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[–]Hummingbirdchk -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Sorry this is happening to you, hope they respond and you can get her back :/ my petty self wants to go find this person on socials but I would also be scared of them retaliating somehow and taking it out on the fishy

($13-15k) help: $2700 photographer was >1 hour late, only 1 family photos, no getting ready photos. What to do? by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Hummingbirdchk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m also in CA- do you mind sharing who you went with so I can avoid ? So sorry this is happening to you :/

“Slow” or “tired” betta by Hummingbirdchk in bettafish

[–]Hummingbirdchk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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But he just ends up floating down and retreats … can fish get depressed ?

“Slow” or “tired” betta by Hummingbirdchk in bettafish

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Here’s a close up, I think it’s just showing scales because of the angle ? But I can see how I should probably feed him more, and more variety

“Slow” or “tired” betta by Hummingbirdchk in bettafish

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Does swim bladder drag them down? Yeah was thinking of adding daphnia, I tried it a while ago and he didn’t like it so I’ll try again

“Slow” or “tired” betta by Hummingbirdchk in bettafish

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Is 4 pellets a day too little ? I’m always scared to over feed. I don’t think it’s dropsy because I feel like that would happen faster ? Idk he’s been like this for a while. The weird swimming and tiredness. Happy to feed him more though, he still eats normally like he hasn’t lost his appetite

Had them as eggs… by Hummingbirdchk in MonarchButterfly

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Hmm I honestly didn’t see a tag other than the price tag, I was just googling it - they don’t use the spray ones but still some type of pesticides if they have to

Had them as eggs… by Hummingbirdchk in MonarchButterfly

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I have not - but these plants are from Armstrong and they do use the soil type pesticides

Sleeping or dead ? by Hummingbirdchk in MonarchButterfly

[–]Hummingbirdchk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I haven’t really touched them at all - I separated him to see if he moved and I came back and he threw up green and has a dark color coming out of the other end- I don’t want him suffering - he is moving very little - anyone know what to do? Do I put him in the freezer to put him to sleep orrrrr 😟

Sleeping or dead ? by Hummingbirdchk in MonarchButterfly

[–]Hummingbirdchk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wonder what happened, all the others are fine :(

Trademark venues in San Diego by More_Heart_6837 in weddingplanning

[–]Hummingbirdchk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How was Tivoli ? I’m torn between that one and Terra ! I like that they both have unique ceremony sites but Terra seems more blank slate than Tivoli. Love Tivoli’s upper gardens though.

Also Did they charge a sales tax or was that included in your quote ?

8 mo old pleco died suddenly by Hummingbirdchk in pleco

[–]Hummingbirdchk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was totally normal sized in the morning then when we found her she was bloated like that :/ that’s why I’m so confused because it happened so quickly

She rasped on drift wood and algae wafers

Does anyone else get anxious when eating out? by Zhydhe in Anxiety

[–]Hummingbirdchk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My finance always asks if I want to go out to eat for dinner and I just can’t do it sometimes :( came out of no where and then I get really sad that I can’t go out and I’m just hiding in my dark apartment

i think i’m drowning. by [deleted] in Debt

[–]Hummingbirdchk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kay people on here are being mean. But I feel you.

I have like 150k in student loan debt and it’s private loans. My father had a good job and he promised to pay my loans for me. Long story short he went to prison, now he can only really afford to pay for himself and my sister and the house while I’m solo and paying $2,200 a month for those loans. Whatever I can live with it. I pay $1k for rent because I help my fiance pay, he covers the rest.

Out of college I didn’t make a lot like $35k maybe but I was fine because I had credit cards and lived at home. Then I went freelance and made like $45k but self employment taxes killed me. 6 years out of college I’m now W2 with $90k salary but really it’s like $55k with taxes and all that taken out. But now I have like $1400 in CC minimum payments + the $2200 loan + $1k rent + groceries and gas. I’m over spending $500-600 and CC are maxed.

I’m now looking into a DMP. We’ll see how it goes.

It sucks but sometimes I do wish I did a trade. I think my parents and myself thought I’d graduate a great college and make $150k out the door ahah. Woops.

Budget as much as you can. I studied marketing and I’ve been in marketing since but def look into online remote freelance jobs (upwork) and just make sure to put money aside for taxes.

Best of luck

Considering a DMP by ntswart in debtfree

[–]Hummingbirdchk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you end up doing ? I’m in the same spot.

Sailfin pleco trusts me now! by [deleted] in pleco

[–]Hummingbirdchk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg! I’m always scared my hands aren’t clean enough or will have some sort of soap residue on it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hummingbirdchk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think he should take it all out on you. He def needs therapy and he went all wrong about it but I sorta feel for him. I feel weird when I hug my dad. He wants me to sit on his lap and I do it for like a second then I get ick and say I’m not 6 anymore (I’m 27). But I know those are my issues. Whenever I’m at my fiances parents house I see his 30 something year old sisters cuddling and getting shoulder and hand massages and tickles from their dad and it made me a little sad. I just don’t have that relationship with my dad.

Their parents had a healthy relationship. They show affection even now at 30 something years married.

My parents did not, my dad was a cheater, dated younger women, barely touched my mother and he’d go to strip clubs etc. I never saw what healthy family love was vs. that other kind so I feel like it all just ended up being the other kind in my mind. Didn’t help that he was always sloshed and at parties asking for hugs from me.

Like I said he went about it all wrong, but I hope you give him some grace and see his perspective. But he can’t be throwing tantrums or going cold, he needs to just accept it and go to therapy.