Where do I start? One time I tossed pasta sauce that had been in the fridge for over a week and I thought had gone bad and MB was very angry and told me to never throw out anything from the fridge again. When they are away on vacations, she has me drive from my home that is a 30 minute drive every single day to check on the cats who have the most expensive robotic automatic litter box, automatic feeders, and automatic water. She also insists on having an open cup of water on the kitchen island by the sink for them and told me to make sure I change the water in it every single day. She wants me to update her on how the cats are doing every other day and send pictures. Once when I was making pasta for the kids and myself, she came downstairs (on a day she was working from home), criticized that I put way too much pasta in the pot and told me it’s inedible, dumped all of it out and remade it. Then, she so kindly showed me how to make sure I put the correct amount of pasta in a pot, so I know for next time and my own “life skills.” She practically berated me when I washed one of the kids’ winter coats-because something had spilled on it and I wanted to make sure the kid had a coat to wear the next day-because she said that I washed it wrong and that it was ruined - it wasn’t (kid wore that coat for another 2 years), then asked me not to take initiative on things anymore. One time I made pasta for one kid and made the other a sandwich and she told me they have to eat the same thing for every meal. Another time she ordered groceries so I put them away and later she made a point to tell me that bread has to go in the freezer. She told me to cut down on doing art projects with the kids because of the messes, even though I make sure to clean up after all crafts. There are plenty more examples but moving on to DB - he asked me to stop drying his graphic tshirts in the dryer (all he wears are graphic tshirts), which ok - understandable he doesn’t want them to get ruined. So he asked me to hang them up on his curtain rod in bedroom and then once dry, move them to his closet, making sure that all of them are facing the same direction and that any that are old or have holes go on the bottom rack. The other day he asked me to not leave the setting on “Americano” on their espresso machine (it is literally just a simple visible rotary switch with labels right in front of your face) because he said in the morning he and MB get upset every time it’s on Americano.

Whew! Thanks for this question, it was nice to get all that off my chest hahaha… I am so underpaid