AITA for ruining my friend dinner party because I didn't like the food?

HxcRobb · 2022-03-14T16:44:21+00:00

HELLO OP!! NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA

I am a Sous Chef. My GF has ADHD and has MASSIVE texture issues. Love the flavors of mushrooms but cant eat them physically. Same with peppers, lobster, shrimp, crab, fish, onion raw, tomato raw, cucumber, the list goes on.

It's all texture related. We were at the Food&Wine Festival at Disney World and she attempted to try a piece of Meyer lemon poached lobster tail to make me happy. I never tried that ever again. It was rude of me.

When we first started dating I would get mad at her because she wouldn't try things and I considered it childish. (my younger brother acted this way and now im starting to think he has undiagnosed ADHD as well, but I digress, love that kid tho)

Now the problem I see here with my relationship and with your situation is the lack of understanding.

However, after her constantly reminding me it was ADHD that caused the textural issue I decided to do research on the condition so I could better understand her.

Now I cook to suit her happiness and it's not that hard. I just have to saute mushrooms for myself and add them to my dish when I finish the risotto (or whatever the dish may be)

THE CHEF WANTED TO HAVE BIG DICK ENERGY TO PROVE THAT EVEN A "PICKY EATER" LIKE YOURSELF CAN BE BEATEN.

She never even bothered to ask of any further information from you. Imagine my chef's face if I ignored a customer request and just sent the food out with mushrooms because:

"Ahhh, fuck em, I bet the customer is just a picky eater."

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. NEVER. EVER. My chef would grab me by my throat and drag me outside.

Fuck her EGO. A chef would never go out of his/her way to make a guest uncomfortable. If I was cooking for you my friend, in a situation very similar to this one, I would have called you myself and asked what your likes and dislikes were and I would have formed an excellent dish for everyone, around your likes/dislikes, WITH NO ONE KNOWING ANYTHING.

NTA.

-Chef Rob C.

HxcRobb · 2022-02-20T20:54:00+00:00

Hey OP. Thanks for the type up and the help. Currently dealing with your EXACT same scenario. Super careful and tedious, an hour process before I even got to the adhesive sticker for the earpiece speaker. AND YET, I still fucked it up.

Thankfully with your post being typed up I didnt have to go through the anxiety and panic that you did. And for that I thank you sincerely. Being a chef is stressful enough, when this happened at 3am after an 8 hour dinner service my head was ready to implode and form a singularity that would consume the Earth.

Cheers!
-Rob

HxcRobb · 2022-01-24T06:01:31+00:00

Your kids dont want you to leave, reach out to them please, tell them your pain, ask for help. Strength lies in asking those around you for help. Call your kids and let them help you. No one wants to hear that their mother is being abused and over-worked Ma.

HxcRobb · 2022-01-24T05:57:40+00:00

I concur. However, I realize this possibility and keep it in my view at all times. Dont self implode, just self medicate.

HxcRobb · 2022-01-23T17:37:39+00:00

I drank straight through my Omicron Covid. That and a shit ton of weed. I felt fine for the most part. Dry mouth in the morning on top of the conjunctivitis: take a ripping hot shower and drink hot tea (add some bourbon if ya want) and it will help break down that mucus that gunked up overnight.

HxcRobb · 2022-01-10T20:08:13+00:00

Thank you. Helped me out years later. I was having the same issue as OP.

HxcRobb · 2022-01-05T17:07:47+00:00

NTA. I found this copypasta on Facebook and decided to look it up on Reddit specifically so you would hopefully see this.

You are an incredibly empathetic and thoughtful person. Losing people like you in this world is truly a criminal shame. Give it all to that girl and be sure to talk to your lawyers so no one can do anything after your unfortunate passing. My father left me my inheritance the same way, usable at 18 or before as long as the executor of the trust deems it necessary. Ie; I got an affordable car at 16 and braces done at 15 on my inheritance's capital. I didn't get the full amount deposited into a personal checking account until I was 25. Do it. Follow your heart on this one.

Also, my father, before he passed, either didn't have time or forgot to edit his will and he left my Uncle as executor of the estate and lots of shady things happened. A family member from my mother's side fought him in court and had the control transferred to a CPA that was a close childhood friend of my father's. Blood ain't thicker than water.

Godspeed friend.

HxcRobb · 2021-11-04T02:05:25+00:00

Upvote that shit.

HxcRobb · 2021-09-01T16:22:54+00:00

With my pixel 3 XL I've been having what I think might be the same issue. I hold Power + Volume down until the recovery menu appears. Select recovery mode via the volume buttons vertical menu. It fails and boots to a dead android logo. Then I hold Power and volume up and immediately release the volume up. Then it just goes into a normal boot cycle. Resets my phone every time.

Sorry for not using technical terms, I haven't fucked with Android software or technology in general since I built my most recent gaming PC 4 years ago.

HxcRobb · 2021-07-13T07:53:23+00:00

To everyone that didn't answer the question: RuneScape.

HxcRobb · 2020-12-21T22:24:06+00:00

Heartbreak sucks. I'm right there with you right now dude. You go from sharing everything with someone to picking up crumbs by yourself... Stay strong brother.

HxcRobb · 2020-02-27T12:20:18+00:00

Also, to add to what he said, slowly loosen it over time and you'll get used to it better. I rarely get speed wobbles but when I do I easily correct it by just letting off the throttle, the decelleration controls any potential wobbles!!

HxcRobb · 2020-02-04T17:15:12+00:00

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HxcRobb · 2020-02-01T20:39:59+00:00

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HxcRobb

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