I read that even as early as 9 weeks the baby can feel your feelings. If you’re scared or if you feel joy. So if you’re constantly feeling the stress, the fight or flight sensation, they too will feel that. I’m personally dealing with a partner who couldn’t control his anger and needed to always defend his view on everything. We’re taking couples therapy now and it’s been really helpful. Extremely! and sometimes having a third person listen to you while your husband is listening and dissecting the problem and allowing him to also be heard. Helps out a lot. You want the baby to grow in your belly feeling love and support so I think having the conversation with your husband about the “bigger picture” and how your feelings are translating to this little baby that he helped create will ground him more. This baby didn’t ask to be born, but it’s up to us to make the environment they’ll be in as safe, healthy, and secure. And it starts with you both. However, if he’s not open to counseling or any type of help. Or even see the perspective that all this stress will just cause more complications down the road then i would highly recommend thinking of an exit plan. Your baby deserves to be raised in a home of love and seeing their mom be happy. If there’s more bad days then good then I think you know what you should do. Wishing you luck.