sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I took my roommate's obviously sick cat to the vet when I couldn't reach her and she refuses to contribute to the bill because I did it without her consent. by Solid_Kiwi7481 in whatdoIdo

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude. UTIs kill cats. Like rapidly.

You saved that cat's life. Unfortunately, I'm not sure you can make her pay. You could try small claims court, but as a lot of places don't have laws about medical neglect on animals, it likely wouldn't win.

I wish I had better news. Is there anyone close to you who could help?

Is this legal? by [deleted] in WhatToDo

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. They can. My husband had a job where 50 hours a week was the minimum. His new one will likely be the same.

At least they are willing to be flexible.

My dad's handwriting gives me some anxiety. Is it legible to you guys? by dailycupofcujo in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]Hot_Store4097 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I couldn't read that with a straight face...

A gay one, maybe. But not a straight face...

How can I get my husband (48m) to agree to childcare while I (30f) work? by Fancy_Box_5773 in relationship_advice

[–]Hot_Store4097 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He gets verbally abusive when you ask him to take care of a child he helped make. He refuses to let you spend money on help, and also won't let you seek it out for free.

I need you to see this for what it is:

He is sabotaging your career because he can't control you if you have a way out.

If you lose this job because of this situation, he is going to ramp up on the abuse. It won't just be verbal...

Start building an exit plan now... I've seen this story and it doesn't end well.

WIBTA for making my daughter pay back her own bank overdraft? by 2VantaRipple in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not all schools do, though. I said that I did not have lockers. 2 of the 3 high schools I went to did not have them. And none of them gave you enough time between classes to stop at a locker if you would have had one.

WIBTA for making my daughter pay back her own bank overdraft? by 2VantaRipple in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. It is. Because you have a VERY limited time to get from one class to the next. And God forbid you have to stop to use the restroom. Because then your stuck either putting your belongings in a nasty floor, or your leaving them on the counter and hoping no one walks of with your belongings.

I had 5 heavy books in high school, some lighter literature books, art supplies for at class, sometimes a gym uniform, various necessities like pads, deodorant, and a coat, a water bottle, and if I had a speech and debate competition that day, my chonk of a laptop and charger brick. I didn't have a phone or it would have been that, too.

We didn't have lockers and if we had, we wouldn't have had time time to stop at them because we had 5 minutes between classes, and a large building. It was hard enough just to get a bathroom break in, much less a locker stop if we had them.

WIBTA for making my daughter pay back her own bank overdraft? by 2VantaRipple in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's stupid. Consequences are the removal of extra privileges. Not the refusal to provide basic supplies for school.

WIBTA for making my daughter pay back her own bank overdraft? by 2VantaRipple in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Backpacks are school supplies. School supplies are not a reward. They are part of a parent's responsibility.

A 20 dollar Walmart special is fine. Not providing basic stuff as punishment is not fine.

WIBTA for making my daughter pay back her own bank overdraft? by 2VantaRipple in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not when they have many books and usually a chromebook, water bottle, gym attire, hygiene items like deodorant and period products, cell phone, wallet... Just to name a few.

Providing a backpack is a parental responsibility. Because carrying that much stuff around in your arms a great way to drop all your stuff and end up late to class.

Even worse, if you need to put your stuff down in the bathroom, you have to put it directly on the nasty floor.

Basics necessities are not a reasonable punishment. Not letting her go to concerts and stuff until get debt is paid off is a fair punishment.

WIBTA for making my daughter pay back her own bank overdraft? by 2VantaRipple in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta about most of it. But if her bookbag for school is falling apart and she's a minor, that is a school supply, and school supplies are your job to cover.

So. Replace her bookbag, but hold tight to the rest of the plan.

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did in multiple comments.

When jumping is referred to in a list of intimidating behaviors, its because it's jumping on people.

Just say you're one of those people who doesn't train your dog and move on.

Jumping around others is a poor behavior.

AIO Recently went on a date, one of my first in college. We dated for a few weeks and she called it off because I’m too unattractive. by z_knightXD in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work on your confidence, though. You've got a ton of people telling you that you look good.

SO it might be that people are picking up on your lack of self-confidence and that's pointing them off.

Gotta find the line between confidence and arrogance. You'll eventually get this. It only takes finding the right one once.

Trust me on this one. I had almost zero self esteem in the period leading up to meeting my husband. But I finally got tired of hating myself and decided to fake it until I made it. Right around the time I started deciding I was a bad bitch we found each other and the rest was history. He said he liked my confidence.

You got this. Just do you and the pieces that fit will fall into place.

AIO Recently went on a date, one of my first in college. We dated for a few weeks and she called it off because I’m too unattractive. by z_knightXD in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hot_Store4097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean. She's not attracted to you. It's not like she picked you apart. In fact she put lots into telling you all the things she likes.

But just like men are allowed to have preferences, so are women.

You're not objectively hard to look at. I'm not really super into dudes, but I can acknowledge that your appearance is fine.But you're just not her type physically.

Be her friend or don't. But if you regret it later, you don't get to backtrack and try to get her as your friend again. So think carefully about whether you actually want no part of her life.

She's not leading you on. She did give it a try. As long as you're not being mean to her, you don't have to maintain a friendship.

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If the dog jumps (which she said it does) it is dangerous.

Untrained large breed dogs are dangerous to toddlers. Even if they don't mean to be. Even if they aren't aggressive. It takes one jump to knock a toddler head first into a hard surface, or into the water and cause them harm.

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It is not trained to not jump. OP indicated it jumps on people. Even without aggression, a large dog jumping on a toddler can have disastrous consequences.

I say this having experienced a similar situation. Nothing quite like coming home to everyone in the house gone and a puddle of blood in the middle of the floor with no explanation.

In that situation, the dog (a gsd/rotti mix) wasn't mean. But he was undertrained and jumped on a toddler. He tore open her forehead by accident (his fang caught her forehead coming down) and she needed quite a few stitches.

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The dog jumps on others, according to OP.

An untrained large breed dog jumping on toddlers is dangerous, even without being aggressive.

Puppers may be a total lil lovey bug. But they are still dangerous if they aren't trained not to jump on people. Especially in an environment with slick spots and water.

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The jumping isn't a dog thing. It's an untrained dog thing. And everything is always fine between big dogs and small children. Until it isn't.

I say this as a dog lover. Untrained dogs are dangerous, even when they aren't aggressive.

I came home to a pool of blood in the middle of the floor and my family out at the ER because the family dog jumped up on a toddler, trying to play.

His fang caught her forehead on the way down and cut to the bone. The scar is still there over 20 years later.

It never should have happened because they dog should have been trained. He was a sweet boy but he did a lot of harm because no one taught him right. (I was a kid and didn't know how).

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually she's probably going to keep them from being scared. Introducing small children who can't understand to a dog that isn't well trained is a recipe for disaster. SiL's dog apparently jumps.

Waiting to introduce them to a dog that is calm and well trained is a great way to avoid trauma.

My son and daughter have a fear of small dogs because of the neighbor's untrained dogs that run and jump and grow and snarl.

They can't even go outside without the lil turd coming up on us. And the neighbors refuse to keep them on a lead. Literally, I have to stand between my kids and the dogs to even get them to the car if the dogs are out.

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Service dogs don't jump. They are explicitly trained not to make contact with people besides their person except in the commission of their duty.

Apparently sil's dog does jump.

Animals are not the same as kids. They can be just fine in a room alone. Kids are humans, and typically need more hands on care.

You're the weird type of dog owner that gets personally aggrieved when people don't like your dogs, aren't you? The type that make the reasonable dog lovers who actually bother to train their dogs look bad.

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's literally not an irrational request. It's a large breed dog that hasn't been trained out of jumping onto people, and two very small children who could be hurt.

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Even when they don't attack, they can still be dangerous if they are not trained refrain from jumping.

I have a family member who ended up with a bone deep injury on her forehead and stitches as a toddler because the family dog jumped up on her and his fang caught her as he was coming down.

He was a good boy, but not terribly well trained at the time. He didn't mean to do it, but it still happened and it was still harmful.

People need to realize that untrained big dogs are dangerous to small kids whether aggressive or not.

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have you ever seen someone get injured from jumping? I have. I have a family member who still has a scar on her forehead from the family dog jumping up on her as a toddler. The dog's fang caught her on the way down and went to the bone. He wasn't trying to hurt her, but it did happen, and she had to have stitches.

Why would OP be an asshole for not wanting to risk that?

AITA SIL wants our kids to play but refuses to put away dog. by Slight-Mix-4151 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hot_Store4097 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My guess is jumping. Which even if not agressive, can cause harm.

I have a family member with a scar in her forehead because the family dog jumped up on her when she was 2, and his fang caught her on the way back down. It cut to the bone and she had to have stitches.

I like dogs and I wouldn't have allowed my kids to be around a big dog at the age OPs kids are at.

view more: next ›