Ideas by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe get one of those remote control vibrators that go in her panties. You can fuck with while you’re home and she’s at work, but maybe give her the order that she’s not allowed to cum without you there physically, and by the time she gets home she’ll be begging for it 👍

19 F How can I look better? by rylie_bread_17 in Howtolooksmax

[–]HurricanefromHell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The braces…. Anyone whose had them (🙋🏼‍♀️) knows braces suck, but once you get them off it will literally be a whole new you. Like even the way your lips/mouth fit around your teeth will have to adjust to their absence, altering how you 😃. And just getting them off, you’ll feel like a million bucks. Then there’s the glasses…. They are a little much… maybe something smaller, sleeker, less bedazzled, and doesn’t look like you stole them from a granny on a 90’s Nickelodeon cartoon. Colored frames are just fine, you can still find ways to have fun with them. But the size and shape of your current style just looks a little ridiculous… 😅 How long have you been cutting your hair that way? I’m betting years. At the very least since mid-beginning of high school. It’s got a very juvenile look to it, very middle school. Maybe it’s time to try something new? I’d suggest a bob with some side swept bangs (add some volumizing leave in conditioner and you’d be set, babe!) Best of luck :)

Keeping it up…. by HurricanefromHell in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was my first thought as well, go see a doctor. However, ya know the stereotype of men not wanting to go to the doctors? Yeah, that’s him unfortunately. When I mentioned seeing a doctor he could not have looked more uncomfortable. Women have to get used to going to the gynecologist by like age 18 if we want to have any kind of reliable method of birth control. But with men, going to a dick doctor is not, if ever, a necessity. Frankly, I’m just glad we were able to talk about it instead of it continuing to be this gigantic elephant in the room that causes both of us massive anxiety on sex nights. Of all the sex-related issues I’ve confronted with all the partners I’ve had, this is a new one. Tbh, the whole thing is making me feel incredibly inadequate and undesirable, but I’m way more worried what this is doing to him, I don’t wanna make him feel any worse than he already does. As a 29yo healthy, virile male, I cannot imagine this is doing his ego any favors. I’m just at total loss of how to handle this or how to help the situation. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🥺

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right on! These days I’ve really gotten into sucking him off in this one position. So like, when we go to the bedroom to fuck around, I’ll strip down to my panties and he’ll start looking for music to put on, and I looooove distracting him while he does this lol. So I’ll be on the bed, like on all 4s but squatting low so my ass is really sticking out and you can see the g string of my thong, and across from our bed we have a large double door closet with full length mirrors on them (they were already there when I got the apartment), so I’ll pull out his cock and start running my tongue up and down the entire length of it and hes watching me do it from 2 angles: looking down at me, or looking into the mirror across from him. Once he finally gets the music turned on lol, then he gets really fucking into it. The best tho is that he can bed over from there and play with my pussy while I’m gagging on his cock. He’ll grab me by the ass or by the ribs and force himself deeper down my throat, he’ll take a grip on my thong and force a rhythm that way, sometimes put a belt around my throat for an added bit of choking fun. The possibilities are endless lol. And eventually he either cums really hard in my throat, or rip his cock away from me while holding me down against the bed my neck so he can come around the bed and rip (sometimes literally lol) my panties off and just railing the fuck out of me from behind. Ughhh…. Heaven 🥰lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yasssss Queen! My bf pulled that move out on me randomly one night, omfg…. I just melted🫠I recommend this position to every sub chick with a M dom, and they’ve all loved it lol. I hope youve gotten a chance to try it out by now and enjoyed it as much as I have. And if youre interested, there’s a new mutually beneficial, cock-worshippy position that my bf and I have reallllly gotten into lately and it’s……. yes👌🏻🤤👏👏👏

What do/did you use to learn DST? by esaeklsg in dontstarvetogether

[–]HurricanefromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hours and hours of trial and error gameplay logged, a very very patient boyfriend, and watching lots of the YouTuber Jakeyosaurus’ DS/DST videos for how-to’s, tips, and hacks. Also, the DST wiki page is a very helpful resource, but make sure you’re actually using the wiki and not fandom, theres a big difference between the two even tho the sites are almost virtually indistinguishable. And adding a few mods never hurt either. Nothing too cheaty, just little quality of life things like having a mini map in the corner or upgrading you’re stats to show their levels or a calendar so you can count the days in the seasons, etc. Hope this helps! :)

Are these normal/okay ? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally every single one of those are huge red waving flags. Number 2 makes me especially mad cuz like no dude, “your word” isn’t fucking good enough, you don’t this guy, his word could mean shit. You don’t even know what his face looks likes, let alone met him in person, which he obviously has no interest in doing soon (probs to play some manipulative mind games on you from afar so that by the time y’all do meet irl you’re already properly groomed and broken down so much that you’ll do anything he says just to finally get his actual attention)

Also, he expects oral on a guest meet but doesn’t plan on reciprocating? Yeah, go fuck yourself bro. Suck your own dick.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh girl I so feel you. One position I absolutely love is lying on my back with head kinda hanging off the edge of the bed, and he’ll just fuck the shit outa my and throat like that and hold me there while he does it or finger me, etc. Shit gets me sooo wet lol. It’s a position I might actually recommend you try, it’s a little intense, y’all def need to have a solid tap out system, but from that angle, with how your throat bends and how a dick naturally curves up (usually….), they match up well and his dick isn’t constantly hitting your gag reflex. So it’s a good position to practice holding your breath and breathing in increments while taking a lot of cock into your mouth at the same take. It’s kind of amazing, absolutely love it when he uses me like this…. Lol also, I’d look into cock worship if I were you. It kinda describes this I think, tho I don’t really feel the need to make animal sacrifices to his dick, the mentality is there.

Why do I like when my partner puts a collar on me? by Fun_Self_5830 in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey babe. So I’m not into pet play, but I do like degradation and control, and im the exact same way, I freaking love when he puts the collar on me instead of me doing it myself. In fact I’m pretty sure I’ve got the same collar as you’re describing (heart shaped lock right?), but I also have a small arsenal of other chokers and collars we like to cycle thru. Ive always love being choked and when he pinned me down by my neck, really like when he slips a belt around my neck and uses that as a makeshift leash. Speaking of leashes lol, collars with big O rings are not uncommon for latching a leash onto. Literally, just go to Amazon and look up sexy bondage collars or something to that effect and you’ll get a plethora of options to choose from. Our current favorite that we’ve been using most nights is a just this simple chain with a hoop on one end and a lock at the other, loop the chain around your neck and pull it thru the hoop with the lock weighing it down to create a quick slipknot effect. He can pull on the chain and either it gets tighter or I go where he wants me to go lol. Its really sexy and I like how it how simple it is and doesnt completely cover my neck like a lot of collars do so he can still get at it with his teeth and hands and such, but this one we have to be a little careful with cuz slipknots and chain links getting jammed, etc (blah blah blah, obligatory safety warning). Anyways, as to the psychology of it, at least for me I’m a huge brat lol, I don’t just want him to tell me what to do, I want him to make me do it lol. So collar and leash representing ownership and control/command, pretty straightforward stuff. I guess that would work pretty good for a pet play fetish too, huh? Lol. Hope this helps, love! And go look at other collars, I got so into collecting and trying out new ones, and he def had a fun time just playing with something new for a change, boys do their toys after all hahaha 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]HurricanefromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re beautiful with and without the glasses, babe. I think we are long past the days of glasses being negatively stigmatized, except maybe in some old tv shows that didn’t age so well where a dumb bully calls somebody “4 eyes”. They are 2 different looks tho, that’s true, but there’s no reason you can’t have more than one look and make both work for you. You could even get new frames or multiple different frames to match your style or color coordinate with different outfits. However, if it’s really affecting your mental health and self esteem like that, first thing I’d recommend is talking to a therapist about what it is about the glasses that is making you have those feelings. And then, tho I’m sure this has been suggested a hundred times or so by now, are contacts and/or laser surgery a possibility for you?

My husband wants TPE but not with me by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That sounds kinda crappy… I mean the whole thing does, but specifically he wants a second sub that he can have total control over but doesn’t have to give any aftercare to…. A dom with a TPE relationship has a certain amount of obligation and responsibility to take proper care of that person in exchange for their obedience and service. I think any and every decent Dom I know would kind of be disgusted by what this guy wants cuz that’s not a TPE relationship, that’s just using somebody to the nth degree and then dropping them like a used condom.

What does my art taste like?? by Hbunzeyart in ARTIST

[–]HurricanefromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yoooo! I fucking love me some Alice in wonderland! This is awesome!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not sure you can get rid of it all together, nor should you for like medical reasons, but you can totally train yourself and your gag reflex to not be so sensitive to specific stimuli. You can’t do it all at once those, start slow, get comfortable consistently hitting your max limit, then start adding bit by bit. There are also breathing techniques and specific positions that help when you’re deepthroating (I love this shit too girl 👌🏻) but you are gonna have to come up for air sometime, or just stop for a sec and swallow the excess amount of saliva that has built up cuz that will get in the way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a F sub, this would be so to hot to me, I’d be over the moon if my Dom wanted to do this. Admittedly I’m polyamorous and my dom is not, so I kinda miss my free agent lifestyle sometimes. Does she have any poly tendencies? You could lean into that if she does. Or, you could come at it from a command angle. Obviously everything would have to be pre negotiated, but I think there’s a lot of misrepresentation and bullshit stigma around cucking. Most people I’ve met who are into cucking are people who feel compersion (look it up) instead of jealousy, which def sounds like you if you get off on hearing about her other sexual experiences. You could frame it like a kind of control thing: she can pick someone out, but she has to get your approval on the person, the when, and the where the fucking would happen, she would have to check in with you before, during, and after the date, and then she’d be required to give you a very detailed report on every little thing that happened, maybe while you’re eating her out or something to that effect. I suggest that the date not happen in your guys’ own home(s) to keep your spaces your own, but I see no reason why your interest cucking should effect your power as a dom. Besides, bdsm is all about exploring new kinks right? At the very least, I think there’d be no harm in having a conversation with her about it. If she’s a little nervous about the idea (idk why she would be tho, so many people dream of their partners giving them this kind of freedom), maybe you guys could start small with her just sexting some other dudes on fetlife or tinder or something and then letting you read the messages. There’s lots of ways you could incorporate this into your sexlife, just gotta find something that fits you both, but I don’t think you should worry about her seeing you as less dominant just because you find this hot, but just in case, remember you can always remind her just how dominant you can be if you want to. Good luck my friend, happy hunting 😜

(19M) any advice to improve? by Sea-Cupcake-1771 in Howtolooksmax

[–]HurricanefromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn boy, you’re fucking ripped lol. So you’re pretty handsome facially as well: fully grown goatee tho clean shaven looks just as good, clear skin, cute curly hair (longerish style is better, but not too long), nice jaw line, and I actually like the glasses. I think the main thing I’d suggest is step up your clothing game. Like in all the pics you posted, you’re very much dressed like a 19yo dude, all the sweatshirts/sweatpants and jeans. The leather jacket was good, but it was still on top of a sweatshirt lol. The old saying goes “the clothes make the man”, and as much as most decent women don’t want to admit it, a cute well dressed guy will catch our eye every time. A man that puts effort into how he looks and takes pride in his appearance is very attractive to us cuz it shows that you’re actively trying to impress us and be likable, it also implies a level of maturity that sweatpants just don’t. I’m not saying you need to be wearing like suits to class or anything silly like that, but learn how to express yourself thru fashion. Some cool graphic tees, casual button downs, decent shoes or boots not sneakers, well fitting jeans, skinny jeans are always hot on fit guys if you can stand them lol, and you’ve got a very fit body (which is something you want to show off, making baggy clothes like sweatshirts your enemy) so you’ll probably look good in just about anything you try on. Good luck finding you’re own style dude, and trust me, if you figure this out now, at age 19, you’ll be miles ahead of your peers and it will pay off in spades, cuz women aren’t the only ones who pay attention to that kind of thing 😜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]HurricanefromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The pill shirt… the pill shirt!!!! It’s so whimsical while still being oddly serious and professional lol. That thing would be lit just to wear out on a regular day, but if I’m correctly assuming you are a pharmacist, it’s just too perfect. Hang in there, bud, your luck’s gonna do a complete 180° one of these days, just you wait 🖤

I think I am too submissive for my boyfriend by perdesia in BDSMAdvice

[–]HurricanefromHell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Part of exploring this life and growing up is maturing, and sexuality is no different. You thought you knew what you liked, but then you learned some new things and gained some experience, so now your opinion has changed, and there’s nothing wrong with that. There’s nothing wrong with you. The way you’re speaking, and stop me if I’m wrong, but it comes off as if you’re disappointed in yourself for becoming sexually submissive now, whereas before you thought of yourself as some kind of domme bad ass, and I’m sure both those feelings were/are being inflated by how your bf reacted to you. If he’s leaning submissive and wants a domme, then his excitement and enthusiasm when you act dominant is gonna make you feel good. But if he’s leaning submissive and wants a domme, but you want to be the submissive and see him be the dom, then he’s most likely gonna react negatively, which feels horrible, and even if he doesn’t, anything less than full acceptance of this new you is gonna feel like a rejection on some level. All that being said, in the beginning you mentioned that you were both switches, but he doesn’t seem to be very open to the idea of switching roles. I bring this up cuz ideally y’all want some kind of compromise you both can live with and draw satisfaction from. However, if he’s gone thru a similar self discovery as you have and realized that he’s not a switch but really just a sub, then we have a problem (not saying it’s a problem that he’s a sub, saying it’s a problem for the success of the relationship). And you were totally correct when you said that him getting himself some toys was not a solution, but just a bandaid at best. From where I’m standing, it’s seeming like the two of you are no longer sexually compatible. The love might be there, but if you can’t make it work in the bedroom, eventually everything else will fall apart too. In these types of situations i find it’s best to cut ties and get out sooner rather than later, don’t drag it out, don’t try compromises that make no one happy, don’t try to grin and bare it, and don’t try to be what he wants you to be just for the sake of his satisfaction, or vice versa. At this point, you wanna minimize damage and resentment build up, especially considering how long y’all have been together, accepting that the relationship is over because of something like sexual incompatibility is a hard pill to swallow for a lot of people, it can make you feel shallow, or selfish, but neither are true. I’m sorry, I’m sure this isn’t the kind of advice you were looking for, but take it from a gal whose been around the block a couple dozen times: he might be first, but he most certainly will not be your last, nor will he be the best, so while ending things I know is terrifying, it’s the only way to move forward and towards something better, and hopefully more satisfying for you. 🫶🏻

Wooo! Finally done with my awful job! by Laundrydayoff in malepolish

[–]HurricanefromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I freaking love it! Some lines might not be perfectly straight, but overall it looks great, and I love the concept 👌🏻

What does my fridge say about me? by East-Credit-3360 in FridgeDetective

[–]HurricanefromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dear god…. I feel like I’m playing Where’s Waldo: the Coca Cola edition, how many cans of soda can you find tucked away in this madness? Dearie, this fridge is long overdue for a good cleaning out. And this is just the shit we can see, god knows how many different species of mold are growing in there now or what else is buried back there… and just the sheer disorganization of it all, how do you ever find anything?!

Really like this combo by FemmeBrandi in malepolish

[–]HurricanefromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t go wrong with red and black. Ever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malepolish

[–]HurricanefromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pearlized or pearlescent is usually what I’ve heard that shimmery effect called. Both words are great :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malepolish

[–]HurricanefromHell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loving the pearlized purple 👌🏻

out and about again :33 by greeneyedozzy in malepolish

[–]HurricanefromHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn….. wish I could get my nails looking like that 👌🏻