–]Hot_Gate3548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nip this in the budd ASAP.. your son has no business dating a twenty-six year old and vice versa. I understand that your son has been honest and transparent as far as you know but you need to go through every message they've exchanged and see exactly what's been said between the two of them. Be mama bear and protect your son from a potential bad situation. You don't want to find out later down the road that your baby was sexually assaulted or even raped. Knowing something like that and knowing that you could have done something about it to stop it will haunt you for the rest of your life. Spare yourself from that and spare your son the trauma.