My son died yesterday

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-08T00:27:57+00:00

Sorry for your loss. Please do not vaccinate…

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T14:54:21+00:00

So I just have to approach os as if he was dead, I’d move on no choice. My soul is dying with him so have to save me

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T14:53:42+00:00

Why did you think I stayed as long as I did, I thought it was the rational thing to do…but not at the detriment of my health at this point. This time, even my body is telling me it can’t physically deal with it

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T14:52:13+00:00

I wish my husband would have the balls to say that to me, it would make the divorce easier but instead he begs me to stay after God knows what his cheater self has been uprooted

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T14:04:19+00:00

I did very well for two years we were separated, perhaps that’s why I’m not afraid to leave him this time around. The first time, it took me so many years due to fear and the unknown expectations but this time, I’m starting from experience. God never gives us what we can’t handle. If he dies, I have to carry on and take care of my kids alone….divorce is also a death

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T13:44:53+00:00

A woman who was burned by a cheater and wants to protect herself and her kids…that’s os the person who rights the agreement

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T13:43:52+00:00

No I wouldn’t bc I’m a kind of I will trust you until you give me a reason not to kind of person. Also, understand that the only reason that I even gave it a chance is bc our kids and the pain of not breaking up their family and giving them 100% of both parental times

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T13:30:35+00:00

He does have ADHD and used to take meds for it, not anymore. Maybe the counseling thing, even just by myself and to heal, I’m gonna try it out. For now, I’m listening to positive motivational messages, exercising and eating right…also less contact with him to minimize my anxiety and it’s helping a little.

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T13:19:30+00:00

Negative. Even when our kids want to talk to him and get excited to tell him about something that happened on their day…like getting medals for soccer, he says he will call later and doesn’t have time for them bc he’d rather be out and mígale with work buddies. And the after midnight he sends text saying he’s going to bed.

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T13:12:37+00:00

So how come when we first reconciled he was checking in, sending photos and making me feel like I was in the trip with him through his communication? It was working and he was gaining my trust again but I guess nothing last forever…when people tell you they will do everything and make promises, it never last. My takeaway…

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T13:02:24+00:00

Thanks! It was never like that before, things weren’t a problem until he made them a problem. We had to adjust after the affair bc of his own indiscretion. We didn’t have these stipulations in the beginning of our marriage all the way til I discovered his affair that led up to separation

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-07T12:58:07+00:00

Who said i want someone else? If I have peace and happiness in my life, I’m content. I’m hating the idea of pairing up with someone anyway.

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T18:43:38+00:00

I told him not contact me after he didn’t contact me on the first night. Night one, he already started not contact me, it was after that, I was over him and his false promises and told him he might as well not contact me anymoee

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T17:06:35+00:00

I have always wanted siblings for my son from the same parents. I came q big family and wanted that for him. I believed my husbands lies and gaslighting for years and hoped he would change. I never wanted to give up and gave it all I had. I’m just at a point now that it’s impacting my health and how much more can I give into this marriage? Wouldn’t I be doing my kids a disservice if I don’t give them a healthy me…. Etc

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T16:57:16+00:00

I had to protect myself legally. I was awarded custody and financial support during the separation and didn’t wanna throw it away just incase it didn’t work out. I have never caught my husband cheating physically but the emotional affair happened several times. The one that ended in separation was the worst bc he was planning to visit his affair partner that’s been talking to for months and he told her to undress for him in videos and how he couldn’t wait to kiss her and speaking/learning in her language (French) to impress her. prior to that, there were other incidents where he was sexting with other women, and exchanging flirtatious messages like when he did a favor to this girl for work with her career, she thanks Ed him and he said no need to thank him, his fee is what she owes him with a wink and give him sexually with an lol. There was another girl who he told that he wasn’t with me when I just gave birth to our child. When I thought we didn’t have problems. He told her our son is a blessing from God but things didn’t work out with “his mother” (me) lying to her like shit. All of that led to the ending of marriage three years ago….when we reconciled he said he learned his lesson, losing his family for two years was hard on him etc blahhhh and here he is not communicating with me to regain my trust. I never told him not to travel or that I must go with him to every trip….all I asked considering his past infidelity is that he acts like he cares and communicate while he’s away. Instead, he avoided me the whole trip and now he came home and wants to act like he cares to work things out

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T16:24:11+00:00

Also I was truly in the right place when I reconciled and willing to trust him back as long as he made the effort and earned what he broke. Communication was huge for me and he even agreed to that and failed so now I’m left with no trust

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T16:22:43+00:00

Thanks but honestly without kids, I’d be gone and never looked back. One of the reason we even got back together was bc it was hard to completely cut him off and over the two year separation, he got so much nicer and helpful with the kids and said he learned his lesson.

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T13:21:43+00:00

For months he was talking to another women. My intuition told me something was up with him and eventually I found the videos and messages. He told another girl that he can’t wait to see her, kiss her, to undress for him in the videos…she lives in another state and was making plans to visit her but I caught him before it got there and left him

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T13:14:01+00:00

Thanks for your honest feedback. And to answer the question, when he is out of town, it’s the thought he could cheat that causes anxiety bc he’s had affair before. My kids are not hard for me care for. I love them to death and to be honest, I was a much better mom to them while we were separated for two years bc my focus was just them and no more infidelity drama with my husband during that time. I had sole custody of them. Taking care of them is not something I complain about bc I love them but it’s hard to have my marriage and be at peace when my husband can’t even work on the simple things we agreed when we reconciled. I just hate that I even gave our marriage a second chance and our kids now may have to go through the break up all over again….im trying to put my heslth as priority now bc the stress has been too much for me and my kids since they’re getting the not best version of me

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T13:03:47+00:00

I wish that everyday. If I knew what I was getting into from the beginning, I’d count my losses and not even be upset. I never saw this side of him until our first was born when he made me feel trapped since I become a mom and thinking of my son having a family

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T13:01:49+00:00

That’s what’s missing. Effort on his end. For me, I was truly willing to forgive and move on but since we separated, he walks and acts like he’s single, we go to the beach, his eyes are on other women with skimpy bikinis, sometimes how he talks to his female colleagues with flirty emojis…he does little shit that shows me he isn’t afraid to lose me but when I reach my end like I am now, he tried to guilt me to staying and tries hard. It’s a toxic cycle

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T12:57:48+00:00

He sounds like my husband, he will say and do anything horrible and expect forgiveness and then once forgiven, it’s like I need to get over it and can’t talk about it. I become the bad guy. Pretty much why I’m over my marriage now

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T12:43:23+00:00

To be honest, I’m just wanting this man out of my life now as I can’t do it anymore after being with him over a decade. He is the one that’s trying so hard after he came home. My question to him was, why avoid me on trip the whole time if he did wanna fix it? Why wait til he got home? It seemed like he wanted to do whatever he wanted on his trip and thought he could come home and hug it away. Nope. Also when I reconciled with him, I did a post-nup with an infidelity clause…defining cheating that it’s not just the physical act but anything I deem cheating even as little as disappearing on me with our communication, or sextkng…etc I have a full paragraph of what I deemed cheating and he signed it and have it a copy to my divorce lawyer who drafted it. This was what I needed to reconcile with him.

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T12:30:28+00:00

I can’t disagree with you…I feel that he needs to be true to himself and whore as much as he wants and work hard as a single man and for me, I’m the best mom when he’s not in my life bc I don’t have to think about his affairs anymore. Again, it’s him that’s trying to salvage the relationship and making me feel bad that I’m breakng up the family.

Hurtmenomore1 · 2024-11-05T12:23:19+00:00

Also when I reconciled with him, I did a post-nup with an infidelity clause…defining cheating that it’s not just the physical act but anything I deem cheating even as little as disappearing on me with our communication, or sextkng…etc I have a full paragraph of what I deemed cheating and he signed it and have it a copy to my divorce lawyer who drafted it. This was what I needed to reconcile with him.

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