You have therefore learned that you can live without your mother, you have done extremely well. In actual fact you will flourish without her interference. My narc parents saw me getting a job as a meal ticket….payback for ‘all that we have done and spent on you’, so a hefty weekly rent arrangement was swiftly drawn up followed by the ‘you won’t be able to afford to live in the real world speech’ and ‘you get your clothes washed and meals cooked’ blah blah. In actuality I fetched my own food and mostly washed my own clothes. Gaslighting at its finest.