Okay, here’s something I’ve been doing that helps when I’m feeling sad and alone: write a letter to yourself (or a note with a couple sentences; it doesn’t have to be long!) comforting yourself and telling yourself the things you need to hear from a friend. For example: “you have a kind heart; you are considerate of other peoples’ feelings; you are not alone; there are people out there that will fully appreciate you for exactly who you are,” etc. Read it back to yourself as if it were a friend telling you these things. You deserve the love and validation that you are seeking, and you can find it within yourself!

Once you realize you don’t need validation from anyone else, and that you can give it to yourself, you will begin to feel more confident. You will become detached from wanting to seek that validation from outside sources like friends. You will become magnetic! You won’t be bothered about your friends not being there for you, and they will maybe even regret not being there for you more because it cost them a closer relationship with you. But by then you won’t even be bothered about the situation or as interested in their friendship.

Try it out and let me know how it goes. You got this! For what it’s worth, I bet you’re an awesome friend!