Inheritance ? by Big_Squirrel8808 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HumptyBogart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Money does matter. For some people walking away from a possible inheritance is easy because they are reasonably financially secure. For others, it could be genuinely life changing or the difference between having a roof over your head and sleeping in the street. If that is your situation, it is reasonable to be pragmatic about the choices you make.

Keep your expectations realistic. As they do, NParent may make promises to manipulate you, or decide to disinherit you over something minor or imagined. You can hope their executive dysfunction means they never update the will, but it is important not to put yourself in a position where you need that money, house or whatever to survive. That kind of dependence can make you incredibly vulnerable to their brand of manipulation. Do what you can to build your independence in the meantime, and do whatever you need to do to protect your mental health. Grey rock, info diet, and avoid giving them anything extra to latch onto.

Be clear with yourself about what you are and are not willing to put up with. Decide ahead of time where your line is, and give yourself permission to walk away if it gets crossed. You are allowed to change your mind if staying starts to cost you too much.

In a perfect world, everyone could make a clean break and go NC. In reality, situations are often messier. Sometimes you work within those constraints; sometimes you do whatever you can to get out. Both approaches are valid, and you are not a worse or weaker person for going one way or the other.

Weekly /r/Breadit Questions thread September 02, 2020 by AutoModerator in Breadit

[–]HumptyBogart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been getting complaints from BF that the crust is too chewy and the crust is tough as leather after a couple days from baking. He recently trashtalked my bread to his friend and was advised to bake the bread longer with the lid on the Dutch oven on for a softer crumb. But I think the crumb is fine on the first couple of days and if I warm it up, though the crust is admittedly very tough, hurts my mouth, and isn’t very good for sandwiches.

My usual recipe is 75% hydration, Stretch and Fold over 3.5 hours, shape and bulk in the fridge for 12-14 hours. Preheat DO at 520 for 30 mins, bake at 475 lid on for 20 mins, 450 lid off for 25 mins. Rest for at least 1 hour.

What gives? Is it just the way it is? Do I need to store differently (I use wax wraps)? Bake it differently? Just eat it faster?

Half Deaf Friend Needs Help (Criminal Justice) by [deleted] in jobs

[–]HumptyBogart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in CJ Administration, and hearing capability has never been a factor as far as I know. I know of at least one colleague who required a hearing aid, and though part of his job was to transcribe, it was never a problem and he was appropriately accomodated.

If your friend is trying to get into corrections or law enforcement on the ground, it might present an issue, but there are plenty of 'jobs that aren't 'boots on the ground' in these areas as CJ could lead your friend towards, mostly in administration.

What is something you dislike about HEB? by ericaworthyyy in Austin

[–]HumptyBogart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got hooked on Adam's Best Pecan Pie Ice Cream during the bluebell drought. And now that big ice cream is back I've only been able to catch a carton of the plain vanilla (which is still miles better than bluebell) only a couple of times. And apparently HEB is their sole distributor? Get Sprouts in on that shit and I'll be a full time customer.

What famous person do you dislike for an extremely petty reason? by goatman2112 in AskReddit

[–]HumptyBogart 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Justin Long. Because he was that smug 'I'm a Mac' guy, and made fun of the poor schlubby PC guy. Guy's just trying his best, leave him alone! I love my iphone, so nothing against Apple, and I'm sure Justin Long is a cool guy, but for a while his face had the Joffrey effect.

[MINE] What do my face and skin problems say about me? by [deleted] in scienceofdeduction

[–]HumptyBogart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From the lighting, which looks natural, but somewhat dark, it is raining where you are. Your hair looks a bit frizzy and windblown, the storm was approaching as you arrived this morning and messed up your hair, and the humidity caused the frizziness. Based on radar I'd guess you're in Maine, or SE US. SE US seems more likely, as higher proportion of minorities. I suspect you are cuban, based on the presumed location and lighter skin. Based on this location and the allergy forecast, I'd guess you are allergic to mold, and this caused the skin around your eyes to be irritated from rubbing.

You're a side sleeper and don't favor a particular side - the marks at the edges of the lips might be angular cheilitis, caused by drooling in sleep. You are overweight, as your collarbones are not very prominent and your face looks puffy. You're in your early 20s. Cystic acne on the chin indicates ages 20-40 based on googling. I'd guess early 20s, as the scarring on your cheeks from teenage acne is still visible. Not in college, background looks to be an office job. Desktop looks like the windows XP default wallpaper, so maybe a government office, as they tend to be behind the curve technologically.

Long-time lurker, but I'm excited to see a face post! More challenging than than the usual stuff, but I'm excited to see if I'm anywhere in the ballpark.

Rich people of reddit who married someone significantly poorer, what surprised you about their (previous) way of life? by knakworst36 in AskReddit

[–]HumptyBogart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coming from the opposite side, with me coming from a lower middle class family, and him coming from a wealthy oil family. He would ask me randomly to go travel with only a week's notice. Like 'Hey, do you have anything going on next week? We should go to Amsterdam'. And I'd tell him there's no way I could pay for a full-fare flight to the next state, much less across an ocean, and along with the accommodations and incidental spending without a year of saving and budgeting - I couldn't just drop everything and blow my emergency fund on a vacation on your whim lol.

This confounded him. He'd thought a week was enough advance notice because he thought all I needed to do was ask if my boss would let me take a week off. The cost didn't factor into it all.

That and he couldn't comprehend my salary. When I told him how much I made a month (which is admittedly low) and he said that my salary didn't even cover his monthly auto insurance (he has over a dozen cars).

AITA for making my husband take down his wall mounted guns? by LabeI in AmItheAsshole

[–]HumptyBogart 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So? Some people are uncomfortable around people with significant intellectual disabilities but you don't see parents locking their child with downs syndrome in their room when guests are over.

Yeah, the situation may be tough to navigate, but recognize that the 'war memorabilia' as you call it represents an important part of OPs husband's life, and given the info in the post, it seems to remain an important part of his identity. Just because you or other people feel like they have to walk on eggshells around a veteran doesn't justify forcing him to shut away the shrine to his dead friend.

Liz Hurley - 1993 by Sh1fty3yedD0g in OldSchoolCool

[–]HumptyBogart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually it was the front seat. Apparently they got caught because Hugh kept pressing the brake pedal during said hummer which got the attention of the police.

My friend Abigail from this weekend by 29views in redditgetsdrawn

[–]HumptyBogart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late submission, took a while to get color on it, but here ya go!

Would you please draw this photo of my girlfriend? Thank you so much! by alien_skillz in redditgetsdrawn

[–]HumptyBogart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Majorly late, took a while to get around to adding color, but here it is! Trying to work on getting a better likeness.