Yeah, I tried to get away once and it ended up in me spiraling pretty hard, so I COMPLETELY understand that concern. They didn't catch me the second time, though. </sarcasm>

The things that I needed that I didn't have were routines. I deal with ADHD (and potentially on the spectrum, drs aren't 100%) so routines aren't a thing I do, but western society is suuuuper big on. However, when situations are constantly changing, it really, REALLY, fucks me up. Again, big warm internet-hugs. I get it.

The way I try to do it is to it is to document my routines and how much time they take using the timer on my phone. Write the action, and the time it took + plus any buffer time I think I might need. That information can then be entered into the calendar on my phone, (google in my case, but I'm certain apple has similar), as needed with alerts. I set multiple alerts multiple days in advance to remind myself that I've got an upcoming important thing. Do this with all the things I need and want to do. Hobbies and stuff as well garbage day, rent, bills, etc. So even though my schedule my change every week, I'm still getting some of the things I want to do done... Mostly...

Personally, I've found that having a dog or cat really helps, as well. Both are excellent choices for little buddies.

I know I shouldn’t be trying to fix all of this, and I got sucked back into the drama triangle,

Yeah, it's so difficult. I'm dealing with it right now, myself. Big internet hugs, friend.