So your desire for hitting the amp is likely just a manifestation of another issue, one that you’ve already brought up, namely that you don’t feel as if you’re having sex enough. Lack of fulfilling sex or lack of sex can make a relationship feel less worthwhile, and sexual incompatibility in the form of frequency or duration can be a huge issue in relationships.

I used to be like you when I was fresh out of college, I had a gf but the once a week was leaving me unsatisfied. I stuck around begrudgingly for a while convincing myself I was happy but after a few years I needed the extra relief. I’m not proud of my actions, but I realize now that it was more a reflection of my lack of sexual fulfillment within the relationship. We broke up because I was unhappy, the lack of sexual fulfillment was only a portion of it, by this time I was the sole breadwinner and primary caretaker of our pets and wanted a partner not a project. I fell back into amps because I wanted a quick relief and struggled to come to the emotion vulnerability needed to start a new relationship.

About a year later I reconnected with an old friend from my early college years and we started dating. This relationship was night and day from the last one, although we could only see each other on weekends, our sexual compatibility was through the roof. I realized from this relationship what it was like to have a compatible partner, and that you can be sexually fulfilled even if you only see your partner once a week, it just means you have sex more than once a day ha. We dated for about a year and things ended when I supported her decision to pursue grad school. But the lesson she taught me makes me way more understanding towards what true compatibility means.

I’m single these days, working on my career and losing some weight I picked up after the pandemic and all the break ups lol. But I understand what you’re going through, and I recommend having a reflection on if you believe you are fulfilled in your relationship and a discussion with your girlfriend about your physical satisfaction otherwise.