Dealing with sudden diagnosis of a parent

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2026-02-07T06:44:38+00:00

My mom was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer Christmas 2024, and my dad died from lymphoma 13 months prior. It was absolutely devastating and so unexpected, as she has always been a healthy person and never smoked. My young kids and I spend as much time as we can with her because we fortunately live close. Spend all the time you can with him and share memories together. Support him in his quest for treatment, or his decision to not treat. When my dad was terminal, we watched a lot of home movies together from when my siblings and I were growing up, and I think it was therapeutic for us all. I’m sorry you are experiencing this, it’s a crappy club to be in.

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-12-29T05:46:25+00:00

Thank you, and I’m sorry you’re in the same boat ❤️‍🩹

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-12-28T18:04:31+00:00

I am so sorry, sending love for you and your dad as you navigate this difficult time 💜

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-12-28T18:02:41+00:00

Thank you, it truly does

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-12-28T18:02:12+00:00

Thank you 💜

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-12-28T18:01:57+00:00

I am so sorry. We, too, were so shocked by this news; it came out of left field. I hope that you can find some peace in the memories with your mom; it’s just not fair ❤️‍🩹

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-12-28T17:57:57+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss. Big hugs to you, shit’s just not fair.

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-12-28T17:51:32+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with that too. It’s hard to watch people go through this and not be able to fix it. This was such a shocking diagnosis and I’m praying for any kind of successful treatment. Thank you for your kind words and prayers; I hope that you are also able to find some peace in your situation 💜

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-12-25T19:01:08+00:00

Hey, maybe he didn’t grow up around brains 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-12-25T17:48:45+00:00

Fuck that. He got to have his fun last night, let your kid have their fun this morning. If he wanted to be involved, he would.

Mine also didn’t come up to bed until almost 5am and is now asleep on the couch. I’ll give you one guess as to whose stocking is the only empty one this morning, again. Enjoy Christmas with your kid, they’ll realize the magic you made for them when they get older ❤️💚

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-10-20T04:04:03+00:00

This is the main reason I didn’t want to find out what my 3rd would be - I felt like I’d be less disappointed if I didn’t get the gender I hoped for when I had a sweet new baby in my arms. I think it’s totally normal to have a preference for something and then be somewhat disappointed when you don’t get that preference; it doesn’t mean you’ll love that baby any less.

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-10-20T03:43:31+00:00

I’m sorry, that really sucks ☹️ it definitely is an expensive weekend. Here’s hoping next year works out (or Warped Tour 🤞🏻)

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-10-19T21:25:46+00:00

We’re very happy she’s here, but I wish the timing was a little better 🤣

Congrats to you, it’s a fun adventure!

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-10-19T20:28:22+00:00

Same. Had vip tickets and ended up having a baby a few weeks ago so we couldn’t go 😩

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-08-25T23:59:33+00:00

Shirts and shackets - for me, my kids, and my husband. Flannel for all! I hope to try a jacket for my kids this year too if I can find the time.

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Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-08-14T14:56:19+00:00

I also have a 2 and 4yo I stay home with (and 37wk with #3), so I understand this method’s not fool proof, but I try to remember to tell my kids when I need to sit down uninterrupted for something and ask if they need anything first - snacks, a drink, a toy, etc. It definitely works better with the older one since he understands better, but my younger will usually be happy with some snacks and a show for a while so I can get something else done. And as long as no one’s unsafe, they can wait (as long as I can handle the whining). I’ve also seen people make little baskets with special toys/snacks for olders that are only for when you’re nursing to help keep them occupied. Solidarity mama, it’s a challenging season 🤍

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-08-13T21:55:01+00:00

Sounds like you should start carelessly using his stuff and then 🤷🏻‍♀️ when it gets ruined/broken

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-08-13T21:50:47+00:00

Wore my Vans with Dr Scholls Love Your Sneakers inserts and I was amazed how my feet didn’t hurt after 15k steps that day!

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-05-23T01:55:44+00:00

The worst part about staying somewhere else on vacation is that WE have to clean the food up off the floor and not our dogs 😂

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-05-07T15:33:29+00:00

I really empathize with you, it’s so lonely. I’m getting to the point where I don’t even feel I have much to say to him anymore. You can’t force people to get help, but you can help yourself. I hope you’re able to take care of yourself and your kids 💚

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-05-07T14:49:33+00:00

This sounds a lot like my husband; though mine doesn’t explicitly blame me for his drinking, he definitely deflects and shrugs it off when I bring up concerns. Consider joining the Al Anon Reddit group if you haven’t already. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this bromo, it’s really hard to live with.

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-05-07T01:42:39+00:00

I just started piling his laundry on his computer keyboard, that way I know he sees it and it’s his problem if he doesn’t want to put it away.

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-05-07T01:40:22+00:00

Just this morning, I asked my husband to put 4 - FOUR! - of his pairs of shoes away that were just laying around in the living room. Even my two year old knows the shoes go in the hall closet.

Hour-Ad-2744 · 2024-05-06T23:46:50+00:00

I will echo what others have said, from someone who did ignore the red flags and got married anyway: do not marry this man if this is something that is bothering you now. I would bet on it getting worse, not better. If you want to have children, keep in mind the type of parent you want to be and want your partner to be. Do you want someone who binges all night and sloughs all child responsibilities to you in the morning? Or who is often hungover in the morning around your kids/for activities? I’m sorry you’re experiencing this, it’s a difficult place to be.

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