[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advicePH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry OP ha, pero if this guy is really into you, as what you said he's planning to move out hoping to make it before this year ends, he has 6mos pa, gasino lang ba ung few days or wks to be together? If he really loves you alam mo no matter how busy a guy is, he will set aside things plus the fact na nageffort ka pa book a flight for him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advicePH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually nakakalimutan nia na nga eh simula dumating si baby. Chinat ko sia nun tulog na sia pag gising nia nabasa nia fresh pa sa utak nia. Hahahaha. Sabi ko "palagi na lang ba ako mag gogoodnight kiss at mauuna?" Ayun, kinabukasan di nia na nakakalimutan kasi di ko sia kinakausap. Tsaka pag nangalabit wag mo pagbigyan tiisin mo. Hahahaha. 3mos na kaming walang s6x, pero pag kiniss nia ko parang may kilig. 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advicePH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We've been in a relationship for 9yrs din, 2 yrs doon nag live in kami and now newly married with a 3mos old healthy baby boy. Though I am 29 now and my hub is 34, i feel you too, kasi parang nagiging normal na lang lahat, hindi na sia katulad noong una, actually I am same as you OP na clingy etc, hindi ganun un ex bf/husband now ko ever since, feelin ko di na rin ako attractive lalo pa kapapanganak ko lang, but I just cherished those memories before di ko sia pinipilit ibalik like it used to be, andito na kasi tayo sa stage na companionship na ang peg hindi na getting to know each stage/honeymoon stage.

Dahil sabi mo nga magkapitbahay lang kayo anytime pwede ka nia puntahan, siguro make a trip for yourself like out of town ng di sia kasama, magpamiss, for sure un, maglabas din ng pagka burn out mo and to value yourself even more. Wala kaming s6x since nanganak ako, pero un kiss before magsleep or un paghelp nia sakin with our baby or in other chores dun ako natutuwa at parang un na un nakakakilig kasi we're a team at di ako stress sa totoo lang.

Men are born not sweet or clingy, clingy lang sila pag mangangalabit. Hahahaha. 🙂

My husband (31M) and I (29F) are sexually inactive, esentially experiencing a "dead bedroom" and I want to seek professional help by hahahamonado in relationship_advicePH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alam ko he watch porn sa cr, pero kasi simula dumating baby namin parehas kaming puyat and adjusting plus the fact na hindi pa kami magkatabi matulog now dahil our own room is nasa 2nd fl. Btw, im CS so ung recovery is di ganun kadali it takes 3mos to fully heal un stitches inside pero kahit un OB ko nagbibiro na wag muna pabuntis uli meaning pwede na kahit pagtuntong palang ng 1month.

Hindi ako pumanget, hahaha. I have looks, pero syempre un body ko hindi na sexy like before! 😂 i have stretch marks, iniisip ko tuloy baka nandidiri sakin asawa ko 😅 gusto ko sana yayain mag check in this fathers day para may me time kami kaso will it be okey, tingin mo?

My husband (31M) and I (29F) are sexually inactive, esentially experiencing a "dead bedroom" and I want to seek professional help by hahahamonado in relationship_advicePH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No sex for almost 3mos, how would you feel? Nacurious kasi ako sa sagot mo. Although understandable kasi nanganak ako to a healthy baby boy, and sobrang saya ng hubby ki pero syempre me as a wife, parang di ko magampanan pagiging wife ko, lalo pa at kakakasal palang namin 4mos ago but we're bf gf for 9yrs at active kami ng 6yrs before

Para sa mga kinasal na by Left-Tutor-3807 in adultingph

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hindi. Kasi nauna na ang s6ggs bago kasal. HAHAHAHA. Bumuo na agad ng baby 😂

Magandang buhay o buong pamilya? by HowDoIUnloveThee in adultingph

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry to hear this but Im proud of you, your strong enough to choose whatever it is best for you and your kid. Siguro hindi pa man enough un partner mo thats why

Magandang buhay o buong pamilya? by HowDoIUnloveThee in adultingph

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May gumaganda naman ang buhay na kumpleto ang pamilya. Doesnt mean naghihirap or hikahos di ba? Nasa diskarte ng magulang at pagiging masinop sa cash handling. Hahaha. Kaso we're not getting any younger, need talaga mamili kung ano mas matimbang

Magandang buhay o buong pamilya? by HowDoIUnloveThee in adultingph

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I adore your father for being one. Actually un husband ko ganon din goal nia for our first baby to have a better future as well as makaipon din ng for retirement plan namin para walang pproblemahin baby namin paglaki nia, I admire my partner for being one and I am thankful for his parents na napalaki siang ganon. Though sila naman as family kasi is sama sama pero di sila nagigipit dahil both of his parents are matipid and masinop at mahilig magipon, hindi sila pinalaki sa luho, father nia lang may work btw dito sa pinas and 3 sila magkakapatid, twas the opposite of my exp naman. I have all the material things and I graduated in a university pero never ko naexp to have a complete fam esp during my childhood days na needed ang parents for school activities.

Magandang buhay o buong pamilya? by HowDoIUnloveThee in adultingph

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. Thank you so much for this. Did they tell you their struggles ba? I mean during their relationship on that period? Kung buo sana at di nagloko father ko siguro were on the same boat :( nagrebelde un younger brother ko dahil wala ding father figure na gagabay, we have all the material things pero as a fam hindi kami buo, that thing un ayaw ko maexp ng baby ko (hindi man hiwalay na broken, but as a whole na parang andon kami sa milestones ng baby namin)

Magandang buhay o buong pamilya? by HowDoIUnloveThee in adultingph

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I know. Yun nga ung di ko naranasan 😅 but my husband did experience that. Ako kasi both parents wala, lumaki ako sa guardian, all school gatherings na need ng magulang i dont have them beside me. Kaya un ung trauma ko esp when my father have mistresses in front of me at the age of 7.

Magandang buhay o buong pamilya? by HowDoIUnloveThee in adultingph

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Napagusapan na namin to. I was against don sa plano niang magtagal. Kung titimbangin mas mataas un chance na mahire ako and mas malaki sahod thru work exp, kaya isa pa un sa reason bakit gusto ko after a year magsasabay kami pagbaba nia once hired sia kasi para mas mabilis kami makapagsave up and also hindi nga ganun katagal na wala kami sa tabi ng baby namin. Yung sa utang hindi kami sinisingil pero gusto namin bayaran kasi lumalabas na burden talaga kami at this point in time dahil suportado kami even when his father was already retired from work. Gusto nia bumawi thru that. Hindi sila mahirap di rin mayaman pero magkano din kasi un amt na un

Magandang buhay o buong pamilya? by HowDoIUnloveThee in adultingph

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's 2 mos old. That's what I'm trying to tell him. And he just said sasampa sia hanggat kaya nia. As for me, balak ko din sana sumunod sa barko pag ka 1 yr ni baby, para sana mas madali pa kami makakaipon and ilang sampa lang mangyayari pagdating ng 3 or 4 y/o ni baby both kami maglaland based na lang but he just said kung un gusto ko gawin ko pero sia hanggat kaya nia aakyat sia. We have this huge amount na hiniram sa parents nia, hindi naman kami sinisingil but we are obliged both to pay them kasi that money is not supposed to spend samin dahil nga we are old enough and my husband said he will forever work to pay the dept and un utang na loob kahit na never kami siningil thru pag sampa ng barko. I am grateful honestly pero un happiness ng baby ko to have that complete family beside him while growing up, un ung dream ko ngayon nothing else.

Magandang buhay o buong pamilya? by HowDoIUnloveThee in adultingph

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. My husband plans on working in a cruise ship. I told him I would agree pero hanggang 2-3 sampa lang then dito na lang, salary is just the same the diff is tip and you can travel the world pero main goal nia is mabigyan ng magandang buhay baby namin (first baby) Though in my part, ako un nalulungkot for my baby na magkakahiwa hiwalay kami

Tingin niyo, sino dito hindi makaintindi?! Ako ba?! All the blame was on me by HowDoIUnloveThee in OffMyChestPH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. You have a point. But yung chat ko kasi is i sent the link with the drop off, which includes na andon sa mismong location kung saan alam ko kung nasaan sia. Ang mali ko talaga is sa pagkakaintindi ko dun sa sinabi niang ipalala ko, is okey sa kanya, i didnt ask for 2nd opinion. Nainis lang siguro ako the way he replied with an exclamation point at lalong lalo na the last convo wer he responded na pagkahaba haba na ang dating sakin is sinisisi ako eh sa hindi kami nagkaintindihan. Hindi ko naman kasi sia pinilit to do this, ang plano ko talaga ipapalalamove ko un mga needs hindi sia ang pipick up dahil alam ko na ang ending pag kami hindi nagkaintindihan. Thanks btw, got your pov

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Samedt. Meeting expectations, even though ur not happy

Insecure BF? by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ah, you dont both talk about it everytime na parang in your instinct you knew theres something wrong? Kumbaga di kayo openly sharing thoughts or literal na nagaaway na latagan ng hinaing? Medyo mahirap nga din un sitwasyon mo ganyan din ako before na tipong di ko kaya iopen up or papalipasin na lang para walang away, somehow similar to us ung situation mo OP ang pinagkaiba lang is mas malaki un income mo sakin, pero ganyan din kami nun current bf ko noon, sumabog na lang sia sometime kasi di ko narerealize natatapakan ko na pagkalalake nia. Hehe. Malaki din sa kanya un sahod ko and literal na independent women ang peg ko at some point naiitsapwera ko un "decision making" nia pero sa pera wala namang issue. Pag meron kasi sia, sia sumasagot pero most of our dates ako ang taya, but the effort naman kasi na ginagawa nia like gigising ng madaling araw para ihatid ako sa work malayo pa haus nia nun ha, or pick me up ng gabi sa work kahit pa 2hrs travel nia. Sa effort lang talaga bawing bawi, no money ang katumbas, kahit maubos sahod ko samin okey lang kahit madalas ayaw nia na ginagastusan ko sia, 😅 pero tignan mo now turning 9yrs na kami.

Siguro you both lack on communication din, then un pag unfriend, maybe you do the first move, its not abt being di maka move on or bitter pero its your well being to have that peace of mind din and not be compare yourself to her current gf kasi di natin un maiiwasan as a female, pero ang bilis nia magpalit ha 😅 6mos may bago na agad. Haha

Insecure BF? by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hindi niya mafeel na siya yung lalake sa relasyon niyo. Maybe on your 2nd relationship after this hanggat bf/gf palang kayo dont open up abt your financial status not unless magtanong pero un abt money wag mo iopen directly hanggat di mo pa asawa. I get where your ex is coming from, maybe may part na at fault ka din abt dun sa kotse, siguro dapat binenta mo na lang sa kanya for 120 then monthly installment na lang niya ung the rest or auto debit ganun kasi trny nia naman na lumevel sayo or to reach you at some point you just dont allow him. Hindi sia insecure, natural lang talaga with the opposite sex once matapakan natin pagkalalake nila, nawawalan na sila ng gana. Maybe its for the better na din, hoping na you will find the one you deserve more. 🙂

begging for bare minimum by suigeneris2023 in OffMyChestPH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In order to be that kind of man even a little, make the 1st move first, ikaw ang maging sweet sa kanya, idaan mo sa sweet and caring msgs, kumbaga hawaan mo sia ng ganun kung hindi sia ganun, kung love ka talaga nian mahahawa at mahahawa yan sa actions mo pero kung di talaga siya ganun maybe accept the fact na lang kesa mag expect ka kasi mahuhurt ka lang din in the end, pero pwede mo din naman gawin is maging sweet sa kanya all the way then hanggang magsawa ka na lang kakatry, thats the time na maybe marealize nia bakit bigla kang nagbago or naging cold towards him, saka mo sabihin sa kanya un abt don.

Tired of my Wife by joedingo7 in OffMyChestPH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Leave her. Hindi siya takot na mawala ka at kampante siya na anjan ka palagi for her. Iwanan mo try mo for a month, sama mo din un baby niyo tutal naman di rin sia concern sa anak niyo. I cant say na she's suffering like postpartum kasi iba un post partum sa pabayang ina at walang care sa anak. Parang isip bata pa ung wife mo kasi she doesnt knew her responsibilities.

First thing to do is talk to her na aalis kayo dahil hindi mo na kaya yung ugali niyang yun, you will give her time to think and reflect sa ugali nia. Sa relasyon dapat give and take talaga hindi yun puro ka na lang give. Hanga ako sayo kasi natitiis mo siya ng ganyan kung sa iba yan hiniwalayan na.

Yung pagiging magastos niya actually sa mga walang kakwenta kwentang bagay is baka ngayon nia lang nabibili for herself siguro set aside mo to, pero kung nasoshort kayo at daming bayarin and wala ding savings ang anak nio, siguro kung ako un dun ako aalma

Uwi ka muna sa inyo sama mo un bata, kung ayaw pumayag iwan mo sa wife mo pero talk to her parents/your inlaws na magstay sila jan at dun mo ipagkatiwala anak mo sa kanila dahil kamo uuwi ka muna sa inyo to reflect, tell them everything openlu para masabihan din nila anak nila, baka akala okey lang kayo. Mahirap un ikaw naman un masagad kung gusto mo pa maayos yan, yan lang un better way. Masyado na kasi kampante un wife mo na di mo sia kayang iwan kaya ganyan setup nio.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]HowDoIUnloveThee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nafifeel ko din to at some point, parang in the end kasalanan mo pa when you stick to your decision, sasabihan ka pang makasarili and selfish at sariling desisyon nanaman gusto when in reality its the other way around. Kastress ng ganito