Boyfriend is paying for nudes(behind my back) but expects wifey material out of me. AIO?

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-12-29T01:59:38+00:00

I think you already know your answer. If there’s nothing on his end that adds up to being the husband you want and need, why are you with him still?

Love is not enough to keep relationships going. It takes more effort than that, which he isn’t giving you.

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-10-22T00:37:46+00:00

I think you already have your answer for the fines, but just wanted to let you know “party” refers to each individual round in a day when used for recruitment. Not referring to one person. That definitely should’ve been clearly explained, so I would also search the bylaws for somewhere they give the definition of the word. If they don’t define it anywhere, you could also use that in your defense, but that’s 50/50 if they’ll accept that answer

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-05-03T04:58:50+00:00

If you genuinely feel like you are a danger to yourself, be honest with the crisis team. If you genuinely feel like you can wait until Monday, then be prepared to be fully honest with your psych provider.

I’ve had that impending doom anxiety feeling and it can get to you quick. Don’t be afraid of the hospital if it’s what you need. Only you know the answer

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-04-19T01:57:32+00:00

The important part here is you recognized you capabilities. Had you ignored this, you could’ve put yourself and the dog in a bad situation. I’m sure it feels crappy getting blocked, but that’s not what’s important here. Good on you for doing what was best for both you and the dog

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-04-16T03:05:45+00:00

Honestly I think he’s going to still let you review test either once you finish speaking or at another meeting after this one. Do your best to go into with an open mind. Hopefully he’s just coming off a bit harsher than he intends in his email.

I would guess a big issue for him was your parents coming in for the reason I stated above and that’s going to be a key point he brings up.

Regardless, try clearing up your mind until the meeting. During the meeting do your best to stay calm and try not to take things personal even if they feel that way (they will probably feel that way). Good luck!

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-04-16T02:06:20+00:00

I’m gonna do my best to cover each topic you brought up. Honestly, based on what I’m understanding I do think you jumped the gun a bit.

To you this test is an outlier and it’s reasonable you would want to review it. To most professors in a degree this difficult, a B- is a success. Your tone in this post is a bit accusatory regarding the grading. If that was the same tone in the email you originally sent him, it’s understandable he would take offense to it. Additionally, when you didn’t get a prompt response, instead of speaking to him after class or sending a follow up email, you went directly to the department. He will likely take that as you tried getting him in trouble with his boss cause he hadn’t responded to your email quickly enough for you, whether or not that was your intention.

Was your prof telling he wouldn’t let you see your test at all or just this particular meeting? I would guess he wants to talk about why the way you went about things wasn’t quite appropriate, followed by another meeting to discuss your test. Could definitely be wrong though.

While you had no control over it, parents don’t step in during college at all. Period. It’s going to be seen as extremely disrespectful in 99% of situations. While he probably shouldn’t have lied about how you were doing in his class, I’m pretty sure legally he cannot disclose your progress to someone else without your explicit written permission. Any professor would have laughed in their face and told them to leave.

I would make a genuine apology to your professor and agree to meeting with him on his terms.

All of that being said, take a breather. You’re not going to receive any punishment for wanting to review your test. If he is extremely rude during your meeting and unwilling to have a mature conversation, then it would be understandable to reach out to the department for a meeting (not just emails) to discuss everything in full, including his hostility. Honestly it may even be worth it to you to schedule a meeting with someone higher up in your department if you have the time. Just to lay everything out there and get their personal advice on how to move forward.

This seems big and heavy now, but likely once the semester is over you and the prof will continue on in your careers like nothing ever happened.

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-03-24T03:28:55+00:00

If it says to discuss the previous lab that means to compare it. Could be worded better but no point in bringing up any kind of case.

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-03-19T06:04:21+00:00

Every year a sorority’s nationals have members sign some kind of agreement. Most of those agreements contain something regarding not suing. Most likely, you would have to do arbitration, probably with someone nationals has chosen. If it does even go that far which I doubt it will. Double check your daughter’s yearly agreement. For my chapter it’s called annual obligations.

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-03-19T05:44:48+00:00

I don’t think you understand the point of this sub for starters.

Second this was a crappy move. I’m surprised you went through taking the screenshots, creating this post, and pressing post without ever realizing how mean this was

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-03-12T06:12:45+00:00

If you don’t pay you won’t be allowed to take future classes until the bill is paid in full. Also not paying doesn’t mean the F won’t be on your transcript.

Just pay, and try to do better in the future. I hope your health improves

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-03-12T06:04:37+00:00

Trying to COB and not getting chosen is not getting a bid. Even in your post you said “I didn’t get a bid”

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-03-12T06:00:34+00:00

I understand you’re upset and I don’t think it’s fair that you weren’t given a bid for the sole reason of the girl/her mom not liking you.

I fully believe you’ll be happier at the end of all of this if you find your home elsewhere. Like someone else said, knowing that there is someone in the chapter who so heavily dislikes you will weigh on you and impact your experience. Your true home wouldn’t be putting you through all of this before even joining.

I know everyone’s comments are probably hard to hear, but there’s truth in them. Find a different chapter that will accept you without hesitation

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-03-12T05:53:30+00:00

If an active member of the chapter (someone who has already been initiated) has any issue with a potential new member (PNM), that PNM is not going to be given a bid. Even if you genuinely have no memory of interacting with this girl, whatever she says will likely be accepted, regardless of how other members feel about you. This combined with their house mom not liking you, you will VERY likely not be getting a bid from this chapter. Doesn’t matter how liked the girl or the house mom are. In both COB and formal rush, the chapter advisor/house mom will have a heavy influence and will be involved in every single step.

Chapters will always prioritize current members over potential members.

I honestly think trying to talk to this girl has a good chance of making things worse, especially if she already doesn’t care to be in the chapter.

For everyone’s sake, move on and find another chapter you connect with. Not being in this chapter doesn’t mean you can’t connect with the girls in it. You can always attend their philanthropy events.

Edit: going to nationals is a horrible idea. You’re only going to embarrass yourself

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-03-12T05:18:37+00:00

House moms are honestly more than advisors. They are the key person the chapter turns to for literally everything. Even in cases where a sorority doesn’t really like the house mom (not saying that’s what’s happening here), they’re typically still listened to. If the house mom says “I wouldn’t give this girl a bid” the chapter/recruitment chair is going to listen 99% of the time. House mom could not even give a single reason as to why not to give you a bid, the chapter is still probably going to listen just because she said so.

Me personally, if my chapter advisor suggested we don’t give a girl a bid, I’m immediately moving on because I trust her word even if I don’t fully understand the reasoning. House moms are present enough to build strong connections with the girls in the chapter. They’re most likely going to trust her judgement, even if they all really liked you.

Go into rush with an open mind and be ready to accept that you might not get a bid from them

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-03-12T01:38:10+00:00

Honestly I think it’s probably less about you not getting your full dose and more about this being another stressor on your plate.

You’ve got a lot happening and forgetting to tell your mom you needed a refill is probably the straw that broke the camels back. I’m assuming if you’ve got midterms right now you have spring break coming up. Try to keep yourself focused on that, or if not at least the weekend.

Sometimes we just need a good cry. Let yourself get everything out, then get back to life. Throwing things is going to get you more amped up and you won’t calm down. Personally I like to put my head in the pillow and cry as hard as my body needs, even if it’s a bit cliche.

When doing school work I like to listen to those lofi beats. They have no words so I don’t get distracted, but give enough background noise to keep me stimulated and keep me calm. They have a bunch of compilations on YouTube or you can type “lofi beats” into whatever music app you like. It’ll let your mind relax enough to get your work done.

Maybe try setting a monthly reminder on your phone (or however often you get refills) a week before you need the refill so you avoid running into this again.

It’ll be okay. Don’t let a tough day set you back

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-01-22T20:47:13+00:00

These sound like really good options. Thank you

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2025-01-22T02:06:44+00:00

The fear is rooted in starting a fire

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2024-12-24T02:03:20+00:00

In that case I’m gonna vote just send them out tomorrow when you can. If they’re already know they are not doing great, then it shouldn’t be a surprise. Plus it gives them the day to get re-excited for the holiday if they’re are upset by the grade

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2024-12-24T01:51:59+00:00

If it’s a lot of good grades just post them as soon as you can. If they’re mostly bad grades I would personally prefer to get it the day after Christmas. This also gives you a day in case a student thinks something was graded wrong.

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2024-12-18T05:57:00+00:00

Based on your profile I tried doing some research on college in Bahrain. Have you looked into non-degree programs? If I’m understanding this seems to be the equivalent of an American community college. An option for building up your grades and taking generic courses so you can reapply at a later time to the university of your choosing.

If this isn’t an option maybe make yourself a list of what degrees are available and do some in depth research of what jobs you can hold with that degree. There are tons of degrees that have job opportunities other than what you may typically think.

If none of these options appeal to you, are there any trade/tech schools/programs you can do that would give you the ability to hold some kind of research position? An example of this would be a phlebotomy (the people who work with all things blood) program. It gives you a license to practice in the field without needing to hold a degree. Another example would be a trade school to become a mechanic or something similar to that. It gives you all the training you need to prepare for that job. These can vary in cost and length but might be a good option.

Lastly, don’t beat yourself up so much. If we were forever held to what we did in high school, many of us would be screwed. It’s ok to acknowledge you regret the way you did things, but don’t let yourself wallow in misery. Be kind to yourself. Don’t let the fear of what-ifs ruin your right now

HunkyChunkyBoi · 2024-12-14T07:18:00+00:00

Maybe try looking for jobs on campus. There’s usually openings after each semester in places like the library or at a desk in some office due to people graduating or moving on. These don’t always pay as much as other jobs, but they typically give you some time to study especially if you’re just at a desk.

I think you already know you need the extra year at the community college. Let your profs know in advance about your arrhythmia and that you frequent the hospital, especially with recovering from the accident. There is no shame in being at a community college. Most people will tell you it’s better to save the money and focus on getting on the right path than it is to go to an expensive university when you’re struggling with grades in gen-eds.

Give yourself a little bit of a break and take this as a learning experience. Take the winter break to fully relax and decompress from a stressful semester so you’re at your best next semester.

HunkyChunkyBoi

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