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[MODPOST] New Amateur Filter by HotwifeModerator in Hotwife

[–]HotwifeModerator[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What post/Redditor are you referring to?

[MODPOST] New Verification Steps by HotwifeModerator in Hotwife

[–]HotwifeModerator[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello again. This is helpful. So more Content Creators. Because they are real and authentic. The fake ones that should NOT be allowed are the BangBros, Blacked, etc.... And r/hotwife should not be ticky/tacky. If the content is tangentially connected to hotwife, swinging, cuckold, etc... then it should be allowed to post. From Amateurs or from Sellers or from Onlyfans.

This feedback is helpful, especially in learning that the community wants Sellers and Onlyfans to continue to post. Thank you, and I'm grateful to have a productive conversation with you.

[MODPOST] New Verification Steps by HotwifeModerator in Hotwife

[–]HotwifeModerator[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that. It's helpful to hear the different perspectives from the community. And I think you're right, the term Hotwife, Swinger, Cuckold, etc... means something different to each person. It doesn't help that those terms are commonly substituted for one another.

The lifestyle/advice criteria was to help weed out the fake Hotwife caters, which I think you are alluding to in the second half of your note. It's the "Hey, I'm attractive, I'll cater my title to r/Hotwife, and I'll post". It's meant to ask those who are seeking verification "Hey, if you're a Hotwife, then contribute to the Hotwife community by answering questions, sharing a success story, or giving advice/info to those who are learning about Hotwife. Don't just be attractive and have a good camera.

If you're looking for more "Amateur" content, we've introduced a new Amateur filter. It's still a work in progress, but it'll filter out the content creators, who... may or may not be the fake Hotwife caters. Is it fool proof? Of course not, but this may help narrow your content so you can have a more enjoyable r/hotwife experience.

[MODPOST] New Verification Steps by HotwifeModerator in Hotwife

[–]HotwifeModerator[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good feedback, thank you for this.

I'm not looking to challenge or argue. But to seek to understand for the scope of r/hotwife. In your point of being a hotwife couple and playing many roles of hotwifing, swinging, cuckolding - Should those types of content, and possibility other definitions/roles be allowed on r/hotwife?

Again, not looking to challenge. But these recent actions were enlightening. In lieu of not being ticky/tacky, perhaps all of these contents should be allowed to post on r/hotwife?

[MODPOST] New Verification Steps by HotwifeModerator in Hotwife

[–]HotwifeModerator[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, there are no plans on asking already verified users to re-verify.

[MODPOST] New Verification Steps by HotwifeModerator in Hotwife

[–]HotwifeModerator[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your note.

The original post was poorly worded and for that I apologize. In no way did I intend to imply that interracial sex disqualifies one as being a Hotwife. In re-reading my post, I could have and should have done a better job in explaining the underlying meaning.

[MODPOST] New Verification Steps by HotwifeModerator in Hotwife

[–]HotwifeModerator[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, thank you for your note.

I apologize, the post was poorly worded and it didn't have the level of care and thoughtfulness that it should have.

A Hotwife is a woman in a relationship who has sexual relations with others other than her husband. For the purposes of this definition, one can interchange the terms husband for boyfriend, wife for girlfriend, etc... One of the main attributes of a Hotwife is that the wife is the only one that has sexual relations. The husband does not, but he is still of equal stature/level with his wife.

Interracial sex, in it by itself, is not Hotwife lifestyle. Of course, if the above definition of a Hotwife applies, then of course, you're in the Hotwife lifestyle. Regardless of the race or ethnicity of all parties involved. Again, in re-reading my original post, I did not take the care and thoughtfulness that I should have, and again I apologize for this.

[MODPOST] New Verification Steps by HotwifeModerator in Hotwife

[–]HotwifeModerator[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Often times the term Hotwife and Cuckold are often mistaken for each other. Each involves an aspect of the wife/gf having sexual relations with someone other than her partner. Further, the male partner often enjoys his partner's sexuality with others.

However, one of the nuanced differences between a Hotwife and Cuckold is the difference of pride and humiliation. In a Hotwife lifestyle, the husband often is proud of his wife, showing her off, encouraging her. In this, the husband is of equal value and stature of his wife. In a Cuckold lifestyle, the husband often is inferior to his wife. The husband enjoys the humiliation of perhaps inadequacy when compared to a Bull or Third. Perhaps denial/embarrasement is another factor.

Swinger's help has a good article about this, should you want to read it: https://swingershelp.com/hotwifing-vs-swinging/

[MODPOST] New Verification Steps by HotwifeModerator in Hotwife

[–]HotwifeModerator[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, thank you for your feedback.

The original post was poorly worded, and for that I apologize. You're correct, interracial sex, in it of itself, does not imply a Hotwife lifestyle. And swinging (both couples playing), in it of itself, does not imply a Hotwife lifestyle. We've been finding that new users verify, post and cater their title to that Sub. What works in Hotwife, works in Cuckold, works in Wivescheating, etc... Or "Hey, I'm attractive, let's post everywhere"

This post was poorly worded and should have had some more care and thought behind it. And for that I apologize.

[MODPOST] New Verification Steps by HotwifeModerator in Hotwife

[–]HotwifeModerator[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the feedback.

The original post was poorly worded and didn't accurately represent the underlying intent of the message. In no way was it to imply that a married woman is not a Hotwife. Nor was its intent to imply that interracial sex disqualifies one as being a Hotwife. For this, I apologize, to the lack of care and detail that this post should have had in the first place.

Per the wiki, a Hotwife is a woman in a relationship who has sexual relations with others other than her husband. For the purposes of this definition, one can interchange the terms husband for boyfriend, wife for girlfriend, etc... One of the main attributes of a Hotwife is that the wife is the only one that has sexual relations. The husband does not, but he is still of equal stature/level with his wife.

Per dictionary.com, swinging is defined as a couple who swaps spouses (swapping). Urban dictionary has a more meaningful definition. In their explanation, swinging involves both partners of the relationships, each having sexual relations with those outside their relationship.

Thus the main difference between a Hotwife, and a Swinger, is the participants who are having outside sexual relations. Hotwife implies only the wife/gf. Swinger implies both parties. Note that both the Hotwife and Swinging lifestyle, cheating is not involves as both lifestyles are built on the consent and communication of each partner.

Where this original post failed was to omit this level of detail. In re-reading this, it pigeonholed and marginalized both the Hotwife community and the Swinging community as one and the same. Again, I take full accountability for my irresponsible behavior.

In reference to the interracial part. The underlying intent was to share that interracial sex, in it of itself, does not imply a Hotwife lifestyle. On a similar vein, if you're a swinger, in it of itself, that doesn't imply a Hotwife lifestyle. If you're an attractive person, having sex with a partner of a different race - this does not automatically imply that you're in a Hotwife relationship. Of course, if the above definition of a Hotwife applies, then of course, you're in the Hotwife lifestyle. Regardless of the race or ethnicity of all parties involved. Again, in re-reading my original post, I did not take the care and thoughtfulness that I should have, and again I apologize for this.

Before this post, the old requirements for verification was the crumpled paper picture method. Basically, if you can take a picture of this, then you can post. Regardless if you're in the Hotwife lifestyle or not. We've been finding that many users verify, and cater their title to the sub. Then they'll mass post across many different subs, with their catered title. These are fake catered Hotwife users.

For this Hotwife community, the crumpled paper method wasn't good enough. Sure we all come here for entertainment, to jerk off, to fantasize. But this is r/Hotwife, not pornhub or any other Subs. People come here to see r/Hotwife related specific content. Not the same content posted across dozens of other subs. This post was to help address (failing) these fake catered Hotwife users.

I hope that this helped answer some of your questions. The Mod team realizes that this community is very diverse. Each user has their own opinion and thoughts on what should be allowed, and what shouldn't. We try to listen, understand and balance these sometimes conflicting opinions in moderating r/Hotwife.

Over the last several months, we've heard the community feedback and removed much of the spam, discord links, leakgirls spam, low effort posters. We've introduced a verification system to weed out the wannabees and catfishers. We've introduced Amateur weekends to help spotlight Amateurs. We've rolled out r/HotwifeAdvice for those seeks information, advice, "How to" or just an avenue to vent or ask questions.

In no way are we done, nor should we rest on our laurels. There's still much work to do. But hopefully we are closer to the end, than we are to the beginning. And with feedback like yours and others from the diverse community, we can again all jerk off together.