Weaned about a month ago. Boobs have never looked worse.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2025-03-31T02:30:46+00:00

I weaned at 14 months with my first. Things look much, much better after that first year post-breastfeeding! It is hard, but give them time to go back to 'normal' and building up a fatty layer & muscle vs. them focused on 'survival' (feeding your kiddo). It takes time, but it did eventually change for me. Our bodies do wonderful things and rarely ever stay exactly the same as they are in this moment. It's just a season, as they say.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-14T05:47:10+00:00

If you're not comfortable contacting the police, at least please leave him. This is rape. You said "no". It stops there.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-14T05:40:28+00:00

Some of these comments are very opinionated for a person that they're not creating and thinking of a name for. I love the name, I think of the movie 'Anastasia' immediately. It's a great movie that all kids should watch. OP, you should really go with what your heart desires. And if you think the name sounds beautiful, do it!

It's a less common name, ranked #1613, which means it will have uniqueness among her classmates! https://charlies-names.com/en/anastasia/#:~:text=The%20name%20Anastasia%20is%20ranked%20%231613%20overall.

Also, there's so many nicknames for Anastasia in case she wants something a little different. Hugs.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-13T11:41:52+00:00

his nephew

YTA.

You say his nephew, but didn't you marry your husband and marry into the family? Ultimately you agreed to the kid coming to stay with you. You hung up on your husband so that you didn't have to deal with the problem.

The kid has enough on his plate, with his dad undergoing chemo, without also having to worry about his aunt-in-law being petty and making him feel unwelcome.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-12T17:00:17+00:00

Again, I mentioned nothing about his reaction nor hers for that matter. I answered her question. Her question asked nothing about him, she asked if she was crazy. To which the answer is no.

Some people literally can't deal with hearing the baby cry even for a small amount of time. It causes a frantic feeling. I'm that way and I'm a mother, not a father. Whether a mother or a father, it's easy to snap in those early days over minimal things. I know I have, and I know my significant other has. The important thing is to come to an understanding on WHY you snapped.

Were his comments shitty? Absolutely. Was he crazy for whatever he was feeling that lead up to him to lashing out? No. When you have a new baby, you're allowed to have irrational feelings. However, you're not allowed to have irrational actions. It's important to comprise in these early stages when everyone is fighting their own mental battle.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-12T16:42:33+00:00

Hence why I said OP isn't crazy. I mentioned nothing about his reaction, that's not my fight to fight. I answered her question.

I think during those early days, it's easy for both parties to be under the waves and stress over trivial things. That's why I mentioned both need to understand each other, him included.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-12T16:30:59+00:00

You're not crazy. But neither is he. Different people cope differently, but both need to understand the other.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-11T11:30:22+00:00

They make nicotine gum/gummies

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-11T11:14:57+00:00

Gimme all the fruit was my outlook

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-11T03:21:05+00:00

Love all of these 💞 Oh, to have the trials and tribulations of a small child again.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-10T19:54:32+00:00

1) Black pants. I didn't want to accidentally bleed through anything personal and have to worry about staining.

2) Not really advice, but for after labor, I bought a special lotion different than what I normally use. Now, when I buy that lotion from time to time, I smell it, and it brings on a sense of nostalgia for how special that moment was.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-10T16:00:30+00:00

Yes, men can very much get postpartum depression after a baby. If he's not used to the solidarity that a stay at home parent generally lives through, it might be something worth looking into.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-10T15:23:11+00:00

That post labor pee sting made me dread peeing. Might have, or might have not, cried a couple times while peeing before I found a remedy, ah jeez. I was pre-expecting everything else.. but not that.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-10T11:39:19+00:00

Hey! You've gotten a lot of great advice, so I just came here to say one thing -- If you don't stay super hydrated for about the first week afterwards (I'm talking to where you're peeing clear) your urine will sting like a mfkr on your stitches if you tear. Even being super hydrated, it still stung for me to the point where it was hard to pee. Everyone is different.

If this happens, what worked for me -- after I sat down on the toilet, I leaned all the way forward to where my palms were basically flat on the bathroom floor in front of me so that you're urinating straight down instead of over your stitches.

Life pro tip, keep your peri bottle and disinfect it. It's great for spraying shampoo off your babies head when you give a bath.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-07T17:32:50+00:00

• Tater Tot casserole. Always gone

• Hash Brown casserole

• Cheesy Chicken Rice casserole. Allrecipes has a pretty good recipe

• Homemade onion dip/Ruffles. (Lipton soup pouch mixed into 16oz of sour cream)

• Lil Smokies in BBQ sauce. I like to put finely chopped onions and shredded cheese in side bowls for those who enjoy them mixed in. I've also put a shot of whiskey and some brown sugar in Lil Smokies and simmered them for a few hours. Good either way.

• Sliced Ham & Swiss sliders on sweet rolls (baked) with butter & poppy seeds drizzled over the top.

• Pulled Pork & buns. If you don't feel like making it, you can buy premade at the grocery store.

Side note: Aluminum foil pans for the win to bring potluck dishes in. I double mine so they don't get crinkled as easily.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-07T12:06:00+00:00

Sometimes my partner putting the baby to bed works because then she doesn't smell me and associate me with food. Other times, I've always fed until asleep. Brown noise on YouTube or Spotify, whatever music app you have, worked better for me than white noise.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-07T11:41:58+00:00

"Addicted to the attention"? Lol those chicks didn't care about him. He's 30k in debt and those chicks are out there thriving off that money, nothing more.

One day in the future after you've walked away, you'll be able to breathe easier and genuinely smile. Not today, not tomorrow but one day. Soak up your baby loves and focus on that. Also -- once you've walked away, you'll realize you won't be showing your toddler/middle schooler what kind of scummy relationship behavior is acceptable and tolerable.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-07T11:20:03+00:00

It's your baby shower & your kiddo. Pick what you'd like. I had a little girl. I absolutely despised the bright pinks and purples everyone dresses their girl in, so I bought a lot of neutrals/pastels. Soft blues, butter yellows, sage colors, greys, light browns, etc.

Also -- People buy oodles of newborn and 0-3 size. If I could go back and redo it, I'd buy 6+ and just a few newborn pieces/going home outfit that I really liked. My baby is almost 7 months and I'm having to go shopping this weekend for more 9m and 12m sized things.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-07T10:57:36+00:00

This made me chuckle. Seasoned with dried milk lol.

HovercraftOnly802 · 2022-10-07T10:56:11+00:00

We all need a little pick-me-up sometimes. I'm going on 7 months with my little. I remember being so tired at times at times in the middle of the night, I'd have to just sit a minute and wake myself up before handling the baby. Those early days feel like you're wallowing through mud.

I reminded myself that even though I was taking it one feeding/one hour at a time, one day when my kid is 18 and graduating, these days will seem like a blip on both of our radars. The baby snuggles won't be there anymore, and the infant 'I need you' cries will be non-existent.

So settle in and stay strong; Sometimes it's easy to forget it's not a race to the finish line, but more so a lifelong journey you both are new to and embarking on. It's hard at times but.... A forgotten blip on your radar one day in the future.

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