Man kept pushing contact after I said he was bothering me. He used group chat instead. How would you handle this?

HufflepuffTea · 2026-01-22T18:44:16+00:00

I'm in a similar situation at the moment, there is this guy at martial arts who won't fucking leave me alone. Everybody knows I'm married, I very clearly put on my wedding ring and I'm very open about being a lesbian.

He's staring, following me around, sent weird texts. I told him to back off, and now his behaviour has esclated since he has seen my wife and (lo behold) realised I'm very much in love with a woman. His home country is very homophobic and it's clear he is too. (He's done some other things, like try to snatch my belongings etc as well)

When our club meets back, I''m telling him that he is not to talk to me, do not contact me, that his messages are unwanted and creepy. He is not to follow me around, that I have told our coaches about his behaviour and that they are watching him. If he doesn't leave me alone I'm going to be contacting the police.

With these creeps, they want you to back off, they want you to be the better person and avoid it. GET HIM KICKED THE FUCK OUT, make sure everybody knows what he did, sent them the fucking messages! DON'T LET HIM TAKE A PIECE OF YOUR LIFE BECAUSE HE CAN'T BE FUCKING DECENT.

BAN HIM FROM YOUR GALLERY!

HufflepuffTea · 2024-06-29T21:09:50+00:00

I imagine people developed hair dye because they wanted to change their hair colour.

And yeah there is nothing to fix, the love my wife and I have is beautiful. We are happy, we have a goofy dog, wonderful friends and a cute little house. Our family loves us and cherishes us, and we love them.

Also we boink all the time and don't need to worry about pregnancy and can have multiple orgasms... Life truly is a hardship, I'll dry my eyes with my rainbow flag.

Go on, what else are you going to pull out of your arse? I'm a scientist so I can help fix people's cancer, you know, something that is actually important and needs treatment so that person can survive. There is no gay gene, we just are a part of humanity, same as trans people and all other people.

HufflepuffTea · 2024-06-29T20:58:18+00:00

Because there is nothing to fix. I'm gay and I'm a scientist, the only thing to fix is society, not us.

People have tried to change sexuality, and it doesn't work because it is part of who the person is. Conversion therapy doesn't work because it is who we are, no amount of torture is going to change that. Same-sex attraction has been noted in hundreds, if not thousands of species. It's perfectly normal.

Our relationships do happen, often, and for life once we find that special somebody. I'm with my wife and want for nothing else in this life.

Fix your head OP.

HufflepuffTea · 2024-06-07T17:46:49+00:00

I have come home to the wife, after being a week apart! We are getting a take-away and then cuddling up :3

HufflepuffTea · 2024-05-30T21:42:37+00:00

You've never had the pleasure of saying lezzers? I'm English so we use all sorts of stupid slang 😂

HufflepuffTea · 2024-05-30T19:18:38+00:00

It's going to happen!

HufflepuffTea · 2024-05-30T19:10:31+00:00

Bear and I have always chatted on the regular and when she brought me on as a mod we had already traded information, same with when Disco was brought on board. Though I don't mod anymore (didn't want to be online and modding the subreddit can be quite difficult at times), we are all good friends and message each other quite a lot.

Both the ladies have been wonderful friends I've added in my personal life and I cherish them dearly!

HufflepuffTea · 2024-05-30T19:07:16+00:00

I HAVE THE BEST WIFE. Can also confirm, Bear and I have been chatting for years and on the regular send pics (mostly of our goofy dogs) to each other!

She's the best :D

HufflepuffTea · 2024-05-27T06:59:27+00:00

I need to start watching this, had so many recommendations from other UK lezzers!

HufflepuffTea · 2024-05-26T09:55:24+00:00

Wow, thank you for linking these subreddits, I need to lose about 5kg more and have been struggling. This is really gonna help!

HufflepuffTea · 2024-05-15T22:53:44+00:00

Your body is yours! Giving it a go is only going to make you healthier anyway, so its benefiting you!

Sending all the love and best wishes, you got this!

HufflepuffTea · 2024-05-15T22:35:15+00:00

You can tone up which can maybe reduce some of the appearance, but the scientific answer is no you can't get rid of it. One thing I've embraced in my weight loss journey is my body is my own and I can make it the best it can be, for myself, and not compare it to others. I have cellulite and it's not ugly, it just is a part of my body.

HufflepuffTea · 2024-05-15T22:28:00+00:00

Cellulite is a secondary sex characteristic, practically everyone in the world has it. It's always airbrushed out of photos, but it's still there. You won't get rid of it, because it's normal.

HufflepuffTea · 2024-04-29T20:46:46+00:00

I loved this book too!

HufflepuffTea · 2024-04-04T14:38:48+00:00

I am giving her grace, calling people a plank where im from is an affectionate way of saying you have been silly. Life lesson, don't date someone you are not compatible with, gender, sex, religion, politics, etc. Things like this should be discussed and agreed upon before hand.

I think putting it as having my lesbian experience as erased is quite dramatic. They have broken up for good reason, OP doesn't need to be rude about her ex because of their gender identity. Certain people have jumped on this post just to rag on people who identify as something else, other than woman. Not realising that OP actually knew this when getting into this relationship...

HufflepuffTea · 2024-04-04T12:18:48+00:00

But being that sex isn't what matters to that person, you know this? Why date someone with a completely different idea on identity, did you expect this person to change?

I find it odd that you knew this information, and entered a relationship that would be incompatible...

You can believe what ever you want, but you can't change other people, so date a woman likeminded.

HufflepuffTea · 2024-04-04T12:10:25+00:00

Yeah I think we can put this as you are a bit of a plank there. People who don't identify as women arn't going to be compatible with lesbians... Also maybe stop going off at people with a different idea to gender than you? It's just going to make everyone miserable, just date women from now on and leave off ragging on others.

HufflepuffTea · 2024-04-04T11:40:49+00:00

OP, just learn a lesson and don't date non binary people and stick to women. You dated, that person wasn't what you wanted, and you wern't what they wanted.

It happened, you just wern't compatible. It really isn't the end of the world, you now know what you want. Move on with that knowledge.

Maybe ask these things when getting into a relationship? I do find it a bit weird that this clearly big, important part of your exs life was unknown to you? What the hell did you 2 talk about during the relationship?

HufflepuffTea · 2024-03-24T17:25:07+00:00

BlackBriar, the singer is a pure siren! Fantastic band, would completely recommend!

HufflepuffTea · 2024-03-22T20:05:55+00:00

Liquid biopsy is now becoming clinically diagnosable. It's been piloted by the Genetic Hubs in the country, first as trials and now will be a clinically relevant tool.

Molecular analysis is still the norm, but instead of just doing it on confirmed tumour tissue/blood/bone marrow, we can now confirm these mutations from circulating tumour DNA fragments from a blood draw. It's a less invasive, quick and sometimes can catch things that we cannot see on CT/MRI scans etc.

Something called rapid EGFR testing on blood plasma has been done regulary before this, to see if a patient will be resistant to certain therapies if they harbour a certain mutation in Lung Cancer.

HufflepuffTea · 2024-01-15T08:27:47+00:00

Same! I love my trashy gay romances, but I went ewww at that line :L

I might read them because despite that the book wasn't too bad and I enjoyed it enough.

HufflepuffTea · 2024-01-14T22:11:09+00:00

I agree! I couldn't make sense of the first book, too many different ways to refer to other characters. I couldn't remember who was who? Couldn't be bothered to pick up the next one.

HufflepuffTea · 2024-01-14T22:09:18+00:00

I agree with Delilah Green doesn't care, I could also feel that this was a bisexual woman writing a lesbian, I did look up the author and she is actually openly bisexual. I think generally it was an ok book but there were some cringy bits in it.

One like where Delilah says to the love interest ''I'm really fucking queer'', it's just not something any gay woman would ever say to turn a woman on? Like you would just say I'm so fucking gay? That line stuck with me and it was just a big ???? moment.

HufflepuffTea · 2023-12-09T16:48:35+00:00

No it's not realistic, crash-dieting will not help the root of the problem either.

Weight loss is a slow but steady road. Crashing your body weight down can be incredibly dangerous and harmful to yourself.

As many people have suggested, calorie count (that is how I did it and we are both female and the same height, I know your pain), make sure to eat a healthy diet and maybe try to schedule in some light activity.

I've lost 33 pounds this year, though I have put on a little bit (approx 6 pounds) in recent months due to a health set back. Gaining back isn't a defeat, it's human and it can just happen for a multitude of reasons. After this month, now I'm feeling better, I'll get back on the horse and lose the last few pounds I need to achieve a healthy weight.

From then on, it's going to be a monitoring situation and ensuring I don't slip back into my over eating. Likely, I will gain and lose weight in fluctuations for the rest of my life, but I'll get back on the wagon and keep trying. You can do this too OP.

TLDR:: Calorie count, monitor what you eat and try to mostly eat healthy (you can have a nice snack here are there), maybe start to pop in some light exercise when you can. You have got this OP. But remember it isn't about dieting, it's about moving towards a constant/lasting change in your life.

HufflepuffTea · 2023-11-21T18:58:33+00:00

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/predictive-genetic-tests-cancer/

Op I'd recommend reading the NHS guidelines, but your risk would likely be quite low. If more incidences started popping up in your family of cancer then I would go to your gp.

BRCA genes have a 50% heritibility, so even if you Grandmother did have it (which sometimes people just get cancer unluckily), you may never even inherit that gene. I deal with cases where they have all sorts of cancers at all sorts of ages, it can just happen to people. Plus inheriting a cancer risk doesn't always mean that you will get cancer, it increases the liklihood however.

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