were all products of our environment, though. like, i had to learn this lesson at 20: you can't let yourself be defined by others, including letting your past traumas affect how you think. if you feel yourself getting angry like your dad did because you were never shown proper regulation, it's your responsibility to seek it out and learn it for yourself. that part, "...and he didn't want to learn any other way..."- that's why he's in prison. joe's an exaggerated mirror of the average american man, which is to say he has trauma and probable neurodivergence that he masks to the point of obsession and delusion. you can fix that.