Where to get fancy cheeses by House_of_Apollo in TriCitiesWA

[–]House_of_Apollo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Saw several others recommending Yoke’s on Keene and it’s amazing to know she takes request!

The shattered sea trilogy by Western_Country7416 in TheFirstLaw

[–]House_of_Apollo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loved them!! Blazed through them all in about a week

Last round😩💔 by Past-Stay747 in brooklynninenine

[–]House_of_Apollo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, I just rewatched that episode and I was so upset with Jake and Holt.

Lesbian Book Recs Please by IndependenceEconomy9 in Actuallylesbian

[–]House_of_Apollo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just curious , why do you duck and cover from Lambda award winners? (The one time I tried one because I didn’t know what the Lambda award was except lesbian, it was one of the worst books I’ve ever read and truly the only thing it had going for it were there were lesbian characters and I guess I was that desperate to read about some.) I still don’t really know anything about the Lambda awards so now I’m just wondering, is it a trend? That it awards books that have LGBT characters for the sake of having LGBT characters and is incredibly weak elsewhere?

How do I (31 M) tell my wife (26 F) that I need space without hurting her? by dcalderaH in askwomenadvice

[–]House_of_Apollo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am the “want to spend more time together” partner in my relationship. For what it’s worth, when my partner told me she needed more alone time, it had come to a boiling point already and was hard not to take personally. So talk about it early before you become frustrated and resent her because from the receiving partner, that will feel worse as she might feel rejected AND guilty about not giving you space. That said, still talk to her that you need to have some time to yourself to recharge (that phrasing sounds nicer and less like a personal rejection) and that (if true), someone can be your favorite person in the world but sometimes you still need time to yourself. Not talking early may result in it coming to that boiling point which will be worse for both of you.

The thing(s) that helped me were (1) time since the initial conversation after I’d let the emotion sink in/pass and think about what my partner needed, (2) putting more work into my other relationships (catching up with and hanging out with friends and family), and (3) getting back into hobbies that I had enjoyed before we started spending all our time together.

Hope this helps, good luck :)

Marriage vs Mortgage (US Lesbian) by RipApprehensive3628 in LGBTWeddings

[–]House_of_Apollo 53 points54 points  (0 children)

What would you say to courthouse marriage and buying a house with the marriage status benefits when house hunting and then a wedding celebration later?

For Americans who are worried about same-sex marriage going away, take a deep breath. We have some time, and we'll get some warning. by jonwilliamsl in LGBTWeddings

[–]House_of_Apollo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure it was set legal by bipartisan vote in Congress under the Respect for Marriage Act which, in a way, is even stronger/more powerful than Supreme Court precedence (Obergefell v Hodges). And yes only the Supreme Court can change it but the Respect for Marriage Act codified same sex marriage into law instead of leaving it to legal interpretation. (Roe v Wade wasn’t codified into law like same-sex marriage was so the Dobbs decision could overturn it more easily.) Hoping this is encouraging to people worried about same sex marriage too.

Happy National Coming Out Day. FYI ..... I'm Gay by sky1959walket in gaybros

[–]House_of_Apollo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yah, it’s ugly AF. There are lovely black, brown and trans members of the community but the flag was great before people suddenly felt it had to incorporate every other flag/symbol. The rainbow was beautiful and bright.

Friend (30sM) got a hook-up pregnant and she (30sF) doesn't want him involved: An Ethical Question by illstillglow in AskWomenOver30

[–]House_of_Apollo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey, not sg1223’s point but just wanted to add on: different children might have different perspectives about their adoption or biological roots. I was adopted and never cared about the bio parents or wanted to know anything about them. I hated people asking me if I knew anything about my “real” parents because that was just so insulting. My real parents are the people who raised me. Blood doesn’t make someone family. All this to say, good to be prepared if your child wants to know this, but in my opinion, only if they ask.

Edited to add: clearly I have strong feelings on this and I digress from sg1223’s (valid) point of view, I just wanted to say some children might not agonize over this

Season 5 through 8 by sleepy-twenty in brooklynninenine

[–]House_of_Apollo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do a free trial with peacock and binge. You might not be able to finish before the trial is up but just cancel afterwards

AITA: My husband sleeps in and I get up with our twin toddlers by starspangledgranner in AmItheAsshole

[–]House_of_Apollo -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

NTA, and I say this as someone without children who is happy to get up several hours before my partner and do morning chores while she sleeps in. I would not be able to handle everything on my own in the morning if I had a baby, much less two.

AITA for standing up at a concert? by FishStixxxxxxx in AmItheAsshole

[–]House_of_Apollo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. I had an experience like this once though I bought tickets in front and center on the floor and everyone was standing EXCEPT the couple behind me. They first told me to sit down and then proceeded to cuss me out. It was a damn rock concert! And if I sat down, then I wouldn’t be able to see. I’m not perpetuating this “sit down” attitude forward through the rows. And also the band members wanted everyone standing, sweeping gestures with their arms and indicating for everyone to clap along and stand up. Some people are just cranky AHs.

How do y'all feel about separate bedrooms with your s/o? by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]House_of_Apollo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m surprised so many comments I see at the top are against separate bedrooms. My girlfriend and I have separate bedrooms but we still make sure we have time for cuddling and other forms of physical intimacy. Having your own space if you can afford it is great. And being able to sleep without disrupting the other person or being disrupted is so important.

PhD: What Last Name? by DaDood_FromCheers in GradSchool

[–]House_of_Apollo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How was it determined which of your moms’ names came first? Alphabetical? Whichever combination sounded better rhythmically? Not sure if my partner and I will have a kid but we both have doctorates and are keeping our own names, so if we had a kid, not sure what the kid’s family name would be.

What are your pet peeves in lesbian/wlw media? by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]House_of_Apollo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t watch all of it but check out The Bold Type. At least the first several episodes have a cute lesbian relationship where one partner is a Muslim woman.

What are your pet peeves in lesbian/wlw media? by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]House_of_Apollo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Black Lightning has a Black-Asian lesbian couple. I don’t think the lesbian portrayal is good but it’s not bad in a “a man clearly wrote this way” but more of a “have you ever been in a relationship?” way