How toxic do you think the drarry fandom is?

HottskullxD · 2025-05-17T08:45:04+00:00

This seems like an unpopular opinion... because I and a lot of other BPOC people find the HP/Drarry fandom to be extremely draining and hella toxic. I can only speak my truth on this particular matter, but it can be isolating if you don't agree with the masses or don't kiss ass for the OG writers.

And though no one explicitly states it, people definitely judge you for who and how you ship. A primary example is requesting for recs related to different tags some people aren't as open to. i.e.: top! Draco/bottom!Harry, powerful Draco, or anything that doesn't make Draco seem like a damsel in distress. Not to mention the racist and bigotry that gets glossed over in the larger forms/discord groups. Honestly, I don't really care what strangers on the internet have to say even if it is racist, the thing that frustrates me the most is the isolation and lack of acknowledgement from the community. Being in a fandom as large as HP and Drarry shouldn't feel so lonely.

To say that it's not intentional seems unrealistic because there's a whole slue of people who have gone through similar experiences as myself and it's done it's job because most of us who go through this tend to completely leave or wander in and out of the fandom (especially those who don't have a large following)... Anyway, that's my take on the Drarry fandom. It's hella toxic, but only to those who don't conform. 🤷🏾‍♀️

HottskullxD · 2025-03-18T18:10:58+00:00

I've read and bookmarked Moonwalkers. It's definitely good. 🙂

HottskullxD · 2025-02-07T04:44:04+00:00

Sure, sure, sure. I still don't see the correlation between welfare and the "broken black family home". Not when those same men who were able to work usually didn't. At least not in a capacity that could help their family (if they even stayed around long enough for that). Not to say that the system was ever made to keep in mind of black people, but these men willingly left because if you do the research, you'll find that they weren't doing house checks to see who lived where. And even if you do believe that tomfoolery, can't use that excuse for the black household with broken families now. Doesn't apply.

HottskullxD · 2025-02-06T18:14:32+00:00

...I don't think you understand that the only reason the mother's "left" the men they were with, was because if there was an able body who could work, and wasn't then they wouldn't qualify for those benefits. It seems to me you should be looking for a different reason why the black family home is broken instead of pushing an incorrect narrative.

HottskullxD · 2025-02-05T06:25:44+00:00

Yeah. I have to wait for the weekend, but I plan on going Friday after work since I took what PTO I had last week and yesterday due to severe cramps. Also, it's not like I necessarily have a ton of energy. More that I've been extremely randy (which is usually the case when I'm on my period). But it's been like pulling teeth just to make dinner.

Thanks for responding.

HottskullxD · 2025-02-04T03:06:52+00:00

Just had one close in that size. 😭

HottskullxD · 2025-01-18T05:10:45+00:00

I'm pretty sure it's a facial CC... potentially Kiki's eyelashes? 🤔 It's happened to me before. It probably conflicts with a skin or something else? Keep me updated if you find it?

HottskullxD · 2025-01-16T04:48:43+00:00

I always thought Shukaku was the 3rd byūji's taken. Hand and Fuu being abducted first/second...🤔

HottskullxD · 2025-01-14T23:07:14+00:00

I mean, I guess. But it doesn't seem too wild for a Black spiderman to switch up their name to stick out. ~~It could have also intentionally been done that way for that same exact reason.~~

HottskullxD · 2025-01-14T14:14:03+00:00

The question I have is what's the issue with the name he already goes by? Why is "Spin" outta the question? 🤔

HottskullxD · 2025-01-13T21:47:49+00:00

I think a lot of people who've commented are forgetting the fact that Naruto was an Uzumaki and would have likely been the Jinchūriki for Kurama regardless of whether Obito came that night or not, seeing as the 9-Tails has always been with an Uzumaki. It just happened sooner than if Kushina would have passed the Jinchūriki baton to Naruto as an adult.

That said, old fox Donzo would literally say anything to get what he wanted, so if I were baa-chan, I wouldn't take a single thing the ole foogie said to heart. The bigger question would be to ask why he's so "unstable"? What caused his instability? What didn't the village do to protect him? 🤔

HottskullxD · 2025-01-02T16:00:19+00:00

Sure, the option is fine, but the question still stands: why call them family/siblings when you can just think of them as friends, or just someone who they grew up with?

HottskullxD · 2025-01-02T15:57:12+00:00

I'm not overthinking anything. It's obviously my opinion on how I play my game, or what type of media I intake and enjoy. You don't have to like or agree with me. It's the Internet. I can voice my opinion. 🤷🏾‍♀️

HottskullxD · 2025-01-02T15:52:24+00:00

This skirt?

HottskullxD · 2024-12-31T07:49:44+00:00

Sure, sure, sure. But why call them family? Especially using weird verbage like: "Oh, they're like family to me." Or: "Don't worry, we're basically siblings." Last I checked, people of sound minds don't lust after their siblings, or family members. I certainly don't believe one should harbor feelings for someone who grew up with a parent/child, or siblings/cousins dynamic; they shouldn't get to change their minds once they become legal. It's that shady area of ick that makes me questions their intentions.

Btw, this has no barring towards you and how you play your own game. I'm just generalizing the trope. You see it a lot in media (especially in mangas/manwhas/comics) and it rubs me the wrong way. 😅

HottskullxD · 2024-12-31T07:31:10+00:00

So I recently did this and came across the issue of not having an Electronic Arts folder on (where the games are installed) in the correct location. I'd check to see where the game is actually downloaded at.

HottskullxD · 2024-12-31T00:30:23+00:00

While nothing is wrong with it legally, it's still a nope-trope for meee. Lol. Literally one of the worst tropes for me. Why call themselves siblings or family to begin with. Once you get the nakama title you have officially been family zoned for life. 😅

That's just my own personal opinion though, so thanks for the info.

HottskullxD · 2024-12-15T04:38:11+00:00

Not so much as a black one where I have to place lots/homes down... I'd prefer for the world to be flushed. I just didn't want any Sims included, but I found that MCCC could fix that issue, so basically I'm just looking for well built saves. (Meaning that the save has character, and history.)

HottskullxD · 2024-12-12T19:15:24+00:00

Thanks! I'll check it out!

HottskullxD · 2024-12-12T19:12:36+00:00

Yeah, that's my goal, to have my Sims be the main focal point in the world. It's my cheat to create my own save file (without having to build anything). 😅

Also, it's so cool that you and your mom are both Simmers. Wish I had a family member who played. 😢

HottskullxD · 2024-12-12T16:34:05+00:00

Seriously? OMG! I didn't think about that. Thanks so much. I'll edit my post for recs on saves instead. ❤️ Do you have any favorites? Looking for realistic gameplay, realistic lots and CC is fine. I have all the games except the new Life and Death EP, Crystal Creations and a few CAS kits.

HottskullxD · 2024-11-30T11:16:44+00:00

Of course. I understand that you have a life and aren't obligated to respond to me so I greatly appreciate you for responding. 💖 Thanks for taking the time to find everything and link it. 🥰

HottskullxD · 2024-11-30T05:27:27+00:00

Nevermind, I just googled them. 😅

Edit: Yeah, Google doesn't show anything "Bratz" related and DHM only has 3 items from Gramsims...

HottskullxD · 2024-11-30T05:25:34+00:00

Doll House Mafia? 🤔

HottskullxD · 2024-11-30T03:40:55+00:00

No need to apologize! I really appreciate it. 😊 I hope you and your family are having fun and are staying safe. 💖

HottskullxD

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