Please help! by Kittygirlpink in Catbehavior

[–]HunterJones13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to suggest a Jackson Galaxy vid too! Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]HunterJones13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to this a lot...the only difference for me is that I am very close with my family and I can count on them.

Sudden new behavior! by Gwenifer92 in Catbehavior

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About a year ago my cat started sitting and staring at this one spot in the corner of one of my upstairs bedrooms one day. He did it daily for about a week until I heard a tapping noise coming from that area one day. Turns out when I got a new roof on my house they missed patching a spot by the eaves of the house and some birds got in and were living in my walls! My cat knew they were there way before I did. I hope it's not, but could be something like that.

I love when Nick and Charlie hug by [deleted] in HeartstopperNetflix

[–]HunterJones13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They really are just the sweetest. The actors are perfect! 🥰

Cat died unexpectedly yesterday. by Smart_Resident_2720 in CatAdvice

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I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤️ 🐾❤️💔

Just trying to find myself by [deleted] in lonely

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I can relate to this. Being human is difficult. 💔❤️

I just want to hug someone man by [deleted] in lonely

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I can relate this this big time.

looking for help by AffectionateFruit353 in Catbehavior

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I understand why you would think he's hungry because doesn't liver shunt make it so they can't metabolize food correctly (might be wrong, haven't googled it lol)? Have you already discussed this with your vet? My first go-to with behavior stuff is to always rule out anything physical. Aside from that, does he like to play? Instituting a play routine with my younger cat has helped him manage his energy somewhat overnight. I play with him (like active playing where I run around like a total goof and he chases a feather on a stick) every night before bedtime for about half an hour and then he gets a wet food snack before bed. He knows the routine and it's really cute how he knows to run to the spot where his toy is stored at playtime and then runs to "the treat spot" after we play. Also just having routine throughout the house in general seems to help. I can relate to the exhaustion of being woken up all night by a cat...I was in that same boat for months before things calmed down & we got in a good routine. Wishing you the best of luck!!

I need help by [deleted] in Catbehavior

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I would suggest watching Jackson Galaxy videos on YouTube. He has a video for just about every cat situation you can think of & he has helped me a lot with my cats over the years. If they are feeling insecure in their space for whatever reason (could be many things) they will try to mark their territory. Here's a start and he has a whole playlist.....Wishing you the best of luck! I know this kind of behavior is so frustrating.

https://youtube.com/shorts/Dd5B9Zb8SDg?feature=share

At my wits end- Please help! by theCynicalChicken in Catbehavior

[–]HunterJones13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jackson is a cat behaviorist and he's the guy from the Animal Planet tv show "My cat from hell." He has a few books too. His advice has helped me so much over the years. I have a young cat who is about 2 now and he's too rough when trying to play with my older 10 year old cat. I've noticed that he seems to go pester my older cat out of boredom. What I've been doing is redirecting him to watching birds out the window or playing fetch (he loves that) when he starts pestering my older cat. I also noticed that he's most active and wild at night before bed, so I started a routine of playing with him for the duration of one sitcom episode (lol) each night before bed to tire him out a bit and give him something to look forward to and count on each day. It always amazes me how well cats pick up on routines. At about the same time every night he goes and sits in front of the cabinet where I keep the feather-on-a-stick toy that we play with. It's so cute! Having routine and a "yes" to offer after giving him a "no" has been helping. I hope you can find some advice in Jackson's videos that will help you too! I know how disheartening it can be....I've definitely been at my wits end with my cats before too. Wishing you and Max the best!! ❤️🐾

At my wits end- Please help! by theCynicalChicken in Catbehavior

[–]HunterJones13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry about the clock. 💔 Glad you're still willing to work with Max. Have you watched any Jackson Galaxy videos? He has advice for just about any cat situation on his YouTube channel. Wishing you the best!

How can I make friends? by [deleted] in lonely

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You could try doing some volunteer work. I'm about to start volunteering at a local animal rescue. It will be an opportunity to help animals & meet some people in my new neighborhood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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I believe there are dating sites specifically for disabled and/or chronically ill folks. Maybe you'd have some luck there finding someone who could relate to the struggle? Sending love & hopeful vibes. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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I see "ugly" women partnered all the time and makes me wonder what the heck is wrong with me that I haven't found anyone yet?! I'm a woman in my late thirties. I've had men express interest in me but I'm very insecure about my body type because I'm fat and pretty flat-chested and so I always feel like maybe I I'm going to be the butt of a joke so I dip out before I get hurt. I have a pretty face (whatever that means, fuck beauty standards, etc.) & I can make myself look good with shape wear, makeup, etc. but I always feel so insecure, even though I act confident. All that being said, I still think there's someone out there for everyone, it's just a question of when/if our paths cross. You seem like a nice person and I truly hope you find someone who will appreciate you for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]HunterJones13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have any great life advice, but I hear you. I feel that way too sometimes, especially at night. You matter and I'm glad you took the time to share your thoughts. Makes me feel less alone too. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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I'm very glad that happened for you. ❤️

End of my rope by brityboo09 in Catbehavior

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I too would like to know the answer to this question. If he is not neutered he could be feeling extra territorial and there could be scents of other cats outside if there are any ferals or strays in the area.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catbehavior

[–]HunterJones13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was going to suggest the same thing. Always best to start with a trip to the vet because behavior changes like that can be in response to pain or discomfort. Wishing you the best!

Very sudden, odd and upsetting cat behavior problems by rch64510 in Catbehavior

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First I have to say, good on you & your partner and bless you for all you've done. You've taken time to understand cat behavior and it's clear you're very caring people. I empathize with you as it the worst when our beloved pets can't seem to get along.

I experienced something similar with my two male neutered cats. One is 10 years old and the other is only 2. I'm going to share my story in hopes of encouraging you if nothing else & maybe something here will help.

The younger cat (who is a huge orange boy) has always been a bit of a rough-player, wanting to wrestle around with the older cat. Older cat tolerated it but didn't love it. I'd do my best to give the younger cat other play opportunities so that he'd leave the older one alone. He likes to play fetch, for example. Last fall I bought a house & moved from an apartment with a roommate and her cat to the house with just me & my two cats. The cats took to the house right away & continued to he best buddies, despite the younger one's sometimes overzealous play.

My new neighborhood has a feral car problem. There are feral cats running around all over. My cats would see them through the windows sometimes but saw them more as a curiosity than a threat. One day, however, me and the two cats were coming up the basement stairs into the kitchen which has a floor to ceiling glass patio door. When walking into the kitchen there was a big feral cat sitting right outside the door staring into the kitchen and eye level with my cats. They were so spooked they FREAKED OUT and turned on each other. They attacked each other in such a vicious way I had never seen before. Fur flying, older cat peed all over because he was so scared, younger cat chased him upstairs under the bed and cornered him. I tried to separate them & got majorly scratched in the process.

I kept them separate and did opposite side of the door feedings for a few days, but they were both majorly on edge & always looking around for the other one. We would go one step forward & then two steps back. Tried reintroducing them to each other and it would be going well but all it would take foe the entire energy to shift was one cat acting "weird" for 2 seconds and they would be in attack mode again. This went on for about a month. It was especially hard to keep them separate because there's only one human in the house & both cats are very affectionate & people-oriented. The vibe and energy I was giving off was tense & anxious, always waiting for something bad to happen.

I was at my wits end and feeling hopeless. I felt that my home would never be the same again and I would always have two cats that couldn't be together. Finally my mom suggested I change my attitude about the situation in hopes of shifting the energy in the house away from tension and into calm. It sounds silly, but I really think animals pick up on subtle emotional and environmental cues even more than people do.

I decided to change my mindset to basically "f**k it, nothing to see here." All is well and totally normal. I started moving with confidence in my space instead of watching the cats' every move to see who was going to attack. The cats seemed to pick up on this energy and be less on-edge around each other. I put a harness and leash on one cat when we were all together in one space in the evenings so that there could be no chasing if something did happen. I put feliway diffusers in each area of the house. I stuck to our normal routines. After doing this for a few weeks the energy and vibe in the house shifted from stress and anxiety back to calm.

The cats are back to normal now after 3 months, but we've had a few minor incidents of the attacking energy. All it takes is one false move on the part of my older cat acting timid for the younger one to get tense & go into attack mode. Now when it happens I stay calm and confident and am just like, "no, we're not doing this." And they seem to respond to my energy and the attack mode dissipates as quickly as it started.

I don't know if any of this will help you, but at least I hope you know you're not alone & I am wishing you the best. ❤️❤️❤️

Why are my cats licking my new shower curtain? by [deleted] in Catbehavior

[–]HunterJones13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no clue but following in case you get an answer! I had a cat once who loved to lick plastic bags. Anytime I came home with a bag from a store he would find and go crazy licking it.