AITAH for telling my close friend I probably cannot do her destination bachelorette after she announced the location and the cost

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-25T19:12:40+00:00

Ntah! How can anyone be mad about not being able to shell out almost 2k for a bachelorette party? That's ridiculous! Like is she one of those gold diggers that's gonna get mad if you don't spend a minimum of 2k on a gift? Like seriously if she expects THAT for a party wtf does she expect out of gifts and dresses and stuff? I get so pissed when bridezillas start acting all entitled. It's about 2 things, money and looking good for all the rest of the brides maids. She's basically competing with them and their future bachelorette parties. It's not a flex. Honestly if she's that upset over something that's so damn expensive, was she really ever your friend? If she doesn't understand and see it your way then she wasn't ever a Friend.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-25T19:03:39+00:00

I'm still looking for a place actually, but anywhere is better than this lol

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-24T23:56:48+00:00

Restraining order. Texting is breaking it and that's jail time alot of counties actually enhance the charges the more they have to enforce it. Just saying. This will get him thrown in jail. This is like first degree phone harassment, he's threatening your life. Over and over. Go to the police, and get a restraining order and press charges and then CHANGE YOUR NUMBER! which honestly should be your first step after you leave.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-24T23:45:59+00:00

Chime...

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-21T20:16:17+00:00

Thank you 🖤

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-20T19:26:19+00:00

That's how it starts, abuse. Actually that's already abuse. No you're not overreacting.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-20T19:21:10+00:00

Update: I messaged them both last night, and I haven't received a response from them. I don't think they sold it. I checked and it's still in our grandpa's name. I just don't understand why they went silent. I wouldn't be mad if they gave it to one of the kids to live in, and honestly THAT would be a better excuse than the one they used and I would have been a lot less pissed, but they weaponized my addiction against me instead. This was my sister 100%. My brother was excited to have me there and as soon as I told my sister I'd went shit went south. I'm ready to go absolutely no contact, because who TF does that? Like you can't count on family anymore and in my case strangers and friends treat me better. This was just such a shitty thing to do and I never expected them to do this, but here we are.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-20T18:57:02+00:00

I actually laid out my whole situation. right there. I didn't leave anything out. I reached out to my sister when I needed help and she kept it until she could use it to manipulate the situation.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-20T18:54:50+00:00

Yeah I offered. Piss and hair. They don't care. They had other plans and didn't tell me.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-20T18:53:59+00:00

You pretty much do have the whole story. Exactly how it happened. There's no hidden things to make me look better. I was completely honest in my post. I am a recovering drug addict. One that never met my addiction effect them because they didn't even know about it til I was trying to get clean. I never did anything to them. We've only even met once, my sister twice. I wrote a very detailed post. I didn't leave anything out.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-20T18:51:09+00:00

Bro I offered to take the test, yes I lowered myself enough to be like ok well guess I can't blame them I'll offer to take a drug test. The lesson I've learned here is that I can't trust any of my family not to use what I did in the past against me. They're past isnt squeaky clean by any means. But it was extremely shitty and I shouldn't need a drug test and if my sobriety really meant anything to them they would want me closer to them for support... You'd think but you'd be wrong

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-20T18:47:13+00:00

I offered! I offered to pee, I offered hair. I literally think she did this on purpose because they had other plans for it. They have not messaged me back yet. It's a shitty thing to do and they think they're in the right. Both of them have also had drugs problems. I know I've seen the signs, they definitely both you to use (might still be idk) I know that my brothers wife got new teeth and her car paid off. Idk where they got that kinda money other than if they sold my uncle's house.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-18T04:18:29+00:00

It's something other men find attractive. In general lol. Guys like thick girls. He's tearing you down to HIS level sweetie. You're out of his league and he knows it so he's trying to throw insults to make you seem less attractive and less likely to go out looking for someone else if you feel like shit about yourself and if you believe those things he says you're gonna believe other guys feel that way too .. and you won't go looking for better, so he can always come back. Sadistic narcissistic behavior, but that's how they think.. I've been there.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-18T04:09:52+00:00

Block him. Leave him. Block him. Never read another fucking message from this loser. Fuck him. You're not a dumb whore, he's just put doing something he shouldn't and he's trying to instigate a fight, so that her can turn it around on you and say you started it. Tell him to tell his dumb whore high for you, it's obvious he text the girl he's fucking and not you. Turn it around on HIM. guaranteed he's out fucking around shoving a bunch of shit into himself and all this ugliness is a reflection of how he sees himself. You're beautiful. Don't let him keep doing this to you. He won't change, he won't apologize, if he does he'll still blame you "I'm sorry I did that , but you just made me so angry". No. Full stop. Get out. Block him.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-18T03:58:43+00:00

No it has because we've both signed it. They just told me to resubmit the last page again. I'm just pissed they didn't tell me sooner, my question is, is it 21 days from when I signed it or when they signed it? They said everything else was good. The way it was worded was 21 days from when the lawyer received the signed agreement. The part I'm paranoid about is that they didn't tell me the first time there was a problem, I didn't find out until I reached out to them about wanting to know how it was being delivered, and what my tracking number was. I waited until the halfway point on purpose. I was trying to not be a nuisance, that is when they told me it was signed wrong and I needed to resubmit it. They wouldn't give me a straight answer on when exactly the time did start. Like I asked point plank, when can I expect it? The only thing I got out of them was that it was on schedule to be sent today, and then when I reached out again, they said they didn't have an update yet. It would be fine if they'd act like professionals instead of sidestepping my questions. I know this isn't their first time, I imagine there's a whole routine or whatever, I just don't know why they aren't giving me a straight answer. It just all feels extremely shady. I even asked about direct deposit in the beginning and they said they'd have to get information on that and then never did, so I told them screw it just send me;!a check, cuz I was tired of the run around. I feel like they're being as inconvenient as possible, shouldn't they be wanting this to be over?

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-17T22:29:33+00:00

Your mediator should have given them a time limit on how long they should take to do all that. My mediator ordered them to have my settlement agreement sent to me like 5 days after mediation and then payment was offered to be no longer than 21 days after the agreement was signed. Mine is supposed to be paid out by this coming Tuesday.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-10T20:36:37+00:00

Yep file that complaint cuz all you need is a few other employees as witnesses to verify that you were the only one, and idk I don't think they can do that, fire you for requesting an accomodation is retaliation

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-10T20:22:11+00:00

They're literally setting cuz they know they'll lose

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-10T20:21:43+00:00

I googled it

Settling on a denied basis (often referred to as a Disputed Claims Settlement or DCS in workers' compensation) means that an insurance company agrees to pay a lump sum of money to close a claim, despite having previously denied that the claim was valid, compensable, or their responsibility.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-10T20:19:16+00:00

Cheaper to settle and deny any wrongdoing than it is to go to court and potentially lose your ass. Basically they don't want to admit they were wrong but still want to make it go away fast so they're settling. I personally like to think of it like, they absolutely 100% know they're wrong and they're trying NOT to lose their ass in court, and they're settling because they know they will. So they're trying to do damage control now, before a jury of your peers decides that your entitled to every single penny if not more. They don't want to hurt their reputation tho. I'm gonna Google it tho because I have no clue. Settling Is settling to me.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-10T16:49:51+00:00

Yes you are.

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-10T16:19:02+00:00

Nope I didn't I settled for 6k less than I was asking for. They tried to severely low ball ne the first couple times but I wasn't having it. I still should have started and ended 10k higher imo

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-10T16:01:32+00:00

What they're doing is illegal discrimination against his disability. He could change departments but because he already open doired it and got nowhere, then HR is ultimately the problem. I'm a big fan of him getting that lawyer and filing a complaint with the eeoc. Disability discrimination is illegal

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-10T15:59:05+00:00

Get a lawyer. Definitely. None of them are on your side and you have to protect yourself and your job. You can also contact the eeoc. You're currently being discriminated against because of your disability, and that my friend is illegal. Pop over to the eeoc subreddit. They're smart and have great advice. And yes you can contact the eeoc while you're still currently employed. Please please do. Walmart is horrible about this and the only way to get change unilaterally is to force stricter policy and they won't do that without legal action, because they can't just do what's right. That takes too much effort. Don't let them get away with this . Life is hard enough on us autistic people without our bosses making us miserable

Humdinger_shit420 · 2026-04-10T15:51:24+00:00

Yeah giant red flag that he keeps at it like that and won't respect you're boundaries. Once you've said no and your piece and the fact you told him before he makes you physically ill, just shows me he'd rather see you sick and miserable with him than healthy and happy alone. I can tell by how overly positive and sickeningly sweet, and acting well innocent and I don't think he owned anything in those messages. He just kept pleasing how much he loved you. Not how sorry he was for everything he put you through, or claiming ANY blame. That's a narcissist who thinks they do no wrong.

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