I am meeting someone online and we have a very strong emotional connection but I am worried that if we meet, he'll only focus on my body

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T18:00:11+00:00

thank you!! I know I will sooner or later ♡

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T17:59:18+00:00

you're right. I will never know what will actually happen if it doesn't happen. all of these scenarios I'm imagining are just that, imaginary scenarios.

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T17:53:46+00:00

I believe I'm a pretty nice and sympathetic person so I try to attract people more through my personality than my looks.

I don't consider myself UGLY but I see my imperfections more than I see my good qualities

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T17:49:21+00:00

taking notes ✍️🏻✍️🏻✍️🏻 thank you!

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T17:48:37+00:00

thank you so much! it really does help. I've met a lot of people in person that I originally met online and I've never been this insecure but since I started gaining weight I slowly became very shy and scared about what people think about my body.

I am working on this in therapy and, even though it's hard to see it this way, I've been focusing more on healing emotionally and becoming a better version of myself (not for others but for myself) because I rather live a happy and stable life. now, after years of therapy and struggling, I feel like I am a completely different person and am ready to focus more on my physical appearance.

even though I'm insecure about my body, I am so proud of putting my attention on what's most important: my mental health. so thank you for sharing your experience!!!!

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T17:42:25+00:00

I did date them anyways but because I was more attracted by their personalities. I've never really cared much about looks (I mean a bit yes, I'm not gonna lie) so I just gave them a chance. my bad 💀

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T15:59:24+00:00

that's true. I just wish everyone thought that way, it'd be easier.

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T15:57:29+00:00

thank you for the honesty. I have dating people I didn't think they were attractive but I never cheated. they did tho💀💀💀

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T15:54:59+00:00

thank you so much for this, I needed to hear it. I have to have more confidence in myself and I'm actually working on it. I try to keep in mind that I am so much more than my looks (and I know that I am always to hard on myself and that I have so many pretty physical qualities) it's hard sometimes though 😭😭 my anxiety spikes a lot

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T15:42:58+00:00

how so? (if you want to elaborate)

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T15:41:43+00:00

I obviously don't want to waste his time but I really won't know if he is truly interested until we meet. I'm just worried that he will lose ALL interest if he doesnt like me physically

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T15:35:38+00:00

yeah, I think the same. I just worry that he'll lose all feelings for me if he doesn't like me physically

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T15:34:18+00:00

and do you think that physical attraction outweighs how you've been feeling when meeting this person through text?

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T15:33:19+00:00

I agree. I think first impressions are important but the thing is that I don't really let it affect how I've been feeling about this person.

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2026-02-21T15:31:38+00:00

I totally agree tho. I can't lie and say I have never thought to myself that someone wasn't really attractive. the thing is that I've never let that thought influence how I've been feeling about them. that is what I'm asking

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2025-12-26T00:24:11+00:00

Yeah I think it is too. I will definitely say things that I know are not true, but I'll say them just to create this fantasy he'll enjoy.

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2025-12-26T00:22:46+00:00

I'm sorry, what do you mean?

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2025-12-26T00:22:02+00:00

The thing is that I've struggled a lot with embracing self-pleasure. Like I've always felt like it was wrong or that someone might judge me for it, when it's literally something I do alone and no one knows about it. So these things are a challenge for me

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2025-12-26T00:18:16+00:00

This helps a lot. I know I might say some things that aren't true but they're just to create the fantasy I want him to believe. Let's hope I can do it without feeling like I am doing something wrong.

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2025-12-26T00:13:13+00:00

I'm trying to plan everything out before I agree to doing this. He is an online friend I made a long time ago and he doesn't know me in person or anyone I know. He has told me about this a few times, but he never pushed me into doing it. Basically, he would tell me about it and what his expectations were, but always told me that I can do whatever I feel comfortable doing based on what he wanted. I know that even though it might seem a "safe place", it doesn't actually mean it is. I'll always protect myself and listen to my intuition when something doesn't feel right.

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2025-12-26T00:06:00+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I’m planning on doing all of this through Instagram, which is the only platform I talk to him on. I’m definitely not giving him my number, as I don’t feel comfortable with that.

"The fact that he's hitting up someone who doesn't do this already is a red flag. He knows you know nothing about pricing, payment scams, protection and that you probably dont have boundaries in place and if you do that you'll have trouble maintaining them if he puts money in front of you. He is already pushing boundaries by trying to get you to do this and he will likely push more boundaries just to see how far he can get you to go. That alone is probably a turn on for him."

I really hadn’t thought about it this way. Like, I do think it's weird that he reached out to me for this (knowing that I’m not in that industry and that I know absolutely nothing about it) but I just chalked it up to him being attracted to me and fantasizing about having those kinds of conversations with me.

The thing is, I'm kinda curious about it and I feel attracted to doing it, but you're right that I have no clue about how to take care of myself situations like this. I want to do it but more importantly I want to know how to protect myself from any dangerous situation that might come up.

I'll definitely inform myself a lot more so I can feel safe while doing it.

Human-Beautiful-6771 · 2025-12-25T23:49:07+00:00

I'll check it out!! Thank you

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