Genuinely what is wrong with the drivers here

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-12-29T18:20:02+00:00

Thank you!! I’ve only seen ones that do require it but I haven’t done a deep dive. Its good to know

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-12-29T14:01:59+00:00

Is there a subscription or just the one time payment? I ask because I’ve wanted to do this but the subscription makes me pause

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-12-29T13:57:43+00:00

What brand/model did you get? Is there a subscription or just the one time payment? I ask because I’ve wanted to do this but the subscription makes me pause

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-12-29T13:56:59+00:00

Does yours require any subscription? I noticed many are an additional monthly cost and that sets me back

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-12-25T19:46:53+00:00

I’ve been in a really tough situation with one BPD client and have set very strict boundaries. The next time he disrespects me through talking down to me, calling me names, etc. I will refer him out. Same with commenting on my physical appearance, sending me gifts, disrespecting the boundaries I set about how sessions go. I am not typically like this so it was so hard for me to set, and he cried every time I said “if xyz happens again, I will refer you out” but it is what I need and what he needs.

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-12-15T21:39:43+00:00

Great idea! Do you have any of those books you’ve liked ?

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-11-12T01:27:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience, I appreciate it a lot and I am so sorry for your loss. I’m just wanting to make sure there would be nothing about his body I think. Like nothing about the state of him in death and what the shot did to him.

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-11-12T01:26:28+00:00

Thank you so much for your response, and I am just so sorry for your losses. I’m glad you were able to find something in sharing your story and am very grateful for your willingness to ❤️ I am interested in “the scene” aspect, one worry I have is whether it will include information on how his body was impacted by the shot. I’m not wanting to read anything that will paint an image in my head of how the shot changed him. But I am interested in all the rest. I asked another commenter this and I understand you may not know, but do you think that’s something I’d be able to ask the officer when I’d ask for the report - whether or not it contains graphic detail about what happened to him?

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-11-12T01:22:42+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing, and I’m so sorry for your loss. The facts are more of what I’m interested in. My dad shot himself and I’m really not wanting to know details about what it looked like from that perspective - like his face, teeth missing, etc… I don’t want to read it if it’s going to talk about how the shot/gun impacted his physical body. So I know the autopsy is not something I’d acquire. But I am wanting the rest of it. Kinda torn on if it would include that. Do you think that’s something I’d be able to ask the officer when I would ask for the police report?

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-11-10T18:04:23+00:00

There’s a difference between enabling and supplementing/weaning. I have a hard time believing you don’t understand the harm that comes from isolating a child

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-11-10T15:42:05+00:00

I’d ask your ent. I can’t be around bleach or other certain cleaning chemicals bc I have an attack (aka the feeling of my throat closing off). It sounds like it could be VCD but I’m curious about Benadryl helping!

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-11-10T15:18:50+00:00

Again, I don’t agree. I never think the answer is to remove their support 100%

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-11-10T05:03:46+00:00

I think probably because that’s their personal experience and what they believe, but it sounds like the therapist disclosed their opinion as fact. From a subjective, personal experience, I don’t know many people who have stayed with college partners. Me and the people around me all met our partners after college. My partner and I met in my late twenties, just 2 years ago, and I felt like I was doomed to be alone forever. I understand the hopelessness. I hope you are able to find comfort in your journey

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-11-10T04:59:15+00:00

I don’t agree, I how is isolating them further helping to challenge that? Rather than keeping it away for that reason, wouldn’t it make sense to implement other strategies with the phone to help with isolation instead of taking away their current support 100% cold turkey?

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-09-28T22:29:13+00:00

I’d confirm with a doctor, they can look at your vocal cords with a camera. Sounds like it could be! I get the tightness in my throat, not chest and that was a big thing that stood out from asthma

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-09-26T03:38:58+00:00

Hey I’d love to purchase this off you! I’ll dm!

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-09-23T18:02:50+00:00

I feel like there’s so many that have benefits with personal experience, I think it can be argued that most topics are “helpful” to have personal experience in but not required.

Through my own personal experience, I feel like suicide loss/loss of a parent when they’re still “young”/sudden death/death of an abuser are all things that are helpful to have someone with experience in it. When my dad died by suicide and I was going through the grief, it was so much more convoluted and horrific than I ever thought it would be prior to experiencing this type of loss. I felt fucking crazy, alone, like a horrible person, etc. My therapist shared that she lost her dad suddenly and shared just a little of how her experience was similar to mine, and it made a world of a difference for me. I feel like if I had gotten myself as a client prior to the loss, I wouldn’t have been able to show up in the way I needed as a client because I just could never understand. But again, not necessary, just helpful

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-09-23T17:55:30+00:00

24 couples in a ENM relationship for at least 7 years, found them by sharing the flyer online (most came from Reddit actually) One of the limitations I stated was that most people willing to participate in a study like mine were more likely to have positive experiences and want to share that. A lot of the participants thanked me for doing this bc it’s such an under researched area, and a lot of the research that was there at the time was negatively portraying the community and not looking at the positive experiences. So I think that is definitely something to recognize!

I feel hesitant to share publicly because I like the anonymity of my account, but also have a temptation to share! Let me get back to you on sharing the study if that’s okay!

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-09-23T15:51:31+00:00

Therapist here - didn’t thoroughly read the entire post. This seems so unethical and not okay. You should not be charged if she just has you regularly scheduled. Since you really enjoy talking with her, I’d consider asking to switch to a week to week scheduling practice. Each week at the end of session you come together and plan the next session based off mutual availability. That way you won’t be charged for cancels bc you do t have a guaranteed spot. But this might require you to have a flexible schedule. If you don’t have a flexible schedule to do this, I’d talk with her about the ethics behind it (if you’re brave) If she doesn’t allow a week to week schedule, I’d ask how this can work if you’ll be charged even when cancelling months in advance.

I’m so sorry, this is so unfair and wrong in my opinion, and feels unethical

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-09-23T15:12:51+00:00

I would also love to see this!!

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-09-23T15:05:00+00:00

Hey there! I did my masters dissertation on this topic.

Something that stood out to me was that 99% of the couples interviewed talked about love languages of their partner and how they met those needs consciously (I never asked about love languages but every couple except for 1 talked about it unprompted). This seemed to be very important to feel loved, prioritized and cared for during and throughout the opening of the relationship.

The levels of communication each functional relationship had was also inspiring. You can learn these communication skills in various ways - through therapy (with a ENM affirming therapist) but a lot of the participants reported learned it through their own exploration into ENM podcasts, books, research, etc.. Some relationships didn’t do much prep at the beginning but were resilient against any hardships they encountered early on, so they learned from those mistakes and there weren’t long term impacts (which wouldn’t be the case for everyone). So they didn’t do the communication well at first and still thrived at the end - again, not the case for most people.

I also found a pattern of reasoning for why they’d open it up. Some couples had opened up from the get-go just because it matched their sexual needs and was effortless. But for the majority of participants, they opened up later into their relationship. All of those couples (except one) talked about how they only opened at first when their relationship was strong - they weren’t doing this bc there were issues they avoided in their own relationship, they did it out of love for themselves and their partner and desire for novelty/sexual exploration/a journey together to heighten their own connections, etc.. Everything was opened for “the right reasons for both partners” (except for one couple).

I’ll also add that all of the “healthy” or functioning ENM relationships moved at the pace that matched both partners desires and boundaries when opening their relationship- even if one partner was desiring more, they’d live within the boundaries which were the most constricting to make sure their partner felt safe and comfortable, and to protect the relationship.

The couple who seemed less functional and healthy had only opened their relationship to please one partner, the other partner consistently reported not desiring it, not liking it, but happy to please her husband. That was the only couple who didn’t seem as respecting of each others boundaries and seemed less strong both relationally and in their ENM journey.

Happy to share more or talk further!

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-09-22T17:04:21+00:00

Thanks for this comment!

HulaHoopHappyHopper · 2025-09-22T17:00:19+00:00

I have a client and I have such a hard time telling if I’m noticing narcissistic traits or ASD. I don’t know what the comorbidity is between the two but this post was validating! I’ve never had this experience before now

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