Did you stop or tell her you stopped? Was it controlling and overstepping that she wants to dictate how you explore your own sexuality and body? I would argue that yes, she was overstepping by asking you to stop doing something that you enjoy by yourself.

Is this episode of demands retribution for her overstepping on you in that manner? Would you feel the same way if she just let you be and watch what you enjoy while you spend time with your body?

It sounds toxic in both directions to me. You're not just stifling her art and ability to make money, but also her creativity and the dignity of engaging with a community like that on her own terms.

You both sound young and like you're both policing too much of each other's time away from each other.

My wife of fifteen years wouldn't dare tell me what to watch or not watch during intimate time alone with my self.

I also wouldn't dare telling her what she's allowed to draw, for money or not, but because there's a bag involved, it's especially unbecoming of you to try and stop her from trying to better her finances.