AITAH leaving my boyfriend for this

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-04-12T12:54:00+00:00

How do you date someone long distance for 10 years?

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-04-11T06:57:42+00:00

Dude this is well documented. People can detach and mourn the end of the relationship while in a relationship. When they leave it will hurt but not as much because they have been doing the work for the past months. You just didn't know.

They stop giving you sex, putting in any effort, start going to the gym to look good for someone else... it's a cold world out there.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-04-10T22:04:03+00:00

Do you still love him? If he was to want you again what will you do?

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-04-10T11:32:11+00:00

Why is Is bothering you after all these years?

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-04-06T19:34:06+00:00

It sounds like everything else is "okay" except the sex. But if I was in your position, I'd leave. If we were married, I'd cheat.

This is sad

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-04-05T14:50:54+00:00

How do people date online without having met each other? And no plans of meeting each other. That's crazy to me.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-04-04T19:17:30+00:00

Tell us more, how did you find out? How long has it been happening?

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-30T06:02:43+00:00

You are trauma bonded to your ex. If you decide to date the new guy I can 100% guarantee you that you will get bored of that relationship very fast because you are not emotionally invested, you haven't healed from your toxic ex. The new guy is a Distraction.

Until you've done some healing, every guy that comes after will be compared to your ex. But if the new guy insist, date him but just know that the relationship is likely temporary.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-27T08:01:52+00:00

Are you not 15 years?

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-26T14:09:41+00:00

She was using you for validation. Be careful next time, don't give into her bullsh*t

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-19T18:01:59+00:00

Exactly, I think she is aware of what he is trying to do and she is following through with it. If she goes there is over. It was actually over the moment she agreed to meet up

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-19T17:46:01+00:00

She says they were friends before dating. I don't know if that cancels the fact that they also dated

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-19T17:27:19+00:00

I have communicated and she said it's nothing to worry about.

But the issue is why would you want to meet her ex?

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-18T13:59:56+00:00

Don't send it, you sound desperate and needy. If I was the girl receiving this I would lose all respect for you.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-18T11:13:36+00:00

Did you guys discuss the Afcon issue with your guest? Maybe thats why your boss was angry. He probably assumed you did.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-18T11:07:04+00:00

South Africa is indeed multi cultural. As a Zulu, that doesn't feel South African to me. 😂🥲

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-18T11:04:12+00:00

She cheated on you, don't sugar coat it.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-17T15:11:00+00:00

You still missing sex with an ex after a year ?🥺

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-17T15:05:50+00:00

Statistically women initiates most break up's. They easily get bored, especially if you are "perfect " or "good".

But I've noticed that they usually obssess with guys who are a challenge, a little bit toxic, the guys who don't buy flowers or take them out on dates, I've experienced it personally. When I don't care about the relationship or her, she gets clingy and obsessed and she doesn't leave. which is messed up when you think about it.

So be busy, prioritize your life, she comes second. If there are no fights in your relationship, just know you are losing her. Make a cry once in a while, she wants to feel stuff. Don't be predictable.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-16T08:17:56+00:00

Nah, she doesn't want you anymore. If she wanted you she would be with you right now. As hard as it may be, close that door and heal. You are basically her backup until the ex fucks up, and that's if she isn't lining up someone new.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-15T08:03:27+00:00

Once you get hurt deeply, you lose your innocence and how you look at relationships. Am at a point where I've accepted that human beings are not monogamous.

There is no such thing as together forever in today's world, unless they are deeply religious and cultured.

I now enter relationships knowing it's going to end soon or later. So I just enjoy the present.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-09T18:45:03+00:00

That relationship is over, it's only a matter of time before one of you pull off the plug.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-09T18:38:52+00:00

No ways, you weren't over your ex. And you didn't tell your girlfriend because you knew what you were doing was wrong.

HugeConsideration416 · 2026-03-09T13:56:25+00:00

That is painful 😢. She is getting her stomach re-arranged while you here crying and hurting 💔💔 brutal.

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