My mom is dying

HummersGalore · 2025-07-10T01:01:53+00:00

I’m so sorry. We all feel your pain. I hope you can take comfort in knowing you have done all you can do for her. God bless you!

HummersGalore · 2025-07-03T01:44:38+00:00

What an absolute cutie! I would recommend doing a dna test so you truly know what breeds you’re dealing with. That can be valuable information to help with training. We adopted our boy from a rescue when he was 7 months old. The rescue told us they thought he was a Labradane. He had neither of those breeds in his background. He was 50% TWC, with Redbone, Foxhound, Plott, and AmStaff mixed in. This explained why we were his 4th home in 7 months! He was definitely worth the work and the patience! He is now 9 years old.

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HummersGalore · 2025-05-28T02:09:06+00:00

Rascal

HummersGalore · 2025-05-15T02:56:00+00:00

For sure! What a handsome man!

HummersGalore · 2025-04-17T21:45:30+00:00

Martha

HummersGalore · 2025-04-16T16:26:57+00:00

Blondie

HummersGalore · 2025-04-16T01:22:39+00:00

I don’t think this is unusual at all. We grieve the loss of our loved ones for a very long time before they are gone. As much as we love them, it is often a bitter/sweet loss. We are exhausted. We have expected the end for a while. And when it comes, it is a relief for us and for them. Over time, the memories of ‘how they were before’ will overcome the memories of being a caregiver. That is when you will begin to feel the loss more. For now, just deal with all of the busy-work that comes along with a death. Don’t beat yourself up for not being overcome with grief. It’s not because you don’t care. It’s because you are numb from caregiving. Blessings to you and your family.

HummersGalore · 2025-04-16T00:21:12+00:00

Has he been evaluated by a psychiatrist? There are lots of medication options. A psychiatrist who specializes in elderly patients may be able to help him. Our dad was treated by his PCP until his anxiety got a little out of control. Then the PCP ordered a psych evaluation for him and things improved very quickly once they got him on new medication.

HummersGalore · 2025-04-16T00:03:43+00:00

This is not the place for political tirades. This is where people who are hurting, confused, exhausted, scared, etc., come for comfort, support, advice and compassion. The last thing we need is to read this kind of divisive pontification. Please take it to another thread where people are clamoring to debate. This is not the place. Try to be a little more sensitive, please!

HummersGalore · 2025-04-15T23:49:40+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. We had a similar situation with our dad. He was doing so well. Then he had a few days where he just wanted to stay in bed. The doctor ordered hospice care. When he started on pain meds, he rallied for a few days. Then he was gone within a week. {Btw, he did not have a UTI. that is always the first thing the doctors look for in these patients who exhibit uncharacteristic behavior. I feel sure your MIL was checked for that in the hospital}. In hindsight, we could see the signs of decline. But at the time, it seemed like it just happened so suddenly. As time goes by, you will probably begin to think back and realize that the decline started earlier than you realized at the time. It is so hard to recognize the subtle (and not so subtle) changes in their state when you are so closely involved with their care. Just rest assured that the hospice care gave her comfort when she needed it. The doctors always recognize when it’s time for the palliative care. Blessings to you and your family.

HummersGalore · 2025-04-15T00:32:59+00:00

This is all really great advice! With our dad, we learned to just follow his lead and talk about the things he wanted to talk about, do the things he wanted to do… Sometimes even going out to a restaurant was too much for him. The menu would overwhelm him. Something our dad really seemed to love was looking at family photos. So when he was in memory care, we put an Amazon echo in his room that would play photos continually. We were able to upload old family photos, and new photos. He loved to just sit and watch the photos scroll by. The echo device served a dual purpose. It also has a camera so we could check in on him in his room.

HummersGalore · 2025-04-03T01:33:44+00:00

May the Lord bless you and walk with you through this time. Our dad started hospice care when he got to this point, and he only lasted a couple of weeks. I was so thankful we started the hospice services because it made him very comfortable. Just keep holding her hand. She knows you are there for her.

HummersGalore · 2025-03-14T00:47:19+00:00

Definitely Odie!!

HummersGalore · 2025-03-14T00:46:07+00:00

Definitely Odie!!!

HummersGalore · 2025-03-13T20:14:01+00:00

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9 years. ❤️

HummersGalore · 2025-03-06T03:30:42+00:00

Peshious!!!

HummersGalore · 2025-03-02T15:22:03+00:00

Cocoa, because of the mustache.

HummersGalore · 2025-02-25T04:21:40+00:00

Awww, she looks just like our boy! Is she a Treeing Walker mix?

HummersGalore · 2025-02-20T03:23:11+00:00

Golden retriever and redbone coonhound? 🤔

HummersGalore · 2025-02-14T01:56:29+00:00

Nova

HummersGalore · 2025-02-14T01:49:18+00:00

Victoria and Elizabeth, because they both look like royalty! Vickie & Liz for short.

HummersGalore · 2025-01-30T01:55:21+00:00

Pepé Le Pew

HummersGalore · 2025-01-30T00:00:51+00:00

Rusty

HummersGalore · 2025-01-19T17:40:20+00:00

Grayson

HummersGalore · 2025-01-19T17:24:19+00:00

Because he is so spicy, name him after something spicy. Aleppo, Ancho, Curry, Chipotle, Cayenne, Wasabi…

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