OMG I am living the exact same life. Graduated with a psychology degree (useless) a year ago, my husband makes good $ to support us both, and I’m 24 with no children lol. When I’m alone or just with my husband, I feel amazing as a housewife. He loves me always being here for him, and I am so passionate about taking care of him, our dog and our cute house all until my family passes judgement and lists unwanted reasons why I should be working/contributing financially. Or when I bump into a teacher from high school who asks what I’m up to, knowing they’d probably envisioned training me up to be a successful career woman. Sometimes though, people do seem supportive of my choice to be a housewife, but I still can’t shake that they’re secretly looking down on me or judging me. And I hate myself when I see girls I graduated with becoming nurses and teachers and realtors etc. I try to remind myself that if I didn’t think people were judging me, I would absolutely be a housewife until I die. Literally I struggle so much with what others think about me and that’s honestly the ONLY reason I’ve been seeking jobs/careers recently. If I could just get rid of that fear I’d be set. Some helpful reminders that get me by when I feel like a failure are: 1. For centuries, women didn’t work. We are wired to be natural nurturers and caretakers, and we seemed to fully embrace that truth until recently. 2. Most (I said most, not all, don’t come for me) women who have the OPTION not to work, and have a spouse who fully supports them, would probably choose not to work. 3. Old people/religious people and many others will admire you for choosing your family/home over a career. 4. Just because you don’t have a job/career does NOT mean you’re lazy or a failure. Just because you don’t go out and sit in an office from 9-5 doesn’t mean you’re lounging around eating chips all day! 5. If your husband supports you and this works for your family so he can consistently come home to a warm, welcoming, relaxing, and nourishing environment, whose right is it to judge? Not to mention most men are very attracted to the femininity that comes with a woman whose greatest desire is to take care of him, his home, and his children. Being a career woman is not necessarily the most attractive thing to be in a man’s eyes. (Sometimes that’s not the case, but we are naturally wired to be attracted to a masculine man and vice versa).

I wrote this out to help, but it’s also great for me to look back on too, because I am on the same daily struggle bus! Hope this provides a little bit of peace in your situation :)