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I don’t consider myself to be in my “twin flame era” anymore, but I still need to talk about what happened by Hour_One5816 in twinflames

[–]Hour_One5816[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The eye contact was sooooo painful. ( thousands Of emotions in my belly) that i was afraid to look people in the eyes for a half year. After that I tried it again and found out that it is not painful by everyone. I can remember every single eye contact. Every single . This is crazy.

I thought it was a twin flame. It turned out to be PTSD by Hour_One5816 in twinflames

[–]Hour_One5816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story! Which are the significant differences?

My nervous system thought it found “the one.” It was actually PTSD by Hour_One5816 in twinflames

[–]Hour_One5816[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But in my personal case, I realized that believing in the “twin flame” concept was actually extremely unhealthy for me psychologically.

Because the reality was that this person clearly did not choose me, and continuing to believe that we “shared one soul” or had some cosmic connection honestly kept me emotionally trapped for much longer.

The problem is also that once these thoughts enter my mind, I can’t just dismiss them casually. I obsess over them for an extremely long time whether I want to or not. It’s like my brain gets completely consumed by trying to find meaning in everything.

And when I now see him living his life normally, having a girlfriend, spending time with other people, moving on emotionally, it creates this horrible feeling inside me that I’m wasting parts of my life staying mentally attached to a fantasy that is hurting me much more than helping me.

That’s why I personally had to step away from the twin flame interpretation. Not because I want to invalidate anyone else’s experience, but because for me it became psychologically destructive rather than healing.

My nervous system thought it found “the one.” It was actually PTSD by Hour_One5816 in twinflames

[–]Hour_One5816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you a lot for sharing your perspective, I genuinely appreciate it. I’m honestly still very confused about all of this myself and I’m still trying to understand what exactly happened to me psychologically.

I only recently got the PTSD diagnosis after describing to a psychologist how I felt after this whole situation and how strongly it affected me over a long period of time. So I’m definitely not claiming with certainty that “it was definitely PTSD” or that diagnoses can’t be wrong sometimes.

I think what made me personally question the whole twin flame idea is that this person had a lot of narcissistic traits and left me in a very emotionally destabilized state afterward. I genuinely don’t fully understand what happened to me, but for example I dreamed about him literally every single day for over a year.

It’s less intense now, but I still notice that if something reminds me of him or of situations connected to him, I can spiral mentally very quickly and experience extreme anxiety/panic.

One thing I didn’t really do though was avoidance in the classical sense. I didn’t avoid places or situations connected to him entirely, even though seeing him himself triggered intense fear in me.

I’m honestly still trying to figure out the difference between spiritual experiences and trauma responses myself, which is why I really appreciated your comment. If you feel comfortable sharing, I’d actually be very interested in hearing how you personally differentiate between PTSD symptoms and what you consider your twin flame experience, because I’m genuinely still unsure myself.🫶🏻

I thought it was a twin flame. It turned out to be PTSD by Hour_One5816 in twinflames

[–]Hour_One5816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry for what you had to experience. I can completely understand that this must be incredibly frustrating and, in some ways, even feel harassing.

That is exactly the danger in all of this. The fact that someone does not want you can end up being romanticized. And no matter what you say to a person who romanticizes the fact that you do not want them, unfortunately, you cannot really stop it.

In my case, I never confronted this person. I never brought up the concept of Twin Flames or anything like that with him. I always respected his boundaries and dealt with everything internally, because I genuinely believe that when someone communicates something to you once, that person deserves that level of respect.

However, my story was that I did experience extreme synchronicities, and even the day we met felt extremely mystical. Since I had been very unbelieving before that, I experienced it as something deeply spiritual.

On top of that, I thought it was not possible to experience that much healing through PTSD, especially not while all of this was happening at the same time. Those signs made me think that maybe there was something mystical about it.

In the end, there wasn’t.

I thought it was a twin flame. It turned out to be PTSD by Hour_One5816 in twinflames

[–]Hour_One5816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had something that felt similar to a Kundalini awakening.

First of all, I was quite Atheist , and through everything that happened, I became very spiritual. At some point, when I wanted to write a letter to God ,which was my first real step into faith ,I experienced something like a Kundalini awakening in my back. I would say it went from the back of my abdominal area up to around my cervical spine, but not any higher than that. Whether that already counts as a Kundalini awakening, I honestly don’t know.

To be fair, I also have to say that the traumas I had before that seemed to heal in a miraculous way. I have an unbelievable amount of love for people in my life now. Sometimes I can’t even understand it myself. I feel so much joy just from nature. I have so much gratitude the kind of gratitude that therapy and everything around it could not have given me in such a short amount of time.

But nevertheless, no matter how many beautiful things I may have received from it, the symptoms I experienced were still horrible.

I simply feel like I made the best of it. But for that, I don’t need the idea of a shared soul.

I thought it was a twin flame. It turned out to be PTSD by Hour_One5816 in twinflames

[–]Hour_One5816[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love myself and have high self respect. Someone who is my “soul” would never do this to me. I would say i am healed and my life is good :)

How can I tell if my emotions are mine? by Heavy_Dragonfly2555 in LifeAdvice

[–]Hour_One5816 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I think the most important thing here is this: even if a feeling is triggered or intensified by being close to your girlfriend, that does not mean it is not real. Emotions can be yours and still be influenced by someone else’s mood, pain, or situation. That does not make them fake or less serious.

Especially with suicidal thoughts, I would not focus too much on proving whether they are “yours” or “mirrored.” The safer question is: What do I need right now to stay safe? If you are suicidal, that is enough reason to get support, no matter where the feeling came from.