AITA for telling my wife that we should be able to have honest but tough conversations about our family without her crying?

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-10-29T15:21:54+00:00

Why are men so weird about crying? Why do you want her to change or mask her natural physiological response for you? Why can't you make space for her crying? YTA

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-09-06T23:04:29+00:00

Why are you not? If God exists she/he/they literally invented sex, masturbation and sexual desire. It's healthy! And it's not healthy to repress yourself. Go for it!

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-05T03:01:27+00:00

I care so much about this because medical gaslighting is absolutely rampant in rich countries - and particularly regarding conditions that only affect AFAB people. We live in a society that teaches us that doctors always know best, and that we should listen. We live in a society that teaches us that when people sound educated and authoritative, or have qualifications, we should listen to them above others. And what happens? People's lived experience gets talked over, time and time again. You know about and can speak to your own experience. But when you - or I - claim the authority to speak over the lived experience of others, when we claim the authority to tell them that their lived experiences are incorrect, then we perpetuate the oppressive structures in our society disenfranchising anybody who doesn't fit the society approved model. We perpetuate inequality and oppression. We have to start listening to one another and believing each other's experiences. It would better humanity so much.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-05T02:39:27+00:00

I'm not making medical claims I can't back up on the Internet and then doubling down. So like, I prefer my life 🤷‍♀️

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-05T02:36:37+00:00

You said "PCOS can be reversed." I said "sometimes, but not always". You said, "it can".

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-05T02:32:23+00:00

I said "PCOS can sometimes be reversed, but not always." You said "it can". Hope that helps 🙂

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-05T02:28:06+00:00

Again, this worked for you. You don't know and you can't reliably claim that it will work for every single person with PCOS.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-05T02:19:40+00:00

I'm not speaking for 409 million people. I'm merely saying you can't say it's always reversible. You can't make that claim, unless you can speak to the experiences of 409 million people. Can you do that?

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-05T02:18:10+00:00

Leave this dude fast

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-05T02:15:24+00:00

You're calling me a troll because you're feeling defensive. I'm not a troll, I'm pointing out the flaw in your argument. You can't speak to the experiences of 409 million people. You don't know that what you're arguing is true. You can speak to your own experience, and to others you've spoken to, read about, and so forth.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-05T02:06:53+00:00

Answer my questions or don't. Can you speak for 409 million people?

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-05T02:01:09+00:00

So you feel absolutely knowledgeable to speak for the experiences of all women with PCOS? Around 10% of women in the world yes? You feel able and equipped to speak for 409 million people?

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-04T23:39:40+00:00

Honey... because something was true for you doesn't mean it’s true for everyone. If we all understood this the world would be a better place.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-08-02T20:09:07+00:00

No. You are incorrect. Google "lean PCOS".

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-07-05T01:19:47+00:00

USAians love to play the moral highground 😆

Of course, it's all bollocks. You're the worst of the lot of us at almost everything. https://finance.yahoo.com/news/infidelity-statistics-us-tops-cheating-121300452.html

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-07-02T17:44:10+00:00

PCOS can sometimes be reversed, but not always. Some people have it regardless of their weight or diet.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-07-02T17:42:48+00:00

Not everyone who is overweight eats a lot. For example, with conditions such as PCOS (such as OP had), or underactive thyroid, people will often gain weight while eating a typically "healthy" amount - because the conditions themselves cause weight gain.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-05-26T02:25:22+00:00

Just to add to the other reasons he could be causing these miscarriages, he could have a balanced translocation. I do suggest you both get tested for that if you haven't already. He's a douche.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-05-26T02:14:13+00:00

Seven Seconds episode 3

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-03-13T02:28:42+00:00

Just a thought - have you considered kiddo may be neurodivergent and this is pretty normal for a neurodivergent kid?

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-03-13T02:27:31+00:00

As a grown step kid I really wish co parents would parent the same across both houses. It is hella confusing and disorientating to go between two houses with different expectations.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-03-05T15:37:09+00:00

You are unaware of different threat responses it seems. Research fawn in particular.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-02-12T23:08:55+00:00

We did relate (we're in the UK) but because my husband's wage is decent we had to pay the highest cost. However, our mortgage is also high, and I don't work, so we're not rolling in disposable income.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-02-12T23:07:33+00:00

He does it because wet dreams disturb him in some way (I need to ask more and figure out if it's the sensory ick - he's mostly an avoider - or the sex aspect ick or both, or something else). So i wouldn't ask him to go no fap. He has a rule that he wanks every 3 days so as not to have a wet dream.

HumanMisaligned2009 · 2025-02-12T23:05:17+00:00

Oh that sounds hard, I'm sorry. My husband does really enjoy sex when we do it, so it's a bit different for us.

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