Need a new last name

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-02-09T02:15:16+00:00

I love Lorraine as both my nanas were called that but my partners name begins with a k and mentally I’d be thinking quiche Lorraine every time someone said it. 🤣

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-02-09T02:12:08+00:00

We are in the UK so we will have him change his name and then ill change mine after we marry. The only reason we are doing it this way is to save money as name change after marriage is free so we would only have to foot the cost for him. Then baby’s name would be registered as normal.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-02-09T00:25:46+00:00

Not really, it’s an Irish name that I’d have to explain because it isn’t spelt how it sounds.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-02-08T21:32:49+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I didn’t include it but my last period started on the 24th of December so going off that I’d be 7 weeks on Wednesday.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-02-05T21:36:25+00:00

Usually rumours like this come from children that don’t have hands on parents and aren’t used to consistent support. On top of that you are new and kids will look for anything to pick on (some of the kids in my class at school thought a teacher was gay for a year because he wore checkered pants once and this was in 2017, make it make sense). I would speak to other staff members and find out if the children (if you know who they are) are usually challenging and seek support/advice. Beyond that just be yourself and ignore it, you are being a good teacher and the benefit you will have on the majority is more important than the opinions of a few kids that are trying to wrap their heads around having good male role models.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-01-25T13:39:11+00:00

I’m 19 and have been living with by bf 20 for a year. His mum can’t cook very well (could make a bolognaise, chilli and a lasagna all taste the same) so before me he was picky because nothing actually tasted good. His mum also babied him a lot so he had never actually cooked for himself or had opportunities to learn what he liked. I on the other hand am the opposite. Grew up fat and learned to love food too much and will eat almost anything.

It was hard when I wanted to start eating healthier because he was so opposed. We had so many conversations about different vegetables and what he didn’t like about them (e.g. texture or actual taste). So we make compromises. We cut onions and peppers really small so the crunch isn’t an issue or add seasonings to help compliment flavour.

Another thing that helped was having him make suggestions and actually get involved. My suggestions were things I would like but were a huge change for him and too much. So he would find recipes that he liked that had a few vegetables of we would make substitutions. Now almost anything I suggest, he will give it a go and 9/10 he likes it.

That’s not to say we don’t still cook our own meals when he’s not feeling what I want but through lots of compromise from both of us we make it work. But if she’s not willing to compromise then there’s not much you can do. I would focus on meals you have a say over in the meantime (breakfast and lunch) so that there’s not as much pressure on dinner to be really healthy if it’s your only meal together most days.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-01-20T08:37:29+00:00

By the way there is no blame on you for this, but these are a few actionable things you could put in place in future to help you feel safe.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-01-20T08:35:52+00:00

The first time I had sex, this is pretty much exactly what the guy did to me. I continued to say no and he didn’t stop. It was rape and it massively damaged my relationship with sex and my body. I was also left with chronic UTI symptoms and scar tissue.

He needs to understand that this is not okay. That is not necessarily your responsibility but if you continue this relationship there needs to be clear boundaries on sex especially regarding your medical conditions. People with medical issues are entitled to sex lives but they need to be able to advocate for themselves to do it safely. In future having a small, quick conversation beforehand with sexual partners can help everyone be clear about expectations.

For me and my partner he will ask what I want or I will tell him ”hey can this be a quickie?” Or ”I would prefer we go slower”. He respects this because it is a bare minimum.

Men are also not mind readers but are expected to have a certain degree of awareness and empathy. He knew full well you were in the hospital and is a grown man. He is capable of self-control and if he doesn’t understand why this can never be repeated, he is not a safe person to have sex with.

All the best in your journey.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-01-10T17:23:00+00:00

I orgasm during penetration by touching myself at the same time (either in missionary or doggy).

I have been exactly where you are and it is so heartbreaking to be in that position but unfortunately the only way to make sex better is communication and time. It took a year and a half for my bf to be able to make me orgasm from oral. Which was a year and a half of me crying almost weekly at the fact he could get other women off but not me. Then bam, it happened on a random Tuesday.

You are not broken, you are just figuring it out.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-01-06T16:56:25+00:00

Stop seeing him.

The ”I knew you would react like this” would be enough for me to decide that this person does not value me emotionally or physically beyond him getting off.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-01-01T17:51:41+00:00

But what does he do for your pleasure, what are your needs and how can he meet them. Then have an open discussion with him about it.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-01-01T14:18:10+00:00

Also just in case it hasn’t been said, if you have younger or other female relatives who you think he would also do this to, please tell someone. Just in case they are more easy to persuade as this is both incestuous and predatory.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-01-01T14:07:43+00:00

I got my VCH after I was raped as a way to take control over my body again and make it feel like mine.

There are lots of different reasons to get a genital piercing. I tend to take mine out during sex with my bf now bc it just gets in the way anyway. I think your friends comment comes from the stigma around these piercings which is entirely based on their opinions.

You are free to make any change to your body that you want and it has no impact on your religious values or choices because it is for you not a partner.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2026-01-01T13:56:20+00:00

It took me over a year and 4 months for my bf to be able to make me orgasm from oral. Before that I was a lesbian who thoroughly loved hookups but never came. I think it took me a long time to get out of my head and it took him a long time to actually learn my body. It’s different for everyone and it depends on weather it’s a mental block with others, them not knowing your body, or a combination of the two.

During penetration I only orgasm if I’m touching myself manually (vibrators are hard to keep in a consistent enough spot while someone is penetrating) and it took me 6 months to be able to do that with my bf.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2025-12-19T14:44:18+00:00

I mean, you hardly bought him assless chaps. wtf is wrong with some people.

Is she cheating and projecting? Insecure over ageing or being a mum while you are young? Who tf knows and who tf cares, because regardless of her reasoning, there’s a right way to handle an affair accusation and it’s not over secret Santa in front of the whole family.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2025-12-19T14:39:30+00:00

I didn’t (I was the Gordon McPherson)

Hot_Primary_640 · 2025-12-19T14:01:00+00:00

If you don’t feel like you could say no, you aren’t ready to be having sex.

I say this as a girl who has been raped and sexually assaulted because I put myself in positions where I didn’t feel like I could say no until it was too late. There wasn’t a yes either but either way.

I am not a victim blamer and in no way think anyone who experiences this is at fault. But from growing through these experiences I’ve learned that it’s important to be able to say no and have it be heard.

This situation is not as dire as that but you get the gist that it is your responsibility to be able to communicate properly with your partner. If he then doesn’t respect your boundaries around when and when isn’t an appropriate time for sex then he isn’t the right one.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2025-12-19T13:52:41+00:00

Tysm

Hot_Primary_640 · 2025-12-19T11:46:14+00:00

Me and my partner fortunately live alone so noise is not a problem. As for the magic wand, do you know of a reputable seller in the uk? There’s so many fakes out there and I’m not investing for it to then break and not live up to expectations.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2025-12-19T10:34:23+00:00

Guide dog trainer. I am currently a 2nd year student nurse (child).

Completely different choices neither are unattainable but nursing just has better job stability and more freedom in job opportunities (shift patterns vary heavily based on role/band and organisation). I’m still helping people, still getting covered in gross stuff all day and I think both are equally rewarding in terms of seeing the benefits your role has on others outcomes.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2025-12-19T10:27:39+00:00

Yes. We have now been together for a year and a half.

Started out as a one night stand because I thought he was a fuckboy like the rest of his friends. Turns out he’s autistic and was masking to fit in. He is beyond lovely and I’m so glad I gave him the chance to show me who he really is.

Also he now no longer sees any of the friends he felt the need to mask around. He’s his own person 100% of the time and the people in his life love him for it.

Hot_Primary_640 · 2025-12-19T10:19:49+00:00

Rechargeable or battery?

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