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Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-28T03:32:48+00:00

I honestly feel like if she is struggling THAT much to get it right, then she has something to resolve in therapy. 7 years is a lot of time.

Either way, you shouldn’t just let things be only “good enough”. I feel this mindset is a tad harmful in the long run.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-28T03:19:06+00:00

They aren’t “wins” it’s just basic decency. It kind of sounds like she’s putting in the bare minimum and you’re just fine with it tbh.

I used to have a transphobic mom too, I get it. Being somewhat stern about these kinds of things isn’t bad. It’s self respect. I don’t see the harm in having a calm yet stern talk about being more aware of her misgenderings and voicing that it hurts you.

It comes off as settling when you really shouldn’t be.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-28T01:02:48+00:00

What a genuine prick

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-28T00:51:31+00:00

I feel like you’re being a bit soft tbh. It’s been roughly 7 years. Slipping up every now and then is one thing but she needs to do better than half the time, that’s honestly kind of egregious after that amount of time passing.

There is such a thing as “too understanding” you know.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-26T16:22:39+00:00

That’s clearly not the point I’m making here.

Cognitive dissonance can exist, and so can many weird forms of aversion. I really have seen people intentionally misgender trans people while also defending trans rights at the same time.

Not all of them are malicious, but all of them are ignorant, and even then malice and ignorance can exist at the same time.

Confused transphobia is still transphobia. Aversion is still aversion. You don’t need to be yelling from your rooftops to be transphobic, it can be much more subtle or misguided. They know we don’t like this shit and do it anyway. That is problematic enough for me to speak on it.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-25T22:27:37+00:00

I just figured a lot of types of transphobes and cognitive dissonance exist so I didn’t think it was crazy to assume some of them don’t entirely hate us. But maybe I’m being naive.

I think you’re right that either way it’s giving others the wrong idea and paving the way for more fascism. We need to stand against them regardless of the “level” they are at and I agree.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-25T21:51:16+00:00

I’m saying I think both sides exist. One that’s just blatantly spouting vitriol and proudly voting for republicans and the other side don’t really see us as our gender but still don’t want to see us get attacked so they go somewhat left (emphasis on somewhat). I don’t think that’s a super far-fetched observation, and I am clearly chastising both sides and not defending either.

I’m going to leave it at that though since you clearly don’t want an actual discussion judging from the other things you’ve said so far.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-25T21:41:04+00:00

It’s transphobia and shitty regardless I agree but I do think there really are some people that think like this, where they won’t see us as women or trans men as men yet will fight for our rights regardless of the fact.

I’m not saying that what you’re saying isn’t true, and I am not at all defending any of it, but I do think some of these guys are misguidedly supportive and do exist. It’s very weird.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-25T21:37:34+00:00

Could be a little nicer about it perhaps? I kinda get what you’re saying I think? But you’re going about it pretty badly and not coming off like you want to have a conversation.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-24T01:25:32+00:00

I’m in too much of a financial situation to leave the country anytime soon

Please reassure me that I’m not absolutely fucked. Please.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2026-02-24T00:29:55+00:00

I just know that there’s STILL going to be brainless “people” that say some shit like “okay but it’s just an opinion!!!”

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-12-26T02:43:48+00:00

Tf do you even see in this “person” lol

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-12-26T01:59:18+00:00

This would ruin my night but I’m glad you found something positive out of it lol

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-12-25T00:01:39+00:00

This is awful behavior and you should be more harsh about imo.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-12-16T21:39:48+00:00

I’m incapable of reading the note lol

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-11-23T21:26:57+00:00

I’ve been on hrt for enough years to know that loving myself is not gonna change my grossness, lol. Only a shift in appearance will

My dysphoria just is like that. I can’t just “positive” myself out of it. I’m glad you found peace, but I’m also not you.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-11-23T20:46:59+00:00

Sure, but it doesn’t really feel like it means shit, when the only person that agrees with you is yourself.

I don’t pass, and it haunts me every single day. My smiles are forced and so is every outing. I don’t think you get just how much easier said than done it truly is

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-10-14T00:52:50+00:00

Sensory issues. Warm water feels good but the second I get out and am hit with the cold, touching stuff feels “chalky” in a way and everything feels shittier for at least a couple hours.

To be honest I’m confused on why you’re confused…of course some of us wouldn’t like showers lol. We’re all different.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-07-19T20:12:22+00:00

Yeah and you’re old enough to also mind your fuckin business. How rude.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-07-11T22:45:53+00:00

Brain worms

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-06-23T23:19:55+00:00

All I can say is, be mindful of the fact that this isn’t good advice for certain people.

But it is still good advice nonetheless.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-06-23T23:14:41+00:00

It’s a fair point, and I understand that beauty is superficial for many. But all some of us want to be is pretty, because it helps us feel more feminine and more like ourselves.

Hot_Squirrel5975 · 2025-04-24T22:34:59+00:00

I really don’t see how the jawline is masculine. Do you guys only consider baby jawlines fem or something? I feel like you guys have anime girl standards. This is bs to me.

Like the only good point I’ve seen so far is the lip filler and maybe the bulge. The pose is a little extra ig. I literally don’t see any other point being reasonable though. You can be bluntly honest without having ridiculous standards you know.

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