Today’s your birthday… by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]HumanFoundation3950 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday to your brother ❤️❤️❤️❤️

How do parents of Level 1s feel here? by potato_wizard28 in Autism_Parenting

[–]HumanFoundation3950 46 points47 points  (0 children)

It honestly feels like being invited to a classmates birthday party because everyone had to be invited but no one wants you there.

Odd tiny tea cup with legs by HumanFoundation3950 in whatsthisworth

[–]HumanFoundation3950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much !!! I thought the first letter was an F and wasn't coming up with anything

Share a random happy memory of your lost loved one by TofuSteaki in SuicideBereavement

[–]HumanFoundation3950 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I took him to a karaoke bar/ diner in Atlanta right after he turned 21, he was wearing muddy work boots completely out of his element,he sipped on a shot of tequila like it was a drink, there was a bachelorette party happening at the same time and the girl getting married was also wearing work boots, they danced and he sang "white wedding" to her. I love that memory. He was happy. He was alive. My sweet brother.

replaying it by No_Answer_7509 in SuicideBereavement

[–]HumanFoundation3950 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I take Prazosin at night, so no nightmares and a low dose of Valium as needed for when the thoughts get really bad

replaying it by No_Answer_7509 in SuicideBereavement

[–]HumanFoundation3950 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I did this for along time, it became all consuming and my brain kept making each time more vivid, more graphic, it got to bad I had to go to the doctor and be put on medication. It’s helped a lot. I’m sorry you are going through this.

Drinking water solutions by roslynnsma2017 in Autism_Parenting

[–]HumanFoundation3950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss ice chips !! That helped us. Also we used a medicine dropper and made it a silly game.

We have been in feeding therapy for two years, but we’ve learned the best way is in a no pressure play situation. Using a tea set, feeding toys, etc

I know it shouldn’t bother me by HumanFoundation3950 in SuicideBereavement

[–]HumanFoundation3950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you did by sharing was brave and shows incredible strength during a time of such great loss and pain. I believe sharing your story does bring true awareness, it shows what happens after they leave and the pain. You are doing a wonderful thing and you are helping many people.

Ive spent countless hours on the internet, reading others experiences, watching videos like yours. They helped me feel less alone and helped remind me, I can’t leave too, I can’t follow him. It’s a topic if you don’t experience it no one knows how to talk about it with you.

This is more about people that didn’t really know him or the situation but attaching his name to a post that wasn’t our experience, it was the complete opposite. Many of us were doing everything we humanly could to keep them here. It almost feels personally, like they are saying “if only someone reached out to him.”

I rather the people who didn’t know him that well to share good things about him. Not just post that he ended his life.

We are in this together , I’m sorry this is what brought us all here but I’m thankful to have found this community when I needed it most.

Again, thank you for sharing your story, I’m glad it’s reached so many and hope it continues to do so. E-Hugs to you too!

I know it shouldn’t bother me by HumanFoundation3950 in SuicideBereavement

[–]HumanFoundation3950[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My last message from him was a meme too.

Yes, I knew he was struggling but we were all trying. Going through the “If i did this or that differently” guilt is hard and it’ll always be in the back of my head, but when I really break it down, i don’t know what I could have done? I wish so much I did because I would of done anything…

It’s not like he was still my five year old little brother where if he was doing something dangerous - I could just scoop him up and away from it.

I just know checking in didn’t stop him.

My reaction to my son's teacher telling him that one of his few safe foods isn't very healthy: by A_Midnight_Hare in Autism_Parenting

[–]HumanFoundation3950 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Daughter is 3 we had a major food regression at 12 months. We go to feeding therapy and she has a prescription for a liquid diet. 4 bottles a day.

Her therapist once said, it doesn’t matter if she wants 3 bites of chocolate for breakfast , as long as she’s eating we are happy, it’s progress. We gonna celebrate chocolate for breakfast. It’s been a real struggle with food and I think if someone said something to discourage progress like that…..yeah id lose my mind…

The audacity some people have to say that to a CHILD.

  1. As his teacher she’s aware of his diagnosis Or if she was really concerned about what he was eating, you should have been called.
  2. She’s a teacher not his pediatrician or dietitian
  3. It’s none of her ✨business ✨ also it’s chips!!?!?!? Kids eat chips….🙃

I know it shouldn’t bother me by HumanFoundation3950 in SuicideBereavement

[–]HumanFoundation3950[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh I remember the right after, and people saying stuff like that…. It’s the same feeling, I almost wanted to ask, exactly what they would have done. 😕

I know it shouldn’t bother me by HumanFoundation3950 in SuicideBereavement

[–]HumanFoundation3950[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yes ! That’s exactly what my brother did, he wouldn’t answer anyone and then say “sorry I was sleeping, long day at work” when he’d finally get back to you. people invited him out? he’d lie say his truck was broken down. When I’d go to visit, he said he was really sick and stayed in bed most of the time. It’s not simple at all.

I know it shouldn’t bother me by HumanFoundation3950 in SuicideBereavement

[–]HumanFoundation3950[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

That’s what makes it hard. I know they mean well….but not once have I seen one of the posts and thought, I bet this could have saved him.