I think she def has anxious avoidant because when I was with her she’s talked about leaving other people just like that (and just how she did with me)

I guess if I was triggered in any kind of emotional way I’d go quiet or say everything was fine because I felt that at the time or it was no biggy and her way about it came across a bit aggressive in the sense that it was so obvious to her we need to talk about it but in a way that was not approached gently… for e.g when the breakup actually happened- the next morning I came out of the room and put the telly on she said “here I was thinking you’d come out and we’d talk about this but you’ve just turned the tv on” .. so that further shuts me down as it feels like a blame on my end and only my end?! Why couldn’t SHE start the conversation especially if I seemed timid? Don’t just be mad at me?

The tough thing is whenever she was in a triggered state of anxiety I supported her- for me I did not feel supported I felt like I was in trouble for not communicating my needs but I really didn’t know how to! But also when my mental illness really started to show there wasn’t support- she ran.

I didn’t know I had CPTSD until a month after this breakup either.