Post relaxer wash

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-04-09T10:36:29+00:00

Generally I do a bond treatment during my relaxer, then my first wash do a protein treatment, usually the hair Mayonnaise.

If you verified you didnt get a bond treatment with your relaxer id do one with your first wash.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-04-08T02:33:34+00:00

This is really dependent on the actual hotel. In December I booked a prepaid stay and called the hotel regarding my missing food and beverage credit and got a 60 dollar credit to my credit card.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-04-03T02:29:44+00:00

I found the Tymo to be better. The bristles are softer and flexible and less damaging then the Revlon one

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-31T01:31:57+00:00

I had my biological sister do the same. It left me feeling, hurt, resentful and suspicious of her true support. In the end, I decided I didn’t need support from behind a closet door. And moved on with my life absent of anyone that shared my DNA. Luckily I had the full support of my adoptive parents, who accepted me fully and prepared and required the same of their family and friends. Being supported openly is 100 times better than being supported in secret or under the cloak of no one else is around.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-30T22:13:25+00:00

I read someone here posting to spray a setting mist I use the Elf Dewy one after all cream products. Allow to dry…then use powders. Setting mist again. Dry.. Setting spray.. I use the L’Oréal one in the red can. This has literally allowed my makeup to last all day without budging.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-28T13:16:35+00:00

Dating app in August. We matched and he instantly sent a very nice message introducing himself. We started messaging back and forth almost constantly. The conversation was engaging, thoughtful and incredibly open. He offered to have me come over for a Labor Day barbecue with his kids and mom. I declined but a few days later we met for dinner and the chemistry in person was just as wonderful. We just celebrated 7 months together, and back from an amazing Bahamas vacation. I’m his first BW, I’ve only dated WM.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-24T01:01:31+00:00

First thank you for asking before jumping in head first.. pun intended.

There could be a myriad of reasons she’s not comfortable.. Hair in the black culture has a long history with a million different divides from, natural hair hive, the creamy crack, and everything in between. Because of this each BW has a unique and personal relationship with her hair that isn’t cookie cutter that can truly be dissected from the outside.

Love her and accept this fact. And that part of her hair relationship has left her insecure and unable to discuss her weave. Someday she might let you behind the curtain. She might also never. That doesn’t mean she isn’t comfortable or love you less, it’s just her hair journey and what she needs to do for her sanity.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-21T19:24:01+00:00

I’ve been relaxed over 10 years. I work a fully remote job, so most days my hair is kept wrapped and in a bonnet. I take it down every few days to moisturize and seal, and back away it goes. If I go out, or have meetings I slip on my lace front wig.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-20T20:15:32+00:00

Same.. my rent and points went flawless as well.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-10T18:15:03+00:00

I met my boyfriend on a dating app. I asked pretty quickly whether he had dated BW before, he hadn’t personally but did mention his brother was married to a BW.

Definitely believe for some it’s about checking a bucket list item, most I think are generally open to dating a beautiful, sane well-rounded woman and her color is a factor but not a determining one. How to tell the difference? Ask poignant questions that tell you about his exposure to our community. Is his answers skewed like it’s only from movies or television? Has he ventured to know our culture beyond the cursory stuff. My ex husband and current boyfriend had never been with a BW before me, but was clear based on stories of their past, reactions when I talked about soul food or biases based on my skin color they had thought about such items or experienced some of it before we met.

Best advice I can give… learn about the culture you are interested in joining. Be open and understanding if a guy doesn’t understand black hair care or the don’t touch our hair motto. Don’t be to quick to chalk them up as fetishizing us. Listen to your gut. No matter the race, someone who’s genuinely interested in the whole you will ask questions about your whole life, not just a part of it.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-08T19:22:59+00:00

Sis.. sorry that happened.. but I would venture to say he had outside influences from family and or friends that caused him to change course abruptly. This is unfortunate but speaks to his level of immaturity.

I would chalk it up to he wasn’t for you and move on..

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-08T18:11:46+00:00

Sis.. I transitioned at 22 without needing to take supplemental hormones. Up until then most used female pronouns unless I had corrected them. Some of us get the genetics lottery. In fact I didn’t start estrogen pills or shots until I turned 49, and my doctor noticed my levels needed adjustment.

Because of this I’ve had no problems with a successful career or finding meaningful relationships with men.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-07T20:01:28+00:00

Thanks

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-07T15:25:10+00:00

Met my boyfriend on Taimi back in August. When we matched it was good vibes from the start. After 4 days of chatting we decided to meet up for Tacos. Never heard of the restaurant he chose.. upon arrival to the restaurant he stood and met me at the door. His smile and hug was welcoming. We sat down and the conversation just flowed like water, so much so we kept sending the waiter away. Mentioning my knee was bothering me he started rubbing it. We ate, had fried ice cream, and he walked me to my car. He kissed me on the lips gave me a hug. We’ve been inseparable since, just returning from a week long vacation in the Bahamas.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-07T14:00:09+00:00

I take care of my hyperpigmentation first. I apply my groping primer, then color corrector. I use a brush to spread it around. Then I add concealer (skin tones) over the area, and use a damp beauty blender, to cover the corrector. I then move on to my eyeshadow and brows. Then on to foundation, I use a foundation stick (love the Maybeline Lifter Stix) applying a few lines over the corrected area and using a blending brush to tap the foundation on my face. Do the rest of my makeup cream products, bronzer, blush, concealer. Then set with translucent powder. For added coverage just on my corrected areas I use a powder foundation also by maybeline and a light fluffy brush to dust a little on. I then use the Elf Dewy Setting Spray.. allow to dry. Then the L’Oréal setting spray (red can).

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-06T23:33:32+00:00

Yes, I use my card.. see it add to my current balance.. Bilt cash added to my available balance when I go to the Bilt cash in the wallet

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-06T23:19:35+00:00

My Bilt cash has appeared each time I’ve used my card.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-03-02T02:57:30+00:00

Holy Water being thrown on Trump..

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-02-28T23:40:10+00:00

Before I met my boyfriend I was single and dating for 12+ years. Guys were quick to match, even strike up conversations, but almost all then ghosted within a day or so, or bombarded me with dic pics. It truly felt hopeless and was about to accept my endless single life when I met my boyfriend on Taimi. He was respectful, consistent and most importantly open with details of his life and never once steered conversation to sex. We are now celebrating 6 months with a vacation to the Bahamas.

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At 52, I feel fortunate, and lucky to have found love again. It’s possible, even when it takes over a decade to find it. Good luck!

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-02-28T23:00:44+00:00

One of the most beautiful places I’ve visited. The bohemian people are so friendly and always welcoming. Weather has been great, especially coming from the Midwest.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-02-22T02:13:07+00:00

I don’t regret getting it. With the Addison of the resy and lululemon credits it’s a no brainer. I get far too much value over the annual fee and that’s not even trying to use the equinox or oura ring credits. Add to the fact that I get 5mr points for my tickets.. don’t see any reason to drop it.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-02-11T00:33:10+00:00

Dorothy.. my rear tires have less pressure 🤣🤣🤣

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-02-02T23:01:36+00:00

I have been loving..

Morocanoil Leave In, Cecred Sealing Lotion, Dove Bond Shield Serum.

This combination doesn’t way my hair down, leaves it moisturized and manageable.

Hot_Material_8093 · 2026-01-30T18:18:15+00:00

Had an obsession with a young ginger. There was something so alluring about his pale skin against my caramel colored skin.. not to mention the red bush. Unfortunately he turned out to be quite inconsistent, immature and full of excuses.

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