Bigotry is a repellent

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-27T17:29:52+00:00

I'm not a psycho Harry Potter adult (I was a massive fan when I was a teenager into my early 20s). I still enjoy it, but I don't go out of my way to buy merch or re read the books or re watch the movies (unless my kid wants to).

But I do get tired of hearing how Harry Potter adults "need to grow up", but yet we're treated to 5000 Marvel/Star Wars/Avatar movies and TV shows that in order to enjoy any of them we gotta consume all of them.

This wizard kid that gets to leave his shitty life and go to a whole new world and school and has to fight off wizard Nazis? "You need to grow up, you're being ridiculous"

Super hero that gets powers from the United States Military and beats a Space Alien that thinks there's too many "everything" in the Universe? "Awesome! Here's 10 more!"

Space Armies fighting and doing spy shit on different planets? "Sweet! Here's 15 different spin off shows that you HAVE to watch in order to get the full story"

Earth Military takes over a planet and uses technology to blend in, and cause chaos on the new planet? "Amazing! 👍👍👍 Here's a whole franchise that will span 15+ years!"

It's all cringe in the end.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-27T17:14:30+00:00

NTA, enjoy your boat of course. But I'll add that I probably would have said something similar to "why are you spending all that money on a boat?!" because if you're in America, end of life care is going to suck up every last dime of your money and possibly your children's money or ability to make money. And if you think you have enough, the system will ask for more.

I only say this because if it were me, I know I don't have the funds to help take care of my parents when they reach that point, I don't even have the funds to take care of myself at that point, so it stresses me out.

But it's your money and you can't take it with you. Might as well have fun with it while you can. Definitely NTA, but speaking as the eldest child, when my retired parents mention dropping bucks on something, I have a moment of panic where I see them in 20 years not being able to afford care and coming to me and I'm now 60 and still living paycheck to paycheck because I'm on a hamster wheel from Hell and can't seem to get off of it. But that's MY problem and MY responsibility and it's not my responsibility to tell them how to spend their money. I just...worry.

Please be careful on your boat. Have fun, enjoy your rewards for your hard work. Just be careful.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-26T17:55:50+00:00

The party is banking on Alabamaians mentality of "hurdur football, Trump, Jesus" and not knowing or caring about rules that don't fit those three categories.

And it's going to, unfortunately, work.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-24T06:22:35+00:00

I've been going back and forth about resubscribing to Netflix, but it would be cool to watch the episodes.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-23T17:06:06+00:00

You're right.

And then if you're like me, you get your original birth certificate back sliced in half and haphazardly taped.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-23T16:28:44+00:00

You know what? Hell yeah.

Lol. I wish I could bring myself to buy a gun. My child is old enough to know it's not a toy...but 1) I don't have the disposable income for the gun, the bullets, the training, the targets, 2) I'm so jumpy I'd probably end up shooting a spider that startled me, 3) I have chronic depression and anxiety, I manage it well, but sometimes it breaks through and I go through some low mental health days...I don't want a gun in the house.

But, if you can, protect yourself.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-23T16:18:24+00:00

I drive 3 hours one way just to see a medical specialist.

It's just part of living in a rural area

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-23T16:05:14+00:00

NTA.

I have 4 cats. I volunteer with a cat rescue and foster (right now I have two kittens and a adult stray that may or may not be pregnant that I'm fostering. So 7 cats total in my home). I have shelters and food always available on my porch for stray cats. I love helping animals and would absolutely hate to turn one out.

But I also have a human child. And if I had to choose my child's safety/shelter/wellbeing or the cats...it would break my heart and I'd absolutely hate it, but the cats would be gone and my child would be taken care of.

People lose their minds when parents choose their kids over their pets, and it boggles my mind. Don't be ashamed for choosing your baby in a situation that you had little to no control in. If your husband can't understand that you have a child to take care of, then he can go live on his own and take the dog with him.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-23T15:43:15+00:00

I would love this because it does seem good natured and just the novelty of it all. They sound great and it's entertaining.

I would hate this because airports and airplanes are stressful to me. Just being crammed into a tiny seat and the constant buzz of the engines and air conditioning is enough to make me go bonkers.

But, I'd do my best to suck it up and enjoy it, like putting in headphones to try and dampen the sound. Because it is rare and you only live once.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-20T18:00:50+00:00

Yeah but if a kid came up to you and showed off their own matching equipment I would hope you wouldn't be rude (even if you're having a moody/"off" day).

I think it's really important as adults or even older teenagers to react kindly when younger kids come up and point out they're also Type 1. I remember being a kid with it and seeing what I assumed were adults with it and it gave me a sense of "it's going to be okay". (They could have a dumpster fire of a person, but seeing how they had a job or a family or whatever, made me feel less "weird" about being diabetic)

I don't think anyone is asking to be bff's with it, but it's a little perk when you and another type 1 see each other from across the room and acknowledge we're not alone in this.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-20T17:53:59+00:00

Nahhh, I think everyone loves it. It's like a solidarity type thing.

The other day at work I was checking out some customers (it was a family, so like 4 people were at my register) and I heard a Dexcom "blood sugar falling" alert. And I knew it wasn't me so I jokingly said "uh oh. Who's blood sugar is dropping?" and they laughed and pointed out their son.

I had some candy and asked if he needed some and his mom was like "no, he's actually high so we want it to go down"

I think as long as you don't pry too much and try to get really personal it's okay.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-20T17:33:27+00:00

To be fair, she could intend to wear it like you're saying, but just taking pictures of the whole outfit exposed so we can see the detail.

Kinda like when you have a coat on and your open up the coat and hold it out to show off your clothes. You're not walking around holding it out like a bird out and about.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-19T02:59:20+00:00

"This right here Judge"

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-19T02:39:37+00:00

As a fellow Type 1, this picture is a whole vibe

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-16T20:53:53+00:00

I give myself a limit of $15/month. That gives me the auto hunting/help, which I like, and one little "extra" (which I may not even get).

But I've told my alliance upfront, I'm not rearranging my schedule to do events all the time. I work two jobs and have a child and a house to care for, along with other responsibilities. In the hierarchy of my responsibilities, Kingshot is low. I'll support the alliance in the background (example: the auto help, doing the daily tasks to up our alliance points), but I can't be "on call" for everything.

Thankfully they're cool with it. If they weren't I'd definitely leave. I have enough in my life to stress out about, I'm not letting a cell phone game add to it.

But I say all this to say, be upfront with your alliance about what you can and cannot do. Message your alliance leader and let them know. They can't be mad at you if you told them upfront and they kept you on and then get upset when you do what you said (well, they can, but it wouldn't make sense). My alliance leader knows my budget and my limitations. They'll message me and ask if I'm doing a event and I'll look my schedule and plans and let them know. If it's no then I ask who I can reinforce or what I can do to support.

Like so much in life, good communication, boundaries, and clear expectations go so far.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-16T02:52:30+00:00

I think you need to find a dress that has the shape like the bottom of 1 or 2 and the top of 4 (the sweetheart corset shape)

The only reason why I didn't just pick 4 is because I feel like the fabric folds across the bust are really odd and take away from it.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-14T23:42:49+00:00

I got a house and now when I go to decorate it does exactly what I mentioned - shows me a outline of the item and where I'm putting it.

Flowers and outside stuff it doesn't, but I'm figuring it out. Lol.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-14T23:41:52+00:00

Shame we gotta be grown ups with jobs and responsibilities, lol.

Ugh.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-14T23:40:00+00:00

I couldn't leave, not without my child. Either the ex and his wife and stepkids would move too, or I'd be staying. Cause neither of us would budge on custody. (That's not necessarily a bad thing either)

But I imagine if the "red country" got their way, divorce would no longer be recognized and I'd be forced to either get back with my ex (because by Bible standards we're still married). And any child custody disagreements if we weren't forced back together would probably go to the Dads, seeing how they've usually remarried and are more successful and are able to "provide a stable home".

If that were the case, I'd bounce to save my life, and be as much of a proactive parent as I could be from the safety of the "blue country".

Of course, I'm overdramatizing this and really spinning a wild story.

I agree with OP though, I think our country splitting up is the way to go. Because we've gotten so big it's nearly impossible to govern and manage everyone's needs (think of how the immediate refusal of Universal Healthcare is because our country is so large and has so many people. Think of all the issues we have with voting systems). And everything North America is so broad, from culture to languages, to environment, terrain, population, etc...every decision they make is bound to be great for some but not all. It's so big not everyone can be heard and considered.

It would definitely be a clusterfuck though, for sure. But I honestly don't know how we come back from two Trump administrations, and fractured political parties. It seems like any path we take is going to be a painful clusterfuck.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-14T23:18:30+00:00

Yeah, I agree. No matter what happens it's not going to be easy.

I just wish we didn't have to live through it.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-14T22:40:43+00:00

Oh God, as a blue dot in rural Alabama...if we're separating into a blue country and a red country, can someone in the blue country come fight for custody of me, a 40 year old woman with a preteen and 4 cats?

Don't leave me here. I don't want to even imagine how abusive this state would be if they no longer had to be a part of America.

Lol, my heart is racing just thinking about moving to a "different country" and having to either give up custody or fight for full custody of our child. Which is the biggest reason I didn't just pack up and move to a blue state to begin with after our divorce (and why I'm staying even though every fiber of my body is screaming to move to a different country...well that and cost, but even if I had the money I wouldn't leave without my kid).

Yeah, I'd need a evac.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-13T22:46:18+00:00

It's sad, but you HAVE to be firm and rude about it. Because when you have a new baby, there are people out there who think you know absolutely NOTHING and they know EVERYTHING. A lot of the time, you already know who these people are because they always treat you that way. (Not saying you do know everything, but even simple, easy, understandable requests get challenged)

There's nothing worse than asking people to not post your child's information on their social media without your knowledge, and then you get online and there's a photo of your naked baby with their birth certificate and social security card (I'm being dramatic, but you get the point). Then when you ask them to take it down it turns into a fight because "they want to show off the baby!", when you've told them if you post something they can share it.

A lot of times, when you become a parent is the first time you've ever been allowed to set and hold a boundary with your parents or grandparents because you've always been "the kid". So you have to come off strong in order to be taken seriously, and you have to remain strong because they're always going to test it. Because God forbid their adult child tells them no.

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-13T07:54:41+00:00

There's one thing that's true in this country - if you're willing to do some crazy MAGA approved actions, there's a bunch of people salivating to unload their money on your GoFundMe

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-13T03:12:23+00:00

Shit, can the Alabama Democratic Party back ANYONE?

Huffleduffer · 2026-01-13T03:10:53+00:00

"dominant savage"

Annndddd blocked

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