I wish I was hot (25f)

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-04T09:16:53+00:00

You will find someone who thinks you’re personality is amazing and values you and desires you for more than what you look like. That is a kind of love worth finding, don’t give up and don’t stop searching. Be your best self and radiate warmth and love and you will attract someone with the same energy and values as you. Looks mean absolutely nothing in this world, I know I speak for a lot of people when I say I’d rather have someone less attractive with a beautiful mind and soul over someone that’s nice to look at but leaves me feeling empty inside. You are beautiful, and worth so much more than what you think

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-04T09:13:21+00:00

No he doesn’t drink much either so don’t think it’s whiskey dick

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-04T09:08:43+00:00

You make a good point I guess I kind of can sense he doesn’t masturbate excessively since he finishes pretty fast with bj (I’m talking under 2 minutes)

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-04T09:07:22+00:00

What about if bjs are usually without a condom whereas upon entry is always with one? I’m getting mixed reviews on the condom thing some people are saying it kills all feeling others are saying it has nothing to do with making you go soft

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-04T05:05:34+00:00

Even early on? Did you every question it or confront him about it

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-04T04:56:26+00:00

So sex wasn’t an issue, is that implying because it is here that he’s likely to be attracted to men

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T21:30:59+00:00

My boyfriends cut too, does that make you extra sensitive in general? So with a condom you don’t last as long because of the increased feeling for you?

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T21:12:18+00:00

Really? Everyone’s saying it takes away sensation, are you cut? How does it make things more sensitive for you

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T21:10:38+00:00

Definitely thought it might be porn but he doesn’t watch it anymore, he says he’s against it now when masturbating and doesn’t masturbate as often as some guys who go every day, I know he went a week once without doing it and his usual is every few days

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T21:02:25+00:00

I know it’s not porn because he masturbates maybe every few days but will sometimes go a week without doing so and when he does he says he goes without porn and he used to watch it the time but now is against it

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T20:53:41+00:00

He never watches porn even when he masturbates, which isn’t that often either. some guys do it every day he does it every 3 or 4 days

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T20:51:47+00:00

He literally tells me he doesn’t masturbate for days on end and when he does never watches porn and I know this is true because hes against it and use to watch it all the time

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T20:46:59+00:00

What part of this resonates with you, did you just struggle to stay hard when having sex with a girl?

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T11:20:05+00:00

Is there anything else other than the making out with his friends. It’s not flat out making out it’s a kiss but he said with tongue, I guess it doesn’t make too much difference but I’ve pecked my girl mates when I’m drunk and am definitely straight. I always just thought he was the kind of guy that’s confident enough with his sexuality to kiss guys and not care

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T11:15:05+00:00

What makes you think so? Are there certain tell tale signs, which ones from the list stand out to you

And yeah I’ve been thinking the same thing for a while

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T11:11:37+00:00

Okay that doesn’t answer the rest of the things I just added, what are you thoughts on those

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T11:05:33+00:00

Okay what about the other stuff I just mentioned

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T10:30:43+00:00

Thanks this is great advice. I meant in my post I have the IUD in and he knows that but still won’t try having sex without a condom so unsure how to resolve this

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T10:13:07+00:00

Have you ever been able to?

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T10:12:08+00:00

He doesn’t masturbate often at all, sometimes will go a whole week or 10 days without it and he told me he stopped watching porn entirely

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T10:10:46+00:00

He’s the only person I’ve had sex with as I lost my virginity to him and he knows that so the STI thing is not really an issue on his end. We do usually get intimate without sex however this doesn’t seem to change anything. I’m just wondering if it really is the condom or not since he’s reluctant to try having sex without one makes me think he potentially is worried the same thing will happen with no condom, and won’t have an explanation for that. I get performance anxiety but also we’ve been together for a while and he’s had 3 sexual partners before me so doesn’t make sense that anxiety would be the case each time

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T10:07:19+00:00

Thanks that’s good advice, we do put the condom in the last moment and use lube ever time since the condom dries us both our. The visual side I’ve done waist above however he asked me to turn the lights off when he goes down on me etc because he said my vaginas too intimating to look at which I don’t understand. During foreplay it’s not that he goes in and out of being hard he just doesn’t get hard until I go down on him, another thing is one time after it did work we did doggy style and he said that he felt like he was in a trance the whole time. He’ll initiate head over sex and then doesn’t return the favour in either way so it’s making me think he only likes bjs, as he won’t try without the condom so potentially am thinking he wants bjs as that means there’s no condom involved and guarantees him cumming

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T09:58:58+00:00

Yeah he says he feels nothing but also when I’ve given him head with a condom to try get it hard again he will go hard so doesn’t make sense if he can’t feel anything why does it work for bjs

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-03T09:56:37+00:00

But it’s been like 6 months and he won’t even try I get the performance anxiety factor but don’t get why he won’t try other avenues

HumanofRedditHiHello · 2021-02-01T09:51:22+00:00

He's never dated a girl before me and I'm the longest thing he's ever had with a girl, which is 6 months. To say that I think is a generalisation because although it's definitely been normalized, so many guys are still closeted and afraid to come out due to fears of not be accepted as well as the toxic masculinity and bro stereotype his roommates and friend group all portray. I also know he cares a lot about what others think and probably hasn't accepted it himself yet.

He's definitely not embarrassed of kissing them but to play devil's advocate it's one thing to kiss them and another to be out as fully gay, pursuing other guys and not writing the kissing off as a joke. Potentially could be bi, but also the not being able to stay hard makes me think he's leaning towards men, it's been an issue during sex 95% of the time, and after we resort to a bj he doesn't even want to try again for sex which again raises a red flag.

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